Do you believe each and every word when people praise you?

no I dont I would like to be able to believe them but I just cant perhaps its trust issues when it comes to others or maybe its bad self esteem but when someone praises me I usually just wonder what they are trying to butter me up for

Hi Bala! Very pertinent post! It all depends who is showering me with his/her praise. If it is a close friend either on mylot or in real life, I would take his/her words as true. I believe that I should not doubt their fairness that they would be praising me for the sake of it. For example, if you write something good about me, I have no reasons to doubt your integrity because I would definitely believe that those words came write from your heart and would accept your appreciation with a smile.. If somebody is praising me without any rhyme and reasons then I would understand that s/he is doing so just to flatter me to get his/her work done. Have a great day! Deepak

I like to think, and I really hope, that people are honest when they say something nice about someone else, so I am inclined to believe them, because if they didn't mean it, they wouldn't say it, right? And if they don't mean what they say, it's their problem.

You can feel if they are saying is genuine. I co-workers who praise me of what I done. Those things I had done, I made it as a result of my hardwork. She praised me of my performance and I feel her happiness for me. I believe in her praise. On the other hand some praises is not true, like some of my gay co-workers before they are praising other girls but at the back of them they were really criticizing them hard. YOu can feel the true praise from a dummy praise. So I believe what i feel is true, but I still says thank you.

Hi Bala, it depends on the person who praises me, because if the person has the habit of praising everybody then I won’t believe that person, even if he/she is saying correctly/honestly. But the praise is coming from a person who rarely praise then I should believe it. Recently I felt honored by somebody’s words because I know that the person told me the same from heart.

No, I often dont believe any of it. I assume people are just being insincere or have an ulterior motive since I dont think I do anything particulary praiseworthy. Now and again, I will feel that I really have made a difference or done something well but I still find it hard to accept praise.

I have this problem my friend that if someone compliments or praises me I just ignore it because I don't believe it or don't accept it, however if someone gives me a criticism or a nasty remark then straight away I believe it, it's because I have such a chronic low self esteem, I refuse to believe good things about me and cast them aside. I cling on negatives and soak them up like a sponge, anything said to me in praise goes in one ear and out the other I never stop and say yes thank you for the compliment it's true!

Hi balasri, I know myself very well. So I could see and feel whether the praise has been given is sincere or not. I’m not rich as well as no longer young anymore So I’ don’t think it is worth for anyone to adulate me. But if there is still someone in my real life praising me, no matter how it’s nice and courteous as well to accept it with a smile and return a “thank you” at the same time I don’t feel happy and proud at all if I’m not really that good. But if it is related to anything that can be improved like skill, knowledge, etc, I will try my best to enhance myself so as to match the compliment Anyway I feel more relaxed and comfort not to live for praise. It’s not nice as well if losing ourselves indulging in others sweet praising. Happy posting!

It does depend on who is doing the praising. If the praise came from either of my parents I would probably fall over from shock! There are some who dish out meaningless compliments without sincerity and there are good friends who will commend when praise is due and they applaud I treasure it. It has taken me years to learn not to dismiss praise and just say thank you. I did not always believe it when others said nice things to me, nowadays if it comes from the right person; I hold it close to my heart.

It has been a very long long time since I was praise for something I had done. Most of the time when I do get a praise it is from someone that I believe really thinks I did something real good. I just thank the person and then smile and sometimes shake their hand.

Yes I do, human nature, sometimes, people praise you when they need something from you or what you to do them a favour. Generally, I am skeptical about praises because humans can't be trusted.

Nope. It really depends on who's the person who have praised and said good things to me. Sometimes, you could feel if the person praising you is just doing it because they have other motives or they just do the praising for the show.

Not as some are deception and full of lies so i never trust anyone even those close to me as praising could easily done even by those with bad motives. To be safer it is more fine not to trust those who just meet and even those close friends sometimes becomes a traitor in the long run because of jealousy.

I guess yes. When you get praise from some one who is close to u then there is no reason to belive that they are lying because they will also tell u as frankly when u do something wrong.

i do not beleive every word though i like to hear my praises being said.these very same people who sing our praises will tell your bad points one day.(by experience)

Well, I learned that some people are sincere ,and they really believe that we are very special ,but others usually want something from us ,and they just want to tell us what we wish to hear. Ha Ha!

Hi bala -- Sometimes I'm my own worst critic, so when someone tells something nice about me and I can't see it, I try changing my perspective. When I'm complimented, I sure don't want to be in denial! I think most of us are too close to ourselves to recognize our positive traits. I don't know about most people, but I tend to recognize my character flaws more quickly than my positive qualities.

hi bala, i only have a few friends thaty I am close to and yhey would only praise me when there is a need to otherwise they are very truthful to me as we are all to each other. Tamara

no exactly. but yeah there are some i do believed and there are some also that i dont. some people tend to say something which is not true, they just want our attention thats why their telling something about it.

Life has taught me to distrust praise of any kind. at least until recently, anyway. Always n the past, when someone praised me, they were either wanting something in return, or, were trying to set me up for a fall. I pretty much ignore praise, and listen to the critisisms. Praise won't ever help me correct any mistakes I might be making, but the critics will. Nobody's perfect (especially me) so ignoring the critics and listening to the praise is self defeating, don't you think? I know in this liberal day and age, you might be afraid to hurt someone's "feelings", but without criticism, we can never improve ourselves, advance beyond what we are and realize what we might become. So, do what I do. Ignore the praise and listen to the critics. if you're not strong enough to do that without getting depressed, what in the world are you doing with your life?