Two thousand discussions bawling us out for not commenting will not help.

@Hatley (157750)
Garden Grove, California
November 30, 2009 8:33pm CST
lately like in the past two days I have read discussions by complete newcomers screaming that we are not responsible because we have not commented on all our responses. they do not take into consideration that there may be very valid reasons why some of us have not commented as soon as they would have us. maybe some of us were ill, maybe some of us lost jobs, and maybe some of us lost our homes, some things still are more important than mylot and commenting on responses to their discussions. why cannot the new ones understand this? I feel prodded and driven to do more than I can physically or mentally or emotionally do at times by all these rather thoughtless discussions. why do they not put themselves into our shoes and think about why some things do not get done as soon as they might like?
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33 responses
• United States
1 Dec 09
Oh,darlin', don't let such inadequate people getcha down..They're members of the new 'me' generation..That's not a justification for the ignorance, but a statement of 'as it is'..Maybe they just have a major identity crisis, and will spoil for attention any way they can, just like the children they are.. As to 'a mile in my shoes..', that's not their style. Enjoy!
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Dec 09
Hiya greenfeather, Live and let live I really don´t have much time to write anywhere so more or less I have a got a stopwatch as to see where I go first lol. A few times I sneak on here and get a bit of peace and quiet and then I usually write quite a bit. Rare occasion though. You all enjoy yourselves. Hugs Sue.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
higreenfeathers and all, yes I should cool off and remember I am doing the best I can and so are most every one else. let them rant as long as I know that I am trying to do my best.
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I guess they just do not realize that some people actually have lives to live I wouldn't let them stress you Hatley. Go at your own pace and to heck with anyone else. Sorry to say but nobody gets to wear my shoes!
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hi fwidy! And so nicely put! And everyone wants to wear you shoes!
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi to all the above if the last poster does not want to respond to my discussions fine, but in that case I may just quit responding to yours altho I have made a lot of earnings responding to yours, last poster but do what you will I did explain why and if that does not meet with your approval fine, just really fine.
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I have no doubt that them shoes are very comfortable No one is forced to reply to a discussion so why should the discussion starter be forced to answer all the comments one gets?
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@AmbiePam (45795)
• United States
1 Dec 09
They don't get it. They don't get mylot. I don't know if they haven't been here long enough to understand how it works. I have read many of the discussions you are referring to, and I don't respond. It would take me too long to try to get them to understand, and frankly I don't think they would be satisfied by anything I could say to them.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi ambiepam I am beginning tothink the same thing but this poster forgets how many responses I have made to his other discussions and he does not comment at once either. maybe he should made his own discussions. oh well to each his own I guess. I am trying to be more responsive to myown discussions but still get behind.
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@AmbiePam (45795)
• United States
1 Dec 09
No one in their right mind responds to every response, especially if they get over 15 in one discussion.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
hi ambiepam yes they really do not understand and looks like they do not want to. so what can I say, just do the best I can and try to get caught up for awhile any way. But am really irked at this one poster who does not do a thing but make many more discussions.
@ElicBxn (60052)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hatley, my dear, newbies like that should be ignored.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi ElicBxn oh yes I guess it just gets under my skin they are here a short time and they seem to think they know more about'how we should do things than we who have been here awhile.
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@ElicBxn (60052)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I agree, that's when I pull tenure on them - with a "what makes you think you know more than I do about this place? When YOU have 10,000 posts I MIGHT listen to you."
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
hi ElicBxn good one I will use that next time.he he he I am so sleepy and its high time I woke up. its about nineteen after nine in the morning here in Ca and time I got really busy mylotting.
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• Pamplona, Spain
1 Dec 09
Hiya Hatley, I only respond to whoever I want to. They can take it or leave it whoever they are. Actually I have´nt found any of those discussions yet. Maybe because I can only surf a limited amount of time during any day. Take it easy I certainly don´t feel prodded not to say that no one has ever tried to "tread on my toes". You are right a lot is happening around each one of us too. Maybe they are the lucky ones and are untouched by all these "happenings". Are´nt they the lucky ones eh? Hugs. Sue.
@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi sue yes they are lucky as they have no idea how bad'the economy is,or how many are out of work or how that affects their lives. they just get on some hobbyhorse and discuss the dickens out of it. not caring that there were many logical reasons why some wonderful commentors did not get back to their responses at once.
