Life is so tough, I'm about ready to give up!

@ocnprl (10)
United States
October 9, 2009 3:55pm CST
Has anyone ever had so much negative crap to deal with they don't think there's ever going to be an end in sight? I'm at that point. I even try to look at people suffering worse than myself and it makes me feel a little bit better, but after a while, I just lose hope again. Does anyone have any STRONG words of advise? Please let me know.
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• United States
10 Oct 09
Whenever I feel like that, I raise the white flag, and surrender my control over the things in my life that I cannot change, or do anything about. Then I bundle up all those things in give them to God to handle. He does a much better job at it then I do, and everything seems to turn out fine, when I relinquish the control.
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@anthony89 (154)
• United States
10 Oct 09
I have gone through the same things usually all at the same time too. It feels so overwhelming that I feel like fainting. You have to remember thought when life is so tough and you feel at your lowest point the only thing that can happen next is for something good to happen. That's how I see it and that is how it usually works out. I hate to see others suffer as well, we should try to help others. You should really tell me how you are suffering if you really want me to help you. I know life is hard and it feels like things will never change for the better, but you just have to stick it out. Find a good friend who will talk to you about anything and try to get away for a while. Life with struggles is what makes us see a brighter day.
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@ptty55 (45)
• Canada
10 Oct 09
ocnprl, you are not alone with your feelings of hopelessness. We all have them from time to time. It gets really hard when the negative garbage just seems to hang around and stink up our lives. I try and stay focused in my good moments. If I keep dwelling on my situation, I will get so depressed I feel I can't function. It may sound trite, but there is a light at the end of the crap tunnel. My motto lately has been "If I am breathing, everything will be okay". Take a look at all the good things in your life. They may not out-weigh the negatives right now, but it is a start. Please don't lose hope.
@ocnprl (10)
• United States
10 Oct 09
Thanks for the encouragement and compassion. I hope things get better for you as well.
@ptty55 (45)
• Canada
10 Oct 09
It is a new day ocnprl, it can only get better from this point on!!!!
@vikkiz (519)
9 Oct 09
YES!!! and the only advice i can give you is stay strong!!! At 16 i fell pregnant i stayed on at work and juggled a baby and work at the same time, then at 22 I had to take custody of my 14 year old sister so that she wouldnt be put into care therefore im now working taking care of a 5 year old and a 16 year old!!! It is a nightmare and yes there are days that i think to myself ''will this get any better?'' But all being said and done the only way out would be to kill yourself and to me thats the cowards way out, JUST BE STRONG! strength is the key and one day it will get better even if it takes you a while?? what is it that your unhappy about?? what sort of situation are you in?? I can give you direction ( im good at that) but only if i have some facts thanks x
@ocnprl (10)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I'm sorry to hear that. You didn't see what I just posted about what happened to me because I was hesitant in giving it out but I did anyway. Hope things work out for you.
• China
12 Oct 09
Yesterday is history,tomorrow is a mistery ,but today is a gift.Don't think too much,overcome difficulties one by one is the truth.
• United States
10 Oct 09
God will not put you through something that you can't handle. If He brings you to it, He'll bring you through it. Just try to stay positive and think about all the negative things that you've been through as things that not just brought you down, but made you a much stronger, wiser person. Also remember things will not stay bad forever, you have to have worse times to have even better times. Life is one huge rollercoaster of ups and downs and sometimes people go through things you would never imagine happening to you. That just goes to show you that God knows how strong of a person you are and He knows you'll make it through it all. Stay strong, and God Bless!
@wigima5 (908)
• United States
10 Oct 09
Hey hold on there! I know what you're going through. Even if u feel like there's no hope and everything seems pointless, there is always a hope and joy in the world. So many people get killed or die from diseases, poverty, all these horrible wars, all these people that wanted to live but never got that chance. So it's a shame that you should take your own life when they would do anything for a life again. Life is a gift, and don't just throw it away. Last winter i felt so depressed, everything just seemed like one big loop, over and over, the cold, the darkness, the sense that nothing is of worth, and feeling alone. But the sun came up and it passed. Over time I began to see the happiness again and all the joy this world came to offer! I know that sounds like something u find on a bumper sticker, but im speaking the truth. I fell in love with different things like martial arts, ballroom dancing, singing, painting and drawing, just going outside and smelling the air and seeing the beautiful nature. I know it may seem hard, but just hold on, it will get better. =) Best of Luck xoxoWigima p.s. if u want to n u have no one else to talk to u can msg me and talk about what's bothering you. I'm open to talk. :)
• United States
10 Oct 09
Believe me ocn, I have been through the mill as far as hardships go. But I wont go into examples because its not healthy for you to look at others struggles to cope with your own. My advice? Well, what has always worked for me no matter what the situation is opening my mind up to whatever has happened and learning from it. If you fill your head up constantly with negative thoughts and dwell on the downside of things, you will burn yourself up from the inside out. Try to ask yourself if you could have done something different to try to avoid these events and promise yourself that you will use the experience to help you make better judgements in the future. Invariably, everyone is trying to make their lives better everyday. I dont think anyone in the world is completely satisfied with their life. So take everything in stride and learn what you can to be a stronger and wiser You. Hope this helped!
