How to increase the confidence level in children?

India
November 25, 2009 11:43pm CST
The confidence in one is more important to work.....how to increase the confidence level in kids....Few of the kids they feel that how much if we say also that no I can't reach to that stage....I can't they say....How to say them that they can...If we say also they won't feel confident how to increase if so is the condition of a child........
17 responses
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Nov 09
I've been very lucky in that my daughter (she will be seven next week) is a very confident person. Some of the reasons that I think that she is as confident as she is are that we've always given her plenty of praise as she's gone through her life. As parents, we've also taught her a lot about adversity and how to overcome it and I think these lessons provide a lot of the reasons that she is as confident in her life as she is.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
26 Nov 09
I think it is also important that the kids see these things from their parents too. If parents praise each other, and the kids themselves get plenty of praises, then they could grow up more confident. Unfortunately, my kids are unlucky in this department. But I will keep this in mind, and I will try to give them plenty of praises as well. Thanks dorannmwin.
• Hong Kong
27 Nov 09
Hi rorisricha, As a parent, we can't just say to our children that "be confident" for adding more confondence to them. We have to look at every little tiny things that they did or are going to do. That is "observation" is so important. Whenever we have noticed that there is a little improvement on what they did, we have to praise them in an appropriate way. When they failed to do something, we just don't feel angry or frustrated but saying that "I know you have tried hard. I appreciated. I am sure you will do it better next time. Let's see what areas that we can improve." However, they failed because they were so lazy, then we have to talk to them and asked them why they did not try hard on that particular task. It helps them to understand themselves and helps you at the same time to understand your children. "Understanding" between parents and children is always an important issue. "Trust" and "love" are important, too. Once, the children feel you trust them and love them, they would have more confidence. Do Start with something that your child enjoy doing so in order to build up his/her confidence. Cheers, Have a nice day! agonyaunt69 (1:00pm 27 Nov 2009 Hong Kong time)
• India
27 Nov 09
I will tell you a better idea. You need some acting skill, act as if you are less eligible than your kid to do the task and ask help from your kid to do that. Praise them, get surprised, and try from your side to do that and see how it works. Your child will start teaching you. Try once.
• China
27 Nov 09
As everybody was a little child, we all have right to answer this question. I think confidience comes from praise. The more a child is praised, better he or she will behave. The more achievement they made, the more confidience they have. So the best way to increase a child's confidence is just constanly encouragement.
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes i agree with you, confidence level is very much important not only for chicldren also for adult peopele also for doing any work. There are some tips whcih we can use it for increasing confidence: 1. Appraise them whenever they do some task 2. Give some gifts whenver he is completing his work on time' 3. Also give some motivation to them for completing the task.
@jewels49 (1783)
• United States
27 Nov 09
I think the biggest thing we can do is let them lose once in awhile..Praising kids is great, when it's praise worthy. Kids are not idiots, they know when we are blowing smoke up their bottoms. When we play sports without scores, when everyone makes the team, and everyone gets a trophy, we aren't creating confidence in kids. They know when they are good at something and when they really should get a trophy. I have been a sports parent for years, those times when everyone gets a trophy and no one loses just made the kids that worked hard mad and the kids that got the given knew it wasn't anything special. If a kid never loses or faces disappointment how are they going to learn to deal with either. How will they learn to set goals and work to acheive them..Confidence is like everything else it has to be learned through work and acheivement and effort not handed out for just being there.
• United States
27 Nov 09
The best confident is natural confidence. The confidence is in-born left to elders' to bring out those thing in them and to use it in appropiate manner.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
I let my children engage in sports at the earliest possible age. My eldest (9 right now) had started playing the badminton at the age of 4 and she's quiet good at it. She learn how to gain confidence when shes at the court. My two other kids are now learning swimming and I think they too would gain confidence. My eldest is also active in extra curricular activities in school like stage plays and she's also an officer of the school's newspaper. Nice way to exposed them to the world and at the same time learn and develop confidence.
• United Arab Emirates
26 Nov 09
I think giving praises to children when they did something good, or remarkable increase their confidence level. This reminds me of the autistic boy who was in the news about three weeks ago. He said he was a 'nobody' and would always sat in a corner of the class. But, when he saved the life of his teacher from choking, he became an instant hero in school, and now feels good about himself and about everyone around him.
• Pakistan
26 Nov 09
I think the confidence level of children can be increased by giving equal rights to them, by proper training and education, by love and by encouragement. However children should be not left free. It is important to keep eye on them and forbid them for negative activities.