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Dec 09
Hiya Hatley, Not only that they might not want to know that not everyone can be online for many Hours. I have just managed to take a break from what I was doing and come back say for twenty minutes. Also being in a separate Room it´s much colder in here too and you soon start to feel the cold as this part of the Room faces the North and all the other Rooms the South West. My fingers are getting cold already. Never mind I think People get to realise after they have been on here a bit what they can do and what not to do by themselves. For me it´s difficult for example to talk about something like Obama and all the issues that go with that as I don´t live there so I don´t really know him at all. Hugs. Sue.xxx
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hi Hatley, if this is what I'm thinking it is, please don't be upset with me for I mean no harm but the person who started that discussion was talking about another person, I don't think they meant you at all. This person that she was referring to, is on my friends list too and is still fairly a newbie so I took the time to explain to the newbie that typing up a bunch of discussions and not responding to them upsets a few people and it's courteous to at least acknowledge the responder of their discussion and that that's how they earn more money. In other words, the more active the discussion is, the more they'll earn. But if they don't acknowledge the responder then they may lose them because they may not want to respond anymore when the discussion maker doesn't converse back. I hope I didn't step on your toes!! I sure didn't mean to!! (covering my head!) lol
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Some people don't read the guidelines before joining and don't know better which is wrong. Also some people don't realize the etiquette of conversation and need to be taught. Some people have lives where something has happened and they can't get back to their discussion to comment back, I've had that happen to me quite a few times but I have let my friends know and they all understand. So, with all that said, I try to see what the situation is first and then go from there before making any judgments.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi ryan and catsanddogs no I know who you mean and I triedto gently tell her but it did not register.she posted some 25 discussions in one or two days but her points did not move so she should know that she needs to comment on the responses to her discussions in order to make any earnings. she overwhelmed ]me to the point that I bypassed some in order to get to others who did respond to my own discussions. so dont worry you did not step on my toes at all.
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@ameng328 (66)
• China
1 Dec 09
This is a place with much freedom,of course including the freedom of choice whether to comment or not.Why make a fuss about not being commented.Those who complain about that just see their own and never think further like you mentioned.What a shame...
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• Spain
1 Dec 09
hey! can you take a look at some of my post and help out a sister? thanx, I know is out of subject, but i need to understand how mylot works. thank you! have a great day!
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi both of you. I just wanted to make those who are newer realize at times some really good responders and commenters 'get sick or have family problems and mylot cannot come first with those other priorities. we will get our comments done and without a whole slew of discussions dissing us.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Dec 09
I am usually pretty good at commenting on all the responses on my discussions, but lately I've been neglecting the ones I started before I went offline for awhile. Now they are so dated I really can't be bothered, nor do I have the time really. I used to feel so guilty about not responding to everyone, but now, I figure if they are really my friends, they won't take offence, and if they're not and they do take offence, well good riddence. I don't have time for people who don't understand that real life is more important at times than virtual reality.........
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi sparky I know you are and I have tried to follow your example too. but I have some old ones that only have a few responses and am wondering if those people are still 'here on my lot. I know one scottish lady that I loved to respond to her discussions has not been on here for ages,I have found most of my friends understand why I got so far behind and now am playing catch up.
@May2k8 (3632)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 09
It is a choice each person will respond or not, they have not realized that responding to someone requires a match between the discussion of our own making with other people who commented. Do not impose what we do not like to be that we like, because it will cause conflict between us.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi may2k8 what I was trying to say is that often times a person cannot physically respond when he or she wants to because they are working or are ill,or have a familymember ill and those have to take priority over commenting on their discussions. I am just asking for some understanding.
@Sreekala (18782)
• India
1 Dec 09
Hi Hately, In the beginning I left my discussions without comments, that time I was new and didn’t know that commenting back is important. When I realized the fact then I did justice to all my responders. But I agree some of my discussions which started recently left without completing the comments and I am doing my work as much as possible in a day. I also want to dispose it many works and I am trying my best to adjust with the time. I can’t concentrate always my discussion only; I should attend my friend’s discussions too so commenting back work is doing slowly. I haven’t seen the particular discussion you are mentioning but I know that you are doing your best always. I know all seniors are doing justice to their responders and if they didn’t that means they are busy with some other works. Hope the juniors can understand us sooner or later.
@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
yes I hope so too Sreekala as I know a lot of great mylotters here are working and caring for families too so that they can come on here and make discussions and comment and also] respond is great and should be given credit for.
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@meapas (2435)
• India
1 Dec 09
Yes mam you are absolutely right. Every one of us have our own priorities. So please please bear with us. Thank you for bringing this out in the open.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi meapas thanks and I agree we all do have our own priorities and they must come first much as 'we love mylot. I feel that almost all of us are' just doing our best and that should be good enough for most people.