@snowy22315 (54248)
• United States
10 Oct 09
Life can be really difficult there is no doubt about that. I think you should feel comforted in the fact that we all go through difficult times. I think you need to be able to realize that bad times are not going to last forever. Good times and bad times neither of them last forever and life is cyclical.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
Welcome to the world f problematic people. Count me one. I do have many problems, I think we all are. The best thing to do is face it,eyes to eyes...face to face. We can't let problems defeat us. Because we are far more superior than problems...if we only try to find solutions. Cheer up!
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 09
ocnrpl hi if I can handle being in this place GoldCrest because we had no place to go, and having my son in a go v.paid apartment so he can live while he and three other guys seek jobs, then maybe you can face up to your problems too. I would much rather be back in the apartment we were evicted from and my son back in the job he lost, but we cannot have that anymore so we just take it day by day,one step at a time, until he gets a job and accumulates enough money for us to rent a two bdr. apartment again. this takes a lot of faith and hope. how about you working on that too?
@jugsjugs (13045)
10 Oct 09
I know what you are trying to say,all i can say is i once felt like you do and to be honest the way i got over that feeling is there is always someone who has got alot worse problems than me.You must look at it today is just as bad as yesterday,but tomorrow can only get better.
@offlimits (601)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
I don't exactly know what you're into right now but I'm sure that whatever it is, it just tells you that you are strong enough to conquer your problems. I strongly believe that God doesn't give people problems that they can't handle, and so it only proves that a person like you can actually handle certain situations in life. You must believe in yourself that you can pass these tests that God has especially given you, because in the end, you will have to find out that no one will solve these problems but you. What's good is that it can make you stronger as a person. So cheer up friend! Take care! :)
@daodaozi (36)
• China
10 Oct 09
em,I have a similar experiece with you.At that time ,my girl get away from me ,she didn't answer my phone,and I cann't send text messenge to her.It is a real tough time for me .I even think about some other thing,like...you know ,however ,today , I find myself,yeah,I learn,time can change everything.Winter comes,can spring be far behind?
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
A lot of people go thru that situation. I, too, went thru that. I had anxiety and panic attacks. But, it will pass. Just be strong and hold on. Don't ever give up. Talk to a lot of people. MAke yourself busy. Don't stay alone in your room.
• China
10 Oct 09
hi , ocnprl ,life road is toruous , I hope you can face it right , have you been suffered my experience ? three years ago , it is most difficult year of my life ,I am training hard every day ,I get up at 6 am to go running on time ,then I would also like to study ,17:00 I started training again ,then I would go to night self-study .so every day is the same thing ,I am very tired every day .I encourage myself ,I have to hold , life is really a struggle for me in that years.finally ,I did it . now I became stronger than before . so I think you should exercise your self-confidence . you must hold , therefore , you can be a real man .remenber , do not lose your hope ,you can have courage to overcome it ,if you did ,you will be stronger than before , trust me , my friend.
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
10 Oct 09
I'm sorry to hear about your bad mood. I don't know well your situation, but I can say that you shouldn't give up, because in our life time, in fact, we have more reasons to hope than to be disappointed. All what you do after losing a chance is waiting for another one, and be careful, because it doesn't always come with a big sound.
@today2009 (160)
• China
10 Oct 09
Sometimes I have negative emotions,even to their lives.Was the fate of injustice,social and darkness.But I think I am not myself a person alive,I have my family and friends,there would still be his wife and childern .Complained about the time when the fate of injustice ,a lot think about your relatives,if they see you so sad,they will be pleased to do ?Would like to open spots on the road or to look at that before.Happy every day!
• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
Someday,it feels like that. I had those days too. You feel the world is stacked against you. Believe in yourself. The sun will surely arise again for you! Smell the roses on the way home after work and you will feel better!
@leafsound (350)
• China
10 Oct 09
Life is so tough.I agree this words.Every day, we work hard,and we cannot let all wishes come true.But i love the full competition world,it let me better than others.It let me get beautiful girl.If the world will lose competition,that mean no more money,no beautiful girl,I think I am about ready to give up. Because of competition, I love my life and the world.