@mandy719 (49)
• China
26 Nov 09
Firstly, recognize your strengths and weakness,everyone has both,self-assurance grows, self-abased natually diminishs.... Secondly, remember that everyone experience failures and disappointments so don't be afrade to do or try sth new ....very often the tough experience can be a turning point of the wonderful experience to come along.... that's my idea~~~~~~
@shona264 (167)
• India
26 Nov 09
Hello Rorisricha, I think that children should be trained from childhood age to become competetive and win over hurdles that will come in the future.For this children have to be confident. We know that attitude starts from thought,we need to make the child understand the power of thoughts,we need to make the child visualize the outcome before starting any task.Provide the children a task and ask him to visualize first about completing the task successfully and start the task. Secondly I think that if children want something or is interested in something,just don't say No or stop children,if you really don't want the children to ask,find some ways to supplement children desire instead of stopping it abruptly. Thirdly,children might have interests on many things,but psychologically speaking they will be more interested on particular things,whatever your children like please support it rather than getting it rejected. Angriness/disappointments should be avoided by the parents,as children observe things from the parents,so it is the responsibility of parents to hide their negative emotions.Children can imitate it and can become a vicious circle. Sometimes failure is also necessary,then only children will know the taste of success and create a hunger for success. Humans can do anything with their unlimited potential of thoughts,but sometimes there are some things that cannot be done immediately.Children should learn to be realistic and positive on difficult situations.I think this can help to increase the confidence level of a children.
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
26 Nov 09
i always praise my son when he does well and if he does not do well i always ask him if he did his best. if he did then i tell him that that is good enough for me and maybe he can try just a little harder next. i do not think being negative or getting upset will be helpful to him. when he is wrong about something or does something wrong we talk about it and i try to make him understand without yelling or screaming and i give him the chance to air his views. i just feel being positive and calm is the best way to instill confidence in a child.
@Downwindz (2231)
• Netherlands
26 Nov 09
Hello Rorisricha I believe there is several ways to acchieve the confidence level with children, but it is also different methods depending on thier age and mentality. I would love to help you out with some good suggestions, but it would be easier if you provide us with the age of your child/children? This is to prevent the selfconfidence tasks to be either to easy or to hard to acchieve to boost the confidence. I am myself working with selfconfidence, and im doing topsports which requires a great positive mind and a good selfconfidence if i want to acchieve my goals, participateing in the Olympic Games. Just to explain a little of my background.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hi. I have no kids yet but I would like to share my own personal experience as a kid. I used to be very shy while I was growing up. I didn't participate in any school activities and classroom discussions. My father helped me overcome the shyness. He helped me in realizing my full potential by appreciating/celebrating my small successes as a kid. He helped me went through and accept little failures. Together, we discussed the lessons I have learned from those failures. He taught me how to have role models, identify their best practices and qualities and to emulate them. I am forever thankful for having such a great father. Little by little, I had the confidence to face the world.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hey rorisricha.. well on my part, people boost my self confidence by telling me that i can be better than others.. sort of like that.. thats why i strive to do the best i can.. and because of these positive boosts i get from people, i have reached to the top 10 most outstanding students since i was in elementary and right up until now where i am having my college in a university here at my place.. :)
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
26 Nov 09
If you follow these simple practices you could build confidence in children. Never compare children much less among siblings,also yours with the neighbors' or friends(although when your own blood doesn't perform you will like to get wild) Allow them to make mistakes doing things.That is how you develop in them a self-tolerance for chance mistakes. You only need gently goad them not to repeat the same old misdtakes or similar ones. Praise even their simple but good efforts. May be one of your children might have come up with something very different. Even if this were insignificant please heap praise on them. You know what, in our childhood days our parents were brought up on diet of harsh criticism of even an excellent work done. But then times are a-changing and our children might stand to lose alongside others if we don't do what other parents might be doing. Let's say you have had some brilliant ideas. Well, as a child you could never put them to practice for whatever reason. But now through your children, you could make them see the light of the day. You do most of the work and let your child claim the same as his/her own. Now this gives them a first hand experience of how sweet it is to be in the limelight or be the cynosure of his/her classmates. Before long this will let their creative juices flowing, and soon they would not be needing a piggy back ride. Thus with several such successful jobs done comes the confidence! All the best. Happy mylotting! Wish you successful parenting with many positive results.