Will You Detect the Secret of Your Friends?

keep secret - Every cupboard has its skeleton, even your best friend is no exception. In my eyes, everyone has the curiosity to pry into others, but we should try our best to control it and shouldn’t ask them if they don't want to tell me about it.
China
November 21, 2009 4:03am CST
Every cupboard has its skeleton, even your best friend is no exception. If you have discovered that your friend is trying to conceal something, will you respect his/her secret, or will you try to find it out? Are you just curious or do you want to play a dominating role? In my eyes, everyone has the curiosity to pry into others, but we should try our best to control it and shouldn’t ask them if they don't want to tell me about it. What is your opinion about that? Do you want to tell some stories about his/her secrets?
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25 responses
• Portugal
21 Nov 09
One thing I don't like about me is that if people don't tell me, I got and find it out by myself. I try to respect it as much as possible but I still find it by accident, or they tell me without me asking. I try to keep them in secret but I end up blackmailing them... Yes, I am bad friend...
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@ccet26 (92)
• India
21 Nov 09
yes whenever my friends feel upset i come to know their secret through their face expressions....
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Hi again! I try not to "tell" or gossip about friends. People have their reasons for their secrets, yes? And one friend should be able to trust another. Karen
@yugasini (12815)
• Anantapur, India
21 Nov 09
hi getbrowser, i always silent,i does not have curiosity in asking secrets of others ,if i know some thing about friends secrets,i wont tell them to others and not spreading other secrets,i have one close friend to me still at present,i am not asking what he is doing for all these years,he is also not telling any thing about that,have a nice day
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@leafsound (350)
• China
21 Nov 09
Every one has some secret, even if one is a little boy or girl. Every one has oneself's dignity. So we should not try to find out friends' secret. Please you think, if you have a secret, and you don't hope anyone to know it, others try to find out your secret, are you happy. So if you hope others respect you, don't inquire others' secret.
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@Lucky09 (1771)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hi getbrowser^^;; i wouldn't mind if my friends would want to keep their secrets. i don't like being involved in gossips anyway and i don't like questioning someone of their privacy as i hope they would do it for me too. some cannot really contain their curiosity and the more i don't talk, the more likely they would create their own version of my secrets...gggrrr! so if a friend would want something keep then i respect that. i don't have many why and what questions to ask anyway.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
Of course everybody has secrets. I must say that I am quite inquisitive. I easily get curious about some things. But in all the years having this kind of nature, one does pick up a few tricks and hints. If my curiosity is piqued and I might have a way of knowing it without giving disrespect then I will do my best to get it. I usually just ask the person outright and doggedly inquire about it that the person tires of me always asking that he/she will just tell me in the end. There are also those situations when I know that clearly something is up. I can gauge in the person's vibe if there is a way of knowing, then there are those times that clearly shows even how much I try to ask, I will never know the answer. In these cases, I just back off. I know my limits. As long as I dont cross anybody with my curiosity then Im still going through with it. Of course, being secretive myself comes with the territory of inquisitive. I can keep secrets. When those who openly told me their secrets and ask me not to tell, then I wont tell another soul. Its sort of the trade off for knowing the secret. I can take that 'cause I also value my privacy.
@loneraver (331)
21 Nov 09
I think that we should leave people to their secrets as some might have th ings that they have done in the past that they are not proud of and would rather put it behind them and would find it easier than explaining it to others. When i meet new people im usually more interested in who they are now rather than where they have come from. I think people can dwell on the past too much in this life which makes it hard for them and others to move forward as lets face it if we've screwed up but want to put it right why should people moan about who you used to be? Happy days
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@thea09 (18324)
• Greece
21 Nov 09
Hi getbrowser, a friend may in time tell a secret but they can keep it to themselves as long as they like. I would never repeat something which was told in confidence by a friend. Now prying back into annoying people who pry into everything and everyones business (we have a woman like that in the village)is up for grabs and fun. Total gossips need a dose of their own medicine.
