What do you want your children to become?

India
December 17, 2009 12:51pm CST
Do you want to your children to become an engineer? a doctor? a scientist? An industrialist? a sports champion? a lawyer? big business man? We all want our children to become one of these things... Do we want them to be a GOOD HUMAN BEING?- no Have we forgotten to teach our children to become good human beings?
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@vandana7 (55367)
• India
17 Dec 09
The boy I treat as my kid is truly a good person in heart. That is why I feel more confident of my future. My only problem will be if he leaves for States. :( He is very sharp, and intelligent, and hard working. He is presently working in Symantec. But I wouldnt want him to spoil his future because of me. Therefore, if he gets an opportunity to go abroad, that is his luck. I remember telling him I would go to an old age home, and he was like whaat? Well, I told him I liked this one that I'd been to recently. He said old age home is no place for elderly, it is very depressing with no children around and some inmates dying. And he said even if I fought with everybody including him, I'd still be welcome in his house. :) I kind of liked that. But it was a very sweet offer. :) I hope I never have to take up on that offer.
• India
18 Dec 09
I do hope you won't have to take up that sweet offer. But if fate pushes you into it don't hesitate to accept it, it is not an advice just a friendly suggestion.
@vandana7 (55367)
• India
19 Dec 09
You are welcome to advise as well vijayanths. :) Personally, I am ok with old age home. I would feel more comfortable there rather than being an intruder in somebody else's life. :) I'd have been like that even with my own kids, so it is a kind of emergency light that this kid is there for me. :) I think I am quite enamored with the idea of old age home with a small private room that is easy to clean. :) Computers are there and so are friends like you. :)
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
17 Dec 09
I haven't forgot to teach my kids to be good human beings. I work with them on that more than trying to push them to a certain career. my oldest is only 7 though. I honestly don't care what they do as long as they are able to support themselves. I try to make sure they grow up to be good people. I stress to my daughter not to lie and to be nice to everyone. Last year there was a girl in her class that no one really liked. I told her she didn't have to be her friend if she didn't like her, but that she should never be mean to her even if her friends say things that aren't nice. So far she seems to be listening to my advice.
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• United States
17 Dec 09
That's great advice you gave to your daughter and it's very impressive that at that age she was able to take your advice and follow it. It's so important to set a good example and show children how to be kind and respectful of others!
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• India
18 Dec 09
Nice to note you are raising your children nicely ravinskye. thanks for responding.
• India
18 Dec 09
Absolutely Right Vijayanths,I Do Agree with you! Nowadays Parents have presurrized childrens to Become something Big like Engineers,Doctors and Forgot to ask what their Child Actually want to Be. I want to become a Crickter and I am very good in it Too but my Parents doesn't like that Game and They say "Why you are wasting your Time in such Foolish Game" and I Do get Demoralized with that so I leave to Play that game from then! I must think parents should Realize that their Childs should not Compare with others they might have other Talent and they unknowingly Forcing them to Fulfill their own unfilled Dreams. Thats where a Child Lose its Confidence from itself and it is Hard to say but then the Child couldn't Do anything in Life because of Lack of interest and confidence.So I must say to all the Parents out there don't Force Childrens,Try to know their Interests and Supports them.Also Yes as Vijayanths says,"First we make them a Good Humanbeing".
• India
18 Dec 09
Oh that is quite unfortunate sahil. Some parents push their children to something that the children are not at all interested. They do bad to their children thinking doing good to them. But still you can achieve what you want in life. Just keep putting more, more and more efforts into it.
@benny128 (3624)
17 Dec 09
I don't mind what my child becomes whether they are a high flyer or just someone who is well a normal low level worker. All I ask is that they are happy and don't want anything in life, and that they become parents and experience the joys of being a dad or mam. If my kids grow up happy no matter what they become they will of succeeded in my eyes.
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• India
18 Dec 09
Yes, benny as long as our kids are happy we are also happy. thanks for responding.
• India
17 Dec 09
be it doctor,lawyer,scientist or any other thing. i would want my children to learn that whatever work they do sincerity in them would help them make good contribution to the society.that would make them a good human being with respect for other fellow humans
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• India
18 Dec 09
Yes, well said neomatrix. thanks for responding.
@michmich2 (432)
• United States
17 Dec 09
I absolutely want my children to become good human beings. As far as the other things you listed, I only want them to become one of those things if they want to. Most of all, I want them to be happy and be good people. What they end up doing for a career is not at all important to me, as long as they are happy with what they are doing. I don't think there is any point in doing something that earns a lot of money if you're not enjoying doing it. At first it might be ok, but eventually, even a lot of money can't make you happy if you hate your job.
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• India
18 Dec 09
yes, I think both are important michmich, Am I right? thanks for responding.
• Ecuador
17 Dec 09
i definately want my kids to be good human beings and i just want them to be whatever they want to be as long its good for them
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• India
18 Dec 09
Yes, that is the way you should raise them emilioehs.