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• Philippines
1 Dec 09
hey hatley. dont concern yourself with what other people think.. and heck yeah you're right.. there are more important stuff than mylot. they should be more considerate of others rather than themselves.. some people are just in it for the money and i guess them wanting more responses to their discussions means more money for them.. chill hatley.. and have a nice day..
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
well gee whiz hi theonehush for the one who just told me hes not going to respond, I have responded to his over andover. I am in this for a lot of reasons, namely I enjoy mylot and mylot friends and also I use the earnings to pay my internet bill.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hi Hatley! You do an excellent job responding to discussions, and replying to responses. If some one has a problem with it...well then they have a problem. Not you. I've never been one to respond if I have nothing to say. In fact, the guidelines say that you shouldn't unless you have something of substance to say. Who ever is complaining needs to read the guidelines. I found some black raspberry ice cream and hot fudge, and made a sundae. I brought two spoons....ready?
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@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Nicely said!
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi both of you we need one more spoon for rjvb too as I am sure he or she would love some black raspberry ice cream with hot fudge. wow
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Absolutely! The more the merrier! I have a really really big bowl, and I know where to get the black raspberry ice cream. Let's party and no one leaves until we're all ice creamed out.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Hello hatley! Yes I completely understand what you mean. It happens and that is unavoidable sometimes... We have our lives outside mylot. We are all busy people and mylotting is something we do on our spare time... I think what matter most is, we do come back to our old discussions and try to answer some of those responses... It doesn't matter how many days it was left hanging... I, personally also have some responses that were not commented back yet but sometimes after 2 to 3 weeks I will get an answer from the discussion starter... I guess we just have to be patience and understanding. I am sure they have reasons... And for some who were screaming "NO ANSWER!!!" I think we should also understand them as well... they are newbies here and very excited to interact with other members... and they feel disappointed somehow when they don't get comments in return...
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
lovelyn__medrano hi we all do have lives in the real world, 'and sometimes that has to take precedence. I am and have been going back over old ones most days and have made some'strides too but am wondering if any of those who had only a few responses are still here in mylot.these discussions are one year old.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Really? Are you serious hatley??? One year is a bit long and very late, I guess . Anyway, better late than never. I am sure if they are still with mylot, they will be very surprise to receive a coment from you-- from one year ago response...
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 09
hi lovelyn it was not something that I had ever planned on thats for sure, we thought we were going to move up north instead the lady who was going to help us backed out, and we were left homeless and our stuff was all in storage.when my son got me into Gold Crest he got my computer and monitor out of storage and then I finally got back on the net,mylot earnings pays my internet bill each month. lol.
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
1 Dec 09
I agree with you. These mylotters need to realize that there are more important things than mylot. I feel like the ones who start these discussions are probably teenagers or people in their early 20s and they don't give the more important things any thought. I realize that some of the mylotters have jobs and they have to make a living. Mylot takes a lot of time. Kathy.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi kathy yes they should not condemn all for one or two who are to blame, most of us do have other things that must come first even as much as we love mylot,like family and jobs and in my case programs I must attend here at Gold Crest
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
1 Dec 09
What kind of programs do you attend? Are they activities? I hope I'm not coming across as being nosy. If I am, I'm sorry. I just thought it might make an interesting discussion. Kathy.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi kathy we have a singalong with adriana on violin and her hubby brad on the giutaur on Mondays, and a cooking class on tuesdays at one thirty, wednesday morning we go shopping, thursday after noon we have Murrey and another sing a long which I never attend. and friday afternoon we have mental fitness class all afternoon, this is the one that I love as it keeps me mentally sharp. no you were not nosy at all.
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
1 Dec 09
Hi Hatley! I honestly haven't been here as much as I used to either so I hadn't noticed this! But, you'd better believe that if I did see a newbie making that kind of comment I would put the in their place! What bothers me is that some of the newbies who post tons of discussions and THEY don't bother EVER commenting! There is one such poster in particular and I have decided that I should probably stop responding to her discussions until she stops posting 25 discussions a day and starts responding to some of them! I saw one person call her out in one discussion, but, apparently she never went back to the discussion to read it! We all have things going on in our lives, whether we work or not and some of us just can't be here all the time and that is understandable! But, I don't think that someone who is new here has the right to complain when they still don't know most of us or understand how this place works! Sorry for my rant Hatley, but I needed to vent too! Hugs, Opal
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi opal I made a gentle comment to her whether or not she even' caught it , I just said wow you made a lot of discussions but I am not complaining as I needed things to respond to. I also noticed she did not respond to my discussions as she has not had time too I guess.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Hi again Hatley! I just wonder if we are speaking about the same poster! I am going to give you an initial because she made another friend of mine really annoyed too, so tell me if we might be talking about "J"!