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@derek_a (10902)
21 Nov 09
If I was to discover a friend's secret it would be because he/she had told me that secret, and I would never reveal it to anyone else. If it was something that could hurt another friend I would tell my friend (with the secret) not to tell me, because I would feel obliged to warn the other friend who was in line to be hurt. It is not up to me to judge these situations however, but it is not always in black and white. - Derek
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@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
21 Nov 09
I know many people who is completely unable to keep a secret, and I find that extremely disrespectful, so if someone doesn't want to tell me his/her secret, I think is something that has to be respected. Treat others as you want to be treated.
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• United States
4 Jan 10
I love and respect my best friend too much to pry into his private life. I want to know what he wants me to know. Everyone has secrets and we as friends Should respect our friend's privacy.if I fell upon a secret of his I would tell him I found out and his secret is safe with me.What are friends for?
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
I have no intention to detect directly the secret of my friends as it is not my nature to investigate it is just happen that I have happen to discover because of their own neglect. Though, I know everyone have a deepest secret which the very safe place to store it is on the mind not on a diary or even tell it to your best friend as for the long run if your relationship becomes sour they tend to expose the secrets. So for me it is better to let the secret safe inside your mind rather than sharing it. Sometimes, I get stumble on a secret without my own intention as I maybe curious but i have no strength to spread it as I know my friend would be hurt and just left it inside my mind rather than exposing my friend secret which would lead to confrontation and embarrassment on his part. I am respecting my friend secret and not going to reveal it to anyone as i am concern with him and so his secret is safe with me.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
22 Nov 09
I think i will try my best to find out.. haha =D BUt even if i dun probe, i will get it know it sooner or later from them, for it's always difficult to be keeping secret to onself.. haha =D Especially when the secret concerns them partially, and they feel like unloading it, when it becomes a burden to them.. lol =D I do know most of my fren'z secrets, but i have kept them all to myself.. hehe ^_^
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
If I smell something strange wit my friend. I think keep it secret on me. But if that is affect matter I don't think I'll kept it secret. But I want to respect the privacy of friends and don't want to mix in those particular problem or what?
@bdugas (3582)
• United States
22 Nov 09
I have a few really true friends, and I'm sure in all the years that I have known them, that there are things in their lives that they have not told me. And I lok at it as their right to their belief that they do not need or want to share this secret. It could be that they are embrassed about it, or just dont' think anyone's business. If I see that they are down, I will ask if there is something wrong, or anything I can do for them. It is up to them then to either tell me what is happening in their lives or to just say, "feeling a bit down today". I don't pry into other's lives as I don't like it when other's pry into mine. If you are such a person that all you do is dig for infomation into anothers life, that friend could sometimes become not so friendly. We have no business in anyone else's lives, we need to keep our noses out until they decide to let us know what is happening. If they choose to get throught it on their own then that is their right. Curiosity sometimes kills the cat. And we could lose a really good friend by prying into something they consider to be a private matter.
• Malaysia
22 Nov 09
I'll not bother about that because everyone has a property of secrecy. The only thing now to match the both parties common interests, then, no more thing categorized or classified as 'secret' amongst both parties. One golden key opens all doors. So, be a golden key in our life.
@drannhh (15045)
• United States
22 Nov 09
I'm not in the least curious, but usually I know everyone's secrets. I must have an innocent look or something because people are always telling things they probably should not have.
@celticeagle (116759)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Nov 09
there is a big difference between acquaintances and true friends. I have afew truly good friends that I have known since I was a teen. I know things about them and keep those things to myself. I would not share these things publically with others as I would not want them to do that to me.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Yes obviously they cannot keep secrets from me because I know them since birth so I know that something is going on because they feel so uneasy. I don't force them to tell me what their secrets are I'll just wait for the right time for I know they cannot stand it keeping something from me.