You know what they say about your first instincts?

October 8, 2009 11:17am CST
You should always trust them. Up until recently, I didn't think this was true, I thought that everyone and everything deserved a second chance. Turn out they don't. My thought are, there was a reason that you felt the way you did in the first place, and too ignore your instincts can be dangerous or just plain foolish. I'm not saying you should stick stubbornly to your instincts despite evidence to the contrary, but if you have no evidence, just be aware that you feel that way for a reason, even if you don't know what it is. Do you always trust your fist instincts? Do they let you down?
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
8 Oct 09
I always trust my instincts when i first meet someone. I might not say anything to them or anyone else at the time. But will keep my gaurd up. I have had those instincts and ignored them when it seemed like the person was half way decent. i than got burned badly. I have never let my guard down since.
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8 Oct 09
Has it worked out well?
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• Defiance, Ohio
8 Oct 09
I most certainly has...otherwise I would not follow my instincts when first meeting someone.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
8 Oct 09
Hi 3cardmonte, I have often told myself the same thing about my instincts though I still never usually trust my first one, even when it is right! I tend to worry that if I actually went along with what they said, then I would write things which I shouldn't off and miss out on getting to know people, or maybe miss out on something because I felt the situation was wrong. Nothing really negative has happened to date because I ignored my first instincts, though listening has led me into situations I find uncomfortable, but which will probably be worthwhile in the long run (hopefully). Most of my instincts do tend to be about people though, and because I am slightly paranoid in the way I perceive humanity - quite often seeing it in a negative light - I try and ignore the instincts until there is something to back them up at which point I will listen. But only ever after I have evidence . All the best, Dranz
8 Oct 09
Glad to know I'm not the only negative one!
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@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
12 Oct 09
Yes, I always trust my first instincts about someone. My instincts are right on the money about people. You are right it would be very foolish to ingore the first instincts you got about something or someone.
14 Oct 09
Yep, you are right.
@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
9 Oct 09
Hi 3cardmonte, I think the saying is 'your first instincts are always right' and I've generally always gone along with that. First impressions too. Even when people say they don't they actually do subconsciously. The person interviewing someone for a job generally makes up their mind in the first 30 seconds if the answer will be no.
14 Oct 09
wow! that's not long to make a first impression!
• Spain
9 Oct 09
Woman's instinct are almost often right - this is quite true for me. I have proven this a couple of times that my instinct are always right but I don't rely to it that much. I don't want to sound like I don't trust someone so I further investigate before confronting the issue. And when it is right, that's the time I realize that my instincts really serves me well. :)
14 Oct 09
Yeah, sometimes you do need to investigate!
• United States
9 Oct 09
I always listen to my first instinct when I am getting to know someone, but sadly, I quite often overrule myself and end up in a heap of trouble. It goes the same way with meeting people on the internet. It doesn't take long before you have a sense of what they are about. No matter what though, I always think that everyone is after something.
• United States
12 Oct 09
higher, higher.......
• United States
8 Oct 09
I have had this simple rule in my life for a while. I hadn't always followed it though...LOL I wish I had have, It is " Follow your first mind because the second one shall SURELY lead you wrong"
14 Oct 09
Good advice!
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
8 Oct 09
I give a lot of weight to what my instincts tell me, although I can't say that they are always right...because they aren't. Our minds interpret information that we don't necessarily have conscious thought about. Sights, smells, sounds, associations with past experience all come into play even if we aren't aware of it. Which frequently leads to a 'darned if you do, darned if you don't' situation. In those situations, I usually listen to instinct.
8 Oct 09
I seem to be surrounded by those situations at the moment!
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@irene3184 (900)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
I always believe on my instinct because it's true. I never take my instincts against my will because it always true.