If your children don't like school what would you do?

I have this problem. All my children who are 7, 13 and 16 don't like to go to school. They've been begging me to home-school them but I fear they may not get the proper education that they'll get if they go to school. When I was younger, I like school. I don't know why children nowadays hate to go to school. I see them loitering around not going to school, playing hookey. Is it the school? Or are there so many things at home that are more enjoyable than going to school? I need help too.

hello zhouxi, i can say that i am lucky for my children like to finish their studies. i feel so sorry for those children who don't give importance of having an education. i have a friend of mine that is encountering such problem to their eldest son. he doesn't like to go to school anymore and he is in high school. he was influenced by his friends that's why. what she did is to convince her son to attend in a specioal class so he can be away from his old friends. good thing he was convinced. she kept in monitoring her son. i guess that is best thing that we can do as parents, not to give up for our children's future.

I have four kids and not one of them have had a good experience with school. The two oldest were the targets of bullies for many years, I think I have spent as much time at the school as the kids trying to sort out problems but the teachers never seem to be able to do anything, except take my kids out of the class. To my thinking my kids are the victims, the bullys should be removed from the class. My 3rd child was doing okay until 5th grade when the teacher was a total wimp. She would beg the children to be quiet and sit in their seats, not shout and bully. Within two months of taking over the class she lost control completely and the kids ruled. Very bad. My son refused school for about 3 months. My youngest started school this April (school runs April to March here). There are 3 teachers in her class and they can't control the kids, these are 6 and 7 year olds. One boy beats on the teacher regulary. He is totally out of control and my youngets is afraid of him!! We asked the headteacher to change our child to the other class but he has refused so I am now homeschooling her. School is not as important as education, I know for myself I have learnt more after school than I did at school.

I straight away push them to the verified vocational training for what thing they like much. Fostering them the importance of their future life and they look it seriously for what they wanted to be in the next twenty years. Discerning them about what is life success and what is life value. Especially, focus them to be an inventor in their future life.

Most of the time when a child doesn't like to go to school there is a reason. If it is a problem that causes a lot of concern for you and your child, there are other education solutions. You could transfer schools for one thing. Also there is on line and home schooling. Education is a vital part of a child's life and should be taken seriously. Communicate with your child to find the best solution to everyone's needs.

Perhaps you need to find out what does interest them and make a change for them. There are many alternatives to traditional education. Granted, some you have to pay for, but others you don't. Maybe finishing out home schooled, allowing to get the GED, finding an alternative program that suits them better. Remember, not all kids fit into our societies roles...

[b]"Baldness?" Surely you meant some other word? Anyway, if those parents were in America they wouldn't let their children attend government indoctrination centers (they call them schools, but they're not). They'd do their best to either put them into a good, private school, or home school them. Many children are rightfully bored in government schools, here. Where you are may have superior schools, but here, kids are "dumbed down" with politically correct nonsense, revised history, & then stripped of faith & values their parents want them to learn. It doesn't surprise us when we hear how far behind our students are behind other countries' students! The wonder is that they can function at all after they leave public school! In fact, many can't, really, & must spend time (& money) trying to upgrade their education in order to go to a decent college (there are fewer & fewer good colleges, too!) or just to get a job! I'd say if they don't want to go, there's some good reason. It's a parent's job to figure out what the reason is. Have they tried just asking them why they don't want to go? Maggiepie "OBAMA IS AN 'UNDOCUMENTED WORKER!'"[/b]

Why would some one like school? It's just a part of this life, you go to school and later you go to job. After that you sit in the chair and wait to go to the chest for your fuiral

I would tell them to suck it up. I mean, no one likes to go to school. Or should I say, very few people do. I hated school and my parents weren't strict about making me go. I skipped a couple times a week. I did all my work, got all good grades, but I hated going. I hated waking up, I hated being in class, I hated the rules and the dress codes... Finally once I hit 11th and 12th grade I really just pushed myself to go (most of the time... lol) just to get it over with. I had to go to court with the county I live in because I missed so much school - they wanted to take me out of my home because they thought my parents weren't doing a good job raising me. But I lied to them a lot, and skipped while they were at work. Anyway, I would have a hard time raising kids because I was such a terrible one myself. But, I would force my kids to go to school. They need to do it, get it over with, get all of their work done, etc. I mean, if there was a serious issue like bullying involved, or something to that extent, I would of course help them transfer schools and get in a better situation. But if it's just because they're lazy or don't like it, I wouuld tell them..Tough luck!

i'll better explain to my child how important education is so they must go to school, whether they would like it or not. i would let him choose a school where he finds his friends so that he would be able to like schooling then.

You need to explain how important that they go to school and must follow the rules of the school. They will make friends. When they are young most children do not like school because it is something different and they will soon adjust to going to school.

Hi Zhouxi, I am yet to send my son to school and I am always worry that he might not want to go school in the morning. What should I do? I intend to enroll my son to nursery next year January and I really hope everything will be fine. Of course, I will accompany him for the first few days and after that I will let him there alone,he need to learn to be independent. Don't always feel bad, kid need a time to adapt to new environment. For high school student, if they don't like to go school,it means they don't studying at all.As a parent, we can always explain to them why we need them to go to school,it is for their own future.If they wan to have a better prospect ,going to school is one of the way to make them success in future.

I think that young children's normal school of love naughty children, we are active and from that time,we can ask a few would love to learn from the living,can sit honesty? So I think the children to school don't try. Naturally, the hobby,can develop.

Children this age do not like going to school be quite normal!You have to properly communicate with him,I also have some time at this age do not want to go to school! Do not like the feeling of restraint!Or there is no interest in learing,we must gradully build up,asking him to let him konw that learing is a better life tomorrw!

Well, firstly I think we need to find out the reasons that the kids do not like school. Is it because of the educational system? the teachers? the schoolmates? Is it just boring to be in the school? Or is it the pressure from the parents? Then try to see how we can help them to solve the problems, and see if we can change the "hate things" to the "favoriate things" for them. But, we can't help them to quit the school, as this is the path they have to walk in their lives. I personally like to go to school since I was young, as I was happy spending time with my friends, and I did like my teachers too. Also, I like studying.

My little girl is just in level 1 or kindergarten and I have so far no problems in coercing her to go to school. She is always excited and when we arrive at home, she always has stories to tell us.I think she likes her school and learning is fun for her.

I think as a parent, the issue will not arise for me. Education is important.So my children have to go to school. If I am confronted by a child in high school who do not like to go to school, I will counsel him. If not I get a professional to do it. If all else fails, he can go and work and earn his keep.Sure, I will be disappointed but that is the way the cookie crumbles for him and for me!

Hi zhouxi, I think there are reasons for children not liking to go to school. May be they are around some bullies, or may be one of the teachers is too strict with them. At times it may be they are too attached to family members and it may take them time to adjust to an environment without those family members. Same is true about habits. If the child is accustomed to sleeping at an hour that is normally the school hour, then it is difficult to like to stay at school. In general dislike for school comes because of any of these conditions.

children are very soft and emotional in mind, i don't think that children are not like schooling without any reason. it better try to be very frankly ,friendly and ask your children very frequently, why he or she don't like schooling in this time. and show your love and care to them. you need to be good listener.also need to show respect to their opinion. i think you may find the reason, why he/she did not like schooling. after catch the exact reason , solve the problem and issue wisely, what about it. and you may explain to them, what the future without schooling and within schooling. i hope your child like to schooling with smiling and school and study will be joyful to him.

i think parents should make their children fully understand the consequences of not studying and the value of education. high school students should be made aware of what's happening to the society and i do think they'll be able to comprehend what the parent is talking about.