Do You Ever Meet a Friend in Facebook that reject your friend request?

Indonesia
October 29, 2009 7:20am CST
Well, my story is, i have a friend in high school. We actually was a very good friend. But we rarely communicate after high school. After about 7 years, now i see her again in facebook. I try to add her, but it seem she reject me. Then i add her again because i though she might delete my request accidentally but i think i wrong since she reject it again. I am kinda sad about this, but i decide not to add her again. I try to connect to a long lost friend but it seem she doesn't want to connect to me. Do you ever experience this kind of thing? Please share it with us, who was your friend, and what you do after she / he rejected your friend request. Thanks
14 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
ya, lord. i have same experience like you.i have a old friends in Senior High School. she is disappear since we are graduated from senior high school. when iam in jakarta, i know she lived in a city in Central Java.you know iam happy because iam her admire since senior high school. and i more happy when i know she is unmarried that time. and after i visited her city, i tell my feelings to her.she is shocked, didnt believe that iam brave to telling the truth.but she accepted. but she is never tell me the truth that she maybe never love me. she is talking with another guys when i think we are talking. and after go back from Palembang, she tell me that she want married with the guys. it hurt me but you know i forgive her and i never tell our past hstory to her husband. but she never want to be my friends anymore. i never to make her marriage is disturbed. but maybe she think i want to annoy her. i dont know.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
ya, you are right. many indonesian girl and i hope i can married with one of the beautiful girl. i think it`s same case my friends even you said that you and her is only friends, but offcourse you must upset why she reject your request. right?
• Indonesia
31 Oct 09
Yes, off course it is kinda upset to have known that your friend is not want to be your friend anymore, even if it only in the facebook. But well, life moving on whether i upset or not, so, i think i just get over it and moving on too. Thanks for responding this discussion.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Well in my case it was actually not love. We just a close friend, but there is nothing more. We talk a lot in high school, and hang out a few times, that's all. Is not i interesting in her in boy friend girl friend way, i just want to catch up and see what her doing now since it's been a long time since i heard from her. Anyway, thanks for sharing it with us. Well i hope you lucky next time, there are a lot of girl in Indonesia. So don't you worry of will not found some for yourself.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I have had this happen to me. I know this girl from work and we talk almost every day. Not very long but we do talk. I sent her a friend request a couple of different times and she has not responded. I still talk to this person when I see her at work and I want to ask her why she does not accept me as a friend on facebook but I dont. I am just happy that we can talk at work. If you want you should send your friend an email maybe and ask her why they dont add you as a friend on facebook.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
ya, dont force anybody if she/he never want to be our friends anymore. offcourse it related about our pride.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Well it is actually not about my pride. As for me, i also don't want a few person to be my facebook friendlist, it is not because i hate them or anything. I simply don't want them to see my status, wall and other because it might get me to trouble if they see it. I think she also has her reason, and forcing her to add me will make thing worse.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Well like you, i will not force other to add me if they don't want too. Especially a long lost friend. But if it is a close friend that i know until know, i surely will ask him / her why? But since we lost contact for more then 2 years, and that because only we talk a while in friendster. We never met about 7 years so i don't think i have the right to force her to be friend with me again.
• United States
30 Oct 09
Well I can't say that I've been on that end of facebook rejection. But I will honestly admit that I have rejected friends from the past such as high school buddies. And I do this not to be rude, but to prevent insincere adds and stalking tendencies. When I first got on Facebook, I had numerous people from the past wanting to add me as a friend. I accepted and then I realized that they wouldn't send a message or even a wall post to reconnect. So after realizing that people were most likely just curious about what's I have been up to, however, it doesn't sit well with me if you don't at least say what's up. To be honest, it gives me the creeps that people who formerly knew were doing that. In one form or another, it's a passive stalking. And girls are especially sensitive towards that kind of behavior. So does that maybe explain why your old friend add you? Maybe if you try again, add a little sincere note and maybe you'll get a response.
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• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
O i see, well thanks for sharing how girl feel with facebook. But still, i will stop bothering her at all. I don't want her to feel forced at all to add me to her facebook friendlist. Maybe she has her reason of doing so and i respect that. Thanks my friend.
• Boston, Massachusetts
30 Oct 09
I don't know if there's a case that i was rejected by a friend in facebook but to be honest i rejected one. I have a personal reason for doing so.
• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Oct 09
Yes we need to do it for some personal and security reasons. There were lots of invitations that i rejected because i really don't know them personally. I maybe this paranoid but i am just being careful.
• Indonesia
31 Oct 09
Yes, it is very good of act actually to be very careful at all times. I also actually have two facebook account, one is having less details data, this account i use for playing game and promoting blog. The other one is more private and i only have a few selected friend here. Thanks for responding this discussion.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
O i see, good for you then to have all your friend request accepted without even one request ever rejected. And well, yes, sometime we also need to reject other friend request because of a certain reason. I also has do this a few time. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
@Agoenxz (551)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
That's must be some story behind the song...hehehe well, me too! but she not only rejected me, she also banned me! So that i totaly lost her track in facebook. I'm wondering, what iVe done...hikz... Whatever..cheerz!!
• Indonesia
31 Oct 09
Yes, i still wonder too why was an ex good friend in high school start forgetting you and your friendship. Anyway we should get over it, there is no use getting upset, mad or anything else because it will do us nothing. At least that what i think. Thanks for responding this discussion.
• Indonesia
3 Nov 09
Thanks for complimenting my English, althoug i am not too sure if my English is good. Anyway, it is true that i am Indonesia, so your guess is correct. And it also a good thing that i met other indonesian people here. Anyway, thanks for sharing your though with us.
