I hate to borrow money or things. What about you?

@daliaj (5689)
India
November 28, 2009 3:55am CST
I hate the habit of borrowing money or things. If I borrow things, I take care of thing and give it back at the earliest in good condition. If I borrow money, I keep a reminder and give the money back as soon as possible. I have a friend who borrowed money from me, but never gave it back. I hate those kinds of people and she is not my friend anymore. Once our camera broke and we had already planned for a trip. I felt very bad to request my friend for he camera. Do you often borrow money or things?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
29 Nov 09
i HAVE NEVER BEEN A PERSON TO BORROW NOT EVEN AN EGG FROM THE NEIGHBOR, LOL. i DON'T THINK U SHOULD LEND MONEY TO FAMILY OR FRIENDS IT USUSALLYCAUSES HARD FEELINGS IN THE LONG RUN. pEOPLE SHOULD LEARN TO HANDLE THEIR MONEY WHERE THEY DON'T HAVE TO BORROW BUT SO MANY PEOPLE DON'T DO THIS.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
29 Nov 09
There is nothing inherently wrong with borrowing stuff, unless you do not give it back. I am the exact same way. I hate to borrow things or money, and when I do, I pay it back as quickly as I possibly can. I never lend things ever... Unless... I can afford to not get whatever it is back. If I lend a camera, I only lend it if I can live with the idea that it will not come back. Money specifically, I never lend out. Why? Because it ruins friendships. Just like it ruined your friendship with that girl. I never lend money. Now, if I have the money, and I can afford to give it as a *GIFT*... then I will give the money to someone as a gift. But never to borrow. Gifts grow friendships. Loans ruin friendships.
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• United States
29 Nov 09
I have not borrowed money in years. I have never liked to borrow clothing and did not like for anyone to borrow my clothing either. I live with my daughter, grand daughter, brother and mother and we do not borrow from anyone else other our famiily. Happy Mylotting
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@patms1 (522)
• United States
29 Nov 09
I find it almost impossible to ask for money for myself but if some one needs a collection for a worthy cause I am the first one to volunteer. I some times borrow things but make sure they are given back as soon as possible. I very seldom go to the library because I hate returning books. As for lending money I don't mind lending a small amount and only to someone I trust. If its not returned, unless there is a good reason That's the end of that friendship.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Hey daliaj! I don't borrow money or anything else of value from my friends and I don't loan them either! It is the best way to ruin friendships to loan or borrow money or expensive objects that are of value to you! You saw that with your loaning of your camera! It is your camera and you are put in a position of feeling uncomfortable to ask for your own item back! I hope you learned a valuable lesson from that and don't loan items out so quickly again!lol
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
I don't have the habit of borrowing thing or money. If I have no money and this is really needed I borrow but I'll make sure to pay it immediately once i have money. have a nice day!
• India
28 Nov 09
Hi, I doesn't like to borrow money or things from any one. It will create many problems between us even they are close friends or relatives. I have borrowed money only once in my life time and i returned back with in that period. Borrowing money and things from others was a bad habit. It was a lesson taught by my parents. What ever, we will enjoy with our money and things and we could not bother about other things. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
If it is possible I don't want to borrow things. I buy for myself. It is not advisable to wear those clothes that other people use. We have different hygiene. and I don't want to fail of returning what I borrow as I promised. There is some instances that it might happen and that person will treat it negatively depends on their character. Some friends do get mad when their things will not return to them as early as possible. I don't want that treatment to happen to me. I do not borrow I buy. About money I don't want to borrow money. I want to save for the things I want to buy. There are times I need money because it is emergency. I take down on my mind that I have to return the money asap to whom I borrow it. I don't want to lose a friendship by just borrowing money.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
4 Dec 09
i am like you, i hate borrowing. be it money of things, i just don't like the idea of borrowing. i am not good with taking care of things so i don't want to damage something borrowed. if i can, i try to live without. if there is a real need, i'll just go out and buy one. thankfully, the only time i needed money, my parents were able to give me a loan. still, i repaid them as soon as i can. the idea of owing someone something/money is a really unsettling thought to me.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 09
Hi daliaj, I dislike to borrow money or things from others as well. I believe this will bring inconvenience to them for sure. One surely will feel uneasy and worry if he or she has lent a great amount of money to someone even to his closed friends. It’s okay if borrowing a little money for buying water to quench the thirst or any small items if I have no small change. Or I forget to bring my purse if coming across with stuffs which I'm favorite on sale. I’m afraid that I might forget to return the money, so I will try my best to give back the money to my friend as soon as possible. We are not rich and I know every penny we made is our hard earn money. Therefore we have to cherish them I do have a friend who had borrowed money from me. She never returns a single penny since 20 years or so ago. We couldn’t sure whether one will return the money on time thought the person promises firmly to return the money. I don’t mind if it’s not a great amount of money. Or the person is still having financial problem. But this is totally not. This actually has taught me a good lesson not to lend great amount of money to any friend. If not we will lose both the friendship and money at the same time. Yeah, our friend will gain the money but he or she will lose a good friend for sure Happy posting
• United States
3 Dec 09
I always hated the idea of borrowing money because I never pay back an individual. I wish I had the knowledge to have my own money while I am now jobless, but it is hard. I find myself having to depend on my parents in general to give money to me, and it is affecting my habit of becoming an independent person. Most of the time, I wish I was a rich person and not having to depend on people financially. I posted resumes, filled out applications, did interviews but no results. I guess this is just a terrible situation in life for me. I have to struggle with it daily.
