Have you considered living-in before marriage?

Philippines
September 21, 2009 7:41am CST
I have been married for almost 8 years now and have never lived-in. Even before I got married, I had a strong conviction that I will never live-in with a man without the sactity of marriage. . . I don't judge or abhor those who believe or are living in because that's their decision. In fact, I am proud of them for taking that bold step in their life. We have our beliefs and we have to respect it.
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11 responses
21 Sep 09
I think if you are serious about wanting to marry someone you should always live with them for a while before getting married as too many marriages fail because the couple had not lived together until they were married. It should be the step before getting married. I would live with my partner before we got married to make sure our relationship had what it takes for us to be a happily married couple.
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
There are many who have lived-in before they got maried and found their differences and eventually separated. In this way, the cost of separation wouldn't take much cost unlike if the couple are married because they will be spending much for the annulment of their marriage.
21 Sep 09
Of course there have but It's a far better way than just getting married to someone and then moving in with them. A lot of people who split up from the wife or husband have said afterwards that they wish they had lived with their partner for longer before they got married. I feel it's a tester of whether you really love and want to be with them.
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Well, there was a time in my life where I was not as Religiously based in life as I am now, and do have Ex boyfriends in whom I lived with. I didn't think about it being wrong like I would today. My husband and I married only after 7 1/2 months of knowing each other, and have been married for 10 1/2 yrs, and never lived together until Marriage. Personally I guess for me I would never judge anyone, but I think people who live together and never Marry as in man and wife are really cheating themselves out of a lot of things, and wish more people could go back to the sanctity of Marriage for sure.
• Philippines
19 Oct 09
Thee is nothing wrong with living-in before marriage for as long as the couple do it voluntarily. As I have mentioned in my other comments, living-in before marriage is a mutual decision of the couple. But still, we still wish for many people to be married.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I really respect you for your conviction. I, however, have had a live in. I guess my reason would be best described as fear to be honest with you. I wanted to know what I was getting in to. I don't think it's anything to be proud of per say but it's what I felt like was right for me at the time. Wish me luck in the future.
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hello my fiend. Well, I always wanted to be married and even now I still want to be married. I don't entertain the idea of being separated in the future. I hope you and your partner will be together always and will be happy always. Good luck.
@much2say (40138)
• United States
21 Sep 09
I was with my guy since I was 18. We had our careers going and we saved as much money as we could living at our parents. We finally decided to move in together in our early 30's. We knew we would always be together - so it was as if we were married all along. And then a couple years later we actually did get married! We always had the opinion that couples should live together before they get married . . . just so they can see if they are fit for each other. We know so many couples who find "surprises" once they do move in together - they find they can't stand each other's habits - or can't communicate well on an everyday basis - or just can't get along. It may be better to find out these things before making a commitment - so they know what they are actually making a commitment to! Kudos to those who get married and then move in together and live happily ever after!
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hello much2say. I am very happy for you. I'm sure you are doing well with your career and family. Always stay happy and the rest will follow. Have a nice day. Enjoy mylotting too.
@Zaneclan (68)
• India
21 Sep 09
I have a girl friend but am not living-in with her. I think this would be because we are living in our home cities with our respective parents. If we do get an oppurtunity to live-in in case we both go to a different city probably for a job purpose then we might consider living in, as my GF would not want to stay alone ofcourse in an unknown city. But we are not against live-in relations or for it. I think it varies from people to people.
• Philippines
21 Sep 09
Hello Zaneclan. The decision to live-in is a mutual decision of the couple. If living in together will give the couple great benefits, then that would be alright. Have a nice day and enjoy mylotting.
@rdsantos (320)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
im on a live in relationship right now. it's just so happen that my gf got pregnant, so instead of leaving her i accepted the consequences but because i had to but because i love her and we know i will just come to that part anyway. also i respect her and i do believe that you should be responsible for every thing that you do.
@bunnybon7 (37399)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Oct 09
well good for you. i sure hope its worked out for you. many people believe it will let them know if they are compatible with the other person. but it doesnt always work either way. i didnt "live-in" with my first hubby and it was a big mistake. next 3 i did live-in and still mistakes, so it doesnt matter
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
7 Oct 09
I have been married 40 years and my husband and I did not live together before we were married. He lived with his parents and I lived with mine. It wasn't as accepted back in the late 1960's as it is now. It just wasn't the right lifestyle for either of us before we married. However, our kids did live with their spouses prior to marriage. I didn't like it at first but they were all adults and eventually married their live in partners.
@sacmom (14315)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Hi doris. Yes, actually I did move in with my boyfriend before we got married. I moved in with him about a year and a half after we met and we got married about a year and a half after that. We've been together for the past 17 years now and have been married 14 of those years. So, even though some people may be against it, it sometimes works out like it did for my husband and myself. Happy mylotting!
@breezie (1247)
• Canada
23 Sep 09
I am not married, but have been living happily with my current boyfriend for 10 years. I honestly do not think that we will ever get married and that is fine with me. To me being legally married is just not important. I think that more and more people are choosing to live together either before getting married or even instead of getting married. To me it is a good idea because you never really know what someone is like until you have lived with them long term. That is how you really get to know someone. I had previously lived with a boyfriend for a year. We were engaged, but after living with him for a year I realized that he was not the guy for me. Of course not everyone agrees with living together and I respect that as well.
@med889 (5958)
22 Sep 09
I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than three years and I have been staying with him for only some 5 times on and off as I have too see if my parents are not in town so I find it a wonderful experience and surely we get to know much more about the person too, I did not know that he snores at night and when I came to know that only when I stayed with him so there are some advantages in staying with your partner before marriage.