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Dec 09
the sad thing is when she was only making one once in awhile she made some interesting discussions which I enjoyed answering but as she made them all so fast the quality kept getting worse and worse. and I could not answer the rest
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 Dec 09
Hey Sweet What the new ones that are shouting about this need to learn is that People have routines that they keep to and have been doing this for years in my case 4 Years, we do not run and respond straight away as we have responses to do, we have other Sites to see to, we are not willing to jump as soon as someone has responded we wait for more before getting to them Patience and efficiency is what they need to learn on here So my Sweet Friend just ignore them as they will learn the hard way which is getting in a muddle, not going to be able to respond to other Discussions and all that I ignore them as I have been here 4 Years now and I will not change my ways and routine just because someone is not patient Hugs
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 09
hi gabs that is just what i was thinking andit sort of rattles my cage when new people keep trying to tear down mylot,mylot has got along fine before they came and will keep on as we will keep on. we all do the best we can and if they do not like that well tough patooties. he he he. hugs.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 Dec 09
Thank you for the BR
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 09
gabs you made the most sense and yes you are welcome too hugs.
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
1 Dec 09
Hatley my dear, when are you going to stop thinking that any of those discussions have you in mind as they don't. There are some, like us, who always respond, and if we get behind no one who knew us would doubt that they would from us. It's aimed at the likes of all the ice cream discussions which force us to think long and hard with witty responses to say vanilla, and then never never comment back. Those who delay a while sometimes are not the target and you most definitely are not.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi thea I think its just that I have felt so guilty as though I have really worked at it, I still have some old ones that I have'not got to yet. I think the poster was actually concerned about the poster who just now posted about twenty five posts in little over one day. she is on my friends list and I tried to gently inform her she was overdoing it. she has not had time to comment on any of her discussions as she was too busy making them and she rarely comments on mine either. I think she does not realize she gets paid for commenting on our responses. hope she will learn this. thanks.
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
1 Dec 09
Hatley I think you're probably talking about the famous poster who is actually a man but calls himself a woman on her profile and by name. It's all been said before - each time he finally puts up yet another discussion about making so many discussions but never earning money here.
@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Dec 09
I am not sure if thats who it is, as she talks about her four kids not going to bed at night and not letting her have any peace yakety yak. of course it could be a guy too. wow. okay.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
2 Dec 09
Hi Hatley, I get what you are saying...I responded to a discussion about the lack of comments and I agreed that it is annoying not to receive replies but in my response I noted that I was referring to the MyLotters who start up to a dozen discussions in a day and do not respond to any comments, ever! The rest of us are doing the best we can and we do fall behind, just like how I am right now! I don’t ever respond and then sit there counting the days until I receive a comment; it’s just some never, ever bother but having said that, I guess it is their priority and we don’t have to respond if we don’t want to. I haven’t even had the time to start any topics for ages…I have been so busy…Life away from the computer will not allow us to be here as much as we would like and it would be nice if everyone showed a bit of understanding to one another.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 09
hi paula I got sort of overwhelmed the other day as one single person must have posted fourty discussions page after page, she is on myfriends list so tried to answer but after awhile I wanted to respond to others only to find they were all buried under her onslaught.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
hi alice yes I had to plow through discussion after discussions 'trying to find other friends discussions I also wanted to respond to. this was overwhelming after awhile. I would not want to be in her shoes when it comes to sitting down and making comments on so many discussions even if each one only had about ten responses.it would still be a tedious 'job.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
1 Dec 09
Exactly! Recently I was indisposed of and also due to a lot of work pressure, I cannot really be active the way I used to be previously. And one f the users grilled me stating that I keep telling that I do comment but many of my discussions are uncommented on! Even though I appreciate the trouble he took to find out, I told him that I do have my priorities which I have to meet first. Luckily he understood. I feel bad that I cannot keep up with my discussions and I know I will soon but still I have my prerogative. Thanks for this discussion. I could rant out!
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
1 Dec 09
I had to come back again. I think, you are one of my most consistent friends who even with all the priorities in life have been doing justice to all the discussions. I am sure you do this for others as well. I am really gad dear and I completely understand your inability to come in. I would miss you but I would understand. Love and hugs.
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@Hatley (157750)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Dec 09
hi mimpi that is what I tried to convey to those who do not understand, I now also know that I need to make fewer discussions so I have time to comment back more. I know most older people here have similar problems and just' making more discussions will not help us .why dont they'use that energy to respond on all the others.