Do you consider yourself a good friend?

@ayebelle (368)
Philippines
October 2, 2009 9:09am CST
even though people change and develop continually, friendship must be nurtured by both friends in order to last. If two people want to get together, they must deliberately create time for each other even through the distractions. If their scheds are packed they will need to arrange times in advance to see each others so that they can enjoy the activities they once did. For friendship to last, both people have to reach out. To have a good friend, you must be a good friend. So do you consider yourself a good friend?
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@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
I consider myself a good friend although I'm not the best at keeping in touch. However, I do periodically contact my close friends (we're all scattered around the globe) and we try to get together when we can. I know what you mean about the efforts to stay in touch needing to be mutual. I've "dropped" some college friends because they didn't seem to be that interested in maintaining contact. Btw, I believe I'm a good friend, but I'm not really a very friendly person. I'm slow to warm up and it takes me a while to make friends if thrown in a new setup.
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2 Oct 09
Well, I can never decide whether I'm a good friend or not. It must be my friend who has to decide whether I'm a good friend or not. But I really keep my friendship with all my friends and really hate if it ends. I try my best to keep it. I must admit that it is very hard to forgive those who make a mistake upon us, even if it is our own friend. But I really appreciate my friend and I just want to respect them whatever the condition is. =)
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@home415 (118)
• United States
2 Oct 09
Ya I am a good friend. I may take scarafices, but I do hang out with my friend. We go do fun stuff. We check on each other once in a while. We play some football with the other guys. I may do a few things with him. Though i don't mind what he wants to do.
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• Indonesia
2 Oct 09
Yeah, i think i am a good friend. I always try my best to help my friends. I always think that everybody (all my friends) are my best friends. So i always be in there when somebody in need. Best friend is friend in need. So i always try to be a good friend
@ayebelle (368)
• Philippines
2 Oct 09
Ye we all try to be a good friend, but there are sometimes that our friends think tha we are bad. And i don't like it, when it happens to me i just think that they still dont know me or maybe they are not really fit to me as my friends. I also agree when you said you treat all your friends as your best friends. I also do the same, i want equally treatment for them.
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
28 Jan 10
Yes i am a good friend to everyone but there are times my fiends do not even send me emails when i send loads of emails to them.When i ask them about it they say they have no time.I have a friend from my office he calls me once a while and then we plan a night out at the restaurant.We speak a lot while enjoying the delicious food.I am good to others, the only place where friends can meet is in functions or college social gatherings.
@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
7 Oct 09
Hi there! I buy your arguments that friendship gets nurtured only, when things are happening from both the ends. It is said that - "It requires two hands to clap". Therefore, if one of the friends keep playing his/her role and another one remains silent, things cannot work out. I always ensure that I play my role to the best of my ability and I should not give any chance to my friends to complaint. Though, I know it very well that I'm not 'perfect', there is always scope for some errors and ommissions. I can consider myself a good friend because I am caring, loving and helpful to my friends. dpk PS - Congratulations on your maiden century of scoring 100 posts.
• Italy
7 Oct 09
Well we cant answer this very well only our friends can tell what we are but what i think is i am a good friend coz my friends around me are always happy with me and i am ready for their at any time and at any cost. They always appreciate my love and dedication for friendship. As you have already said in order to have good friends you need to be a good friend also.
• China
5 Oct 09
I don't know, it should judge by my friend, but i hope i am a good one for them. i really try my best to make them happy and easy... i love them.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I am consider myself a good friend. I always wanted to find someone that is really real friend even in here but not yet found one because all people here is busy looking at the discussion and busy to earn an extra income. But I always hope that I found real friend here. Even do busy in making discussion and do a huge of response and comments it will preserve the way for friendship..like exchanging message and or participating into the discussion...How about you, my friend. Did you count yourself like that?
@ryzach (1546)
• United States
3 Oct 09
Yes I do consider myself a good friend. I don't have a lot of friends but the 3 that I have are very close and we are there for each other. I have one very best friend of over 30 years and the other 2 have been friends over 20 years. If any of them ever need anything I will be there and I know that they would be there for me as well. We have always stuck together.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
I acan say that I'm a good friend. If I have free time, I make sure that I invite my friends and have fun together. Whenever my friends have problems, I try to help them the best I can and be there for them. Lastly, as a good friend, I don't talk against them behind their back. It's better to be honest to them with everything. That's what a good friend does.
@biman_s (1061)
• India
3 Oct 09
Let me, I have been with my friend when he needed the most, I have been with him during his happy moments, had a few fights but we through, so yeah! I consider myself to a good friend. My friend's name is Biswajit Mondal, I first met him 8 years ago when we were in school. Now we are in collage, last year. Its good to be a friend of someone, it makes you feel like your are not alone.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
3 Oct 09
I think that I am a difficult friend. I give my last breath to make people happy. I do what I say. I NEVER make plans or tell someone Im going to do something unless I plan on doing it. I dont have many friends. I seem to get the friends that make promises or need to live thru someone. I just want someone I can talk to. We can shop together. Walk our dogs. Anything. If I need someone or something they are there for me and vice versa. Yes, I do consider myself a good friend but I do think that I may be difficult as well.I have been dissed so many times. Left holding the bag.I make it very clear what I want in a friend.dl
• China
3 Oct 09
I agree with your opinion ,ayebelle, To have a good friend ,you must be a good friend. many times we shold look at ourself,if your friend make a mistake,please forgive him,remember, he/she is your friend,not your enemy.we shold have a generous heart,only in this way,the world would be more harmonious. so I think ayebelle's setence is very very right ,haha, how do you think ,my lotter?
@Jhaszy (236)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
for so many reason i do consider myself as a very good sincere,loyal friend to my bestfriends...have a nice weekend!!!
@gohigh00 (65)
• China
3 Oct 09
I think now I am a good friend now.But before, I am not. Before I went to the university, I paid almost all my attention to my study. I think I am too concentrated on my study to develop some good friends.But it not means I have no good friends in my high school. I really develop some good friends in my high school. For the girl always asked me for help when she countered an diffculty on study. Afer I went to the university, I feel I should care my friends more. Then I will spend more time with friends and listening to them when they are down and encourage them. Just keep in touch with friends when we are far way to keep us close. Also providing some idea for them when they are in difficulty. Then I find to be a goodfriend first, thn you will recieve a goodfriend back. Now I am really enjoy the goodfriendship between us.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
i consider myself a good friend. but sometimes being good isnt everything. sometimes you have to be bad to be good. i think its a saying. be cruel to be kind. ive lost friends because of this. but i dont blame them or myself. i just told myself, if they cant realize that then theyre no good a friend for me.
@johnryanr (311)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
For me i am confident enough that i am a good friend. I can give many favors when I have a friend and help him whenever she has a problem. And also care for her.
@ample03 (403)
• India
3 Oct 09
It is very hard to get a good friend and also being a good friend is not so easy. But I think I am a good friend. I think I am loyal to my friends, I have a sense of humor and I am a good listener too. I always try to support them when they are in trouble. I also talk to them about my interests and willing to listen to their opinions and value their secrets. I do not accept everything what they say, but I always respect their point of views.
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 09
hi ayebelle since I owe my best friend so much emotionally'and financially I will always be there for her no matter what as I find it hard to begin to pay her back for all she has done for me. she still calls me every week even though we are now in two different cities and she comes to see me too occasionally and so i would do anything for her. I do consider myself a good friend as I would never ever let her down.we have been friends 'for years as we got together because our sons were also friends, and its been such a wonderful friendship as it goes on with us.