@Agoenxz (551)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 09
You are welcome my indonesian's friend, if im correct... By the way, your english is good! Thumbs up!
@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
Well, I haven't experienced anything like that. Although I haven't been in touch with some of my classmates from years ago, I don't think they have forgotten about me. Maybe she just thought you are someone else. Why don't you try to send her a message or something?
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• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Well, i actually talk with her using friendster about two years ago and it seem it all ok. I don't know what happened though. Well, i think i am not gonna contact her again since i don't want she feel force to add me as her friend. Well maybe she have her reason to do that.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
to lord : ya,it`s hard to believe but sometimes we find the friends that never want to be our friends anymore.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Yes, it is hard to believe. Well maybe, she has her own reason to do that. I will not feel bother about it. Anyway since it was a long time ago, she might even forget about me. Well, life go on then. Thanks for responding to this discussion my friend. Happy Mylotting.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I haven't had anybody to reject my friend request on facebook. Did you send her a message telling her who you were? Maybe she wasn't sure or didn't remember who you were. I went to high school with some people that look totally different now in there pictures on facebook and some I almost didn't know who they were but I remembered their names so I accepted their request.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Well i actually not send her a message but if she end up forgetting my face, then i don't think she really remember about me at all. Anyway, i think she also reject a lot of my friend, it seem she is only use facebook for a very close friend only. And it seem, i am not one of her close friend. Thank you for responding this discussion and share your experience with us.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
30 Oct 09
i actually rejected someone who wanted me to be his friend because he was so mean and nasty to me in highschool. why on earth would i want to be his "friend" on facebook? people are such hypocrites.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Well i don't think i was mean and nasty to her at high school. We actually a good friend back then. But well at least we are a good friend from my point of view, well maybe she has a different view about our friendship. Anyway, thanks for responding to this discussion.
• Philippines
29 Oct 09
It didn't hapen to me even once. Everytime I send friend request both in facebook and friendster all my request has been accepted. But if it happen to me I wont mind if they don't want to add me. It would fine at all nothing to lose.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Yes, there are a lot of people whose actually have the same experience with me. And yes, it is not a big deal when an old friend rejected your friend request in facebook. Maybe they simply forget about us, or maybe they have some stat that they now want us to see. Anyway, life move on. Thanks for responding to this discussion my friend.
• United States
29 Oct 09
I think there is a reason people grow apart. There fore if they do not wish to speak to you when you find them online oh well it is not meant to be. If it happens over and over again from different people I would back track and re think either the way you are now or where then. I have been rejected but I let it go because I would rather be told no then accepted just to be accepted. I am one of those people who is picky about who I talk to from my past. There have been several people I have ignored and or declined for reason such as I know they are or have been in jail, I didn't like them back then why should I bother now. Also If I do not remember them I will ask how I know them but if I still cannot remember I write a sorry note then decline them.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
O i see, well that is also possible. Maybe she simply want to cut the past. And since i never talk to her or contact her maybe she simply doesn't care anymore. Anyway, i think i will move on. There is no way i am gonna force her to add me as her friend in facebook. Thanks.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
30 Oct 09
It has never happened to me but I am not a big facebook fan. Although I have to confess that I have rejected some friend request mainly because they are not really my friends or I do not recognize their avatars. She probably did not connect you to the request. Maybe you should ask her about it.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Well if i ask her, then she will have no choice but to accept me. Because if she reject me when i already ask her, it just feel so harsh and i don't think she is that type of person. So i just let it be, i will not be feeling great if she add me simply because i force her into doing it. Anyway, thanks for your advice in this discussion my friend.
• India
29 Oct 09
Hi lordcaocao2025 If she is rejecting your friend request, then she is not interested in your friendship. Dont worry for this small things just leave it. It happens in one's life. Take it easy.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 09
Yes, it is small thing. Well i will move on sooner or later. Every one has their own reason to not add people to their facebook. Maybe she simply want to have a facebook for close friend only or any other reason. I will not force her to receive me as her friend in facebook. Thanks
@solared (1207)
• United States
30 Oct 09
You must have treated her bad in high school, or she is like most women when they get involved with someone they don't like to add to their circle of guy friends. I know tons from high school who won't add me, but oh well.
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Well i don't think i treat her bad at all in high school. But we only close at the first year and two, although we still talk in the senior year, but it is not much and it just actually say hi and a few sentence. Anyway, thanks for sharing your experience with us.
• Indonesia
6 May 10
Well thanks if my experience can be some kind of help for you.Yes i agree with you, things where people reject you as your friend is facebook is often happened. But there is no used to feel sorry about ourself if that kind of thing happened. Just move on, cos it is what best for you and your friend.
• United States
5 May 10
it didhappen to me once but after reading your comments its aaight
• Italy
29 Oct 09
Is that me? lol I reject friends request from two kinds of people. First colleagues, I don't add any coworker to my facebook because on FB my profile is sincere, it's not the fake person I am at work, and there are details I don't want them to see. I also reject friends request from anyone (friends included) I don't want to see my data, updates, pictures and details, this includes former school mates or people I didn't want to break out but I don't even wish to keep in touch. I think your friend doesn't want to show details of her profile, may it be?
• Indonesia
30 Oct 09
Well don't worry, it is not you. Yes maybe she also has the reason rejecting my facebook friend request. Maybe she has a data in her profile that she not want me to see, or she simply don't want me to know how she interact with most of her friend in facebook. Thanks.