• United States
2 Dec 09
I don't like to borrow money or something that is needed, though if the occassion arised, I wouldn't mind borrowing something that I was interested in, that I could not aquire, or was testing, as I have done for others in the past. There have been a lot of people who have borrowed money from us and never repaid. One person borrowed over $200, and was my partner's boss! Some people use situations as an excuse, as an employee of my partner's once did. He had some shredded tires on his car, and he and his wife complained of how they worried about carting their many children around in such an unsafe vehicle. My partner let them borrow some money to get the tires replaced, at a time when we really needed the money too. They worked out a payment plan, and after only paying $20, the guy quit his job and disappeared. He had also borrowed a GPS from us, that he broke somehow and said that it wasn't working too well when he borrowed it from us. For these reasons, I really dislike lending money.
@pisces24 (147)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
hi daliaj! well, same here. i hate borrowing money or things, i even try not to ask for favors and just do things myself as much as i could. there's nothing wrong with borrowing if you know how to return what you borrowed - as good and as clean as the day you borrowed it. sometimes, though, people borrow things and forget to return them. i had some friends who also borrowed money from me and soon after they tried to avoid me. it's true what they say that you should never lend or borrow money from friends.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I am defiantly with you on this one. I am not a big borrowing type. If it is money then I will only borrow from my dad or mother in law when I know when I can pay back. And I only do it when I really need it. Like for food or gas. Or its a major bill that just has to be paid and I cant make arrangements.
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Thats one thing that I don't do is borrow or lend things. I learned a long time ago not to let anyone borrow anything, especially money because if its friends or family you usually won't get it back, they think it was a gift or something. I don't like to borrow other people's things either, because if I break it I'm responsible for it, it wouldn't be so bad if it was mine to begin with.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I do not like to borrow money but sometimes it can not be helped. I try to pay back as soon as possible. If I borrow something from a friend I return it to them when I am done using it.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
30 Nov 09
You are one in a million.It seems to me that most people are like Dagwood and his friend and neighbor, Herb, who have borrowed tools from each other so much that they have forgotten who actually owns what. Like you, I hate to have to borrow anything. make it a point to neither borrow or lend money other than small change. When my girlfriend needs a few cents or maybe a quarter, I hand it over and forget it. It works the other way, too. She would gladly loan me large amounts of money, but I wouldn't ask. I'd go to the bank first. We have a teenage neighbor who is in the habit of asking to "borrow" gas money but does not repay it. My husband gave him our lawnmower gas 2 gal.) once so that he could get to work. He had to ask for the can back.
@1hopefulman (28631)
• Canada
30 Nov 09
I'm like you. I hate borrowing anything. I prefer to be independent. And if I borrow, I return things promptly. I even hate having in my possession anithing that belongs to someone else. Like if someone forgets something in my car, it's as if I have a fire in my pants till I get the object back to its owner. Needless to say I have no debts. I have felt that way ever since I read thos scripture: Romans 13:8 (New Living Translation) 8 Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
29 Nov 09
I don't borrow money unless it is a dire emergency. I don't like to do it then. The only people I do that from is my parents and I will give them money until I have it paid back.
• United States
29 Nov 09
Yes, I agree, I hate it too. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do though. If you can't make it through without borrowing and you know that you can pay it back and you do pay it back, it's okay. Getting in the habit of borrowing and then not paying it back is when things get bad. Besides, you end up with no one to borrow from after a while if you do that. Borrowing is a bad habit to get into because it creates a vicious circle that is extremely difficult to get out of. You end up having to borrow it again because you run out of money again because you had to pay it back. It is a lose/lose situation.