@Hatley (152481)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 09
hi I wanted my son to be a good person then to be something to do with computers, and he is a good person but now I dearly want him to be employed again as a computer programmer, hes been out of work now for a dreadfully long time, and this worries me so at heart. Hes fifty so he is no kid.but he has years of computer programming experience so why cannot someone some place here in so ca. hire him. why, why, why?
@vandana7 (55367)
• India
17 Dec 09
Hi Hatley, just hang on! Things will get better. :) Please check your PM. :) Merry Christmas. :)
• India
18 Dec 09
Hatley as vandana said, your son will soon be placed well, may be this delay is good for getting a better job.
@squaretile (3835)
• Singapore
18 Dec 09
I think first and foremost, I would like my child to have a close relationship with Jesus Christ. I think that's really important because my whole life has taken a different perspective, and has got meaning since I became a christian. Secondly, I"d like my child to know that she can follow her dreams and be happy. that her self-worth is not tied up in how clever she is, how many As she gets or how much money she earns in future.
• India
18 Dec 09
If you want your kid to have close relationship with god, then that is enough squaretile. Other things will follow automatically.
• India
18 Dec 09
I really don’t know. Ideally, if it was possible I would have wanted my son to become a vagrant LOL…just the other day, we were discussing a poem by John Masefield and in addition a brief sketch of his life was also given in the textbook. If you know about John Masefield then he was the Poet Laureate of UK in his lifetime but started his life as a wanderer and vagrant in the USA and he just loved roaming the sea. I think that was a most wonderful life to lead but I doubt if ever such things could be possible in India i.e. be a vagrant yet lead a respectable life in society! Other than that, I really have no specific plans for him…let him grow up and then we’ll sit and do a SWOT analysis LOL of the situation and take on from there As for being a good human being, none of us are bad really…it all depends on the situation as to how good we can stay or how bad we become. While being good is definitely welcome, I don’t want him to be stupid and soft, either.
• India
18 Dec 09
I think it is not possible in India sudiptacallingu. of course every one is good when born. We have to raise them into good human beings, is it not?
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
I want my children to become what they really want in life. Just like my parents done to us, they allow us to decide what we really want in our life. in them, if we want something and it turned out that it is bad for us we can still have chances to choose another and we learned from it. I want my children to have kindness and full understanding of life. I want them to have humility and love for nature and animals. I want them to be a good example for others. I will advice them all the good rules so that when I am gone they will still remember it.
• India
18 Dec 09
well said grecy. I wish you have a great life . thanks for responding.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 09
I let them choose their careers that would guarantee their future 'rice bowl'. I am glad my two boys are making a headway in their careers. One is a geo-phycists and one a banker. I guide them to be God fearing and the rest run smoothly as I have molded their characters from young to be what they are now. I have accomplished my mission of shaping up their life.
• India
18 Dec 09
oh that is so nice to hear zandi. I am also a proud father of two lovely sons.
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
18 Dec 09
Well, I do not insist or force my thoughts on my children. I just want them to be a good human being first of all with good character and they have their own wish to become something in this world, and I help them my best to achieve it.
• India
18 Dec 09
yes, yogambal that is the way we should raise our children. thanks for responding.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
18 Dec 09
Dear friend, I just my child to be a human being with humanity. Moreover a person who could withstand and tackle all those he faces in life. May be it all depends upon an individual's choice. As my parents wanted me to become something, but unfortunately I was not able to be upto the wishes of my parents in certain areas. Still they are happy with my present position.
• India
18 Dec 09
yes, parents are always loving shamrack.I wish good luck for your children. thanks for responding.
• China
18 Dec 09
he or she should has good personality and has passion for life, he can do whatever he want,but the thing he do should be moral and legal.
• India
18 Dec 09
Yes, jp well said moral and humanity are very important. thanks for responding.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
18 Dec 09
i want my children to become clever and lovely and healty mind,because of clever,she can easy grasp lots of knowlege and skill to be adapted to social life.because of lovely,someone can like her and give her help.because of healty mind,she can keep silence to face difficulties and failure andovercome this,i dont hope that what she do in the future,i hope that do what she want and make effort for it.
• India
18 Dec 09
Yes smart children make us happy bingchen. thanks for responding.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
18 Dec 09
We gave full freedom for our children to become whatever they want and helped them and supported them accordingly. That was secondary for us. We wanted our children to be good human beings, good citizen and taught all the good habits and culture from the childhood. Many praise my children for their behaviour and nature and I feel very proud of it.
• India
18 Dec 09
oh that is a proud mother and you well deserve that Buchi. thanks for responding.
@yugasini (12813)
• Anantapur, India
18 Dec 09
hi vijayanthas, each and every parents wish to be their children in a big position in the society,for that they choose the education of engineer,doctor,scientist,industrailist,sports champion and lawyer,if if it is their fate they will in above top position if not they may choose other career,that is fate,have a nice day
• India
18 Dec 09
yes, yugasini, all parents want their children to be placed well in the society and contribute good to it.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Hi, v. I just want them to follow their dreams. And I want them to follow God. I want them to be decent law abiding citizens. I want them to be respectable to themselves and to others. What they want to be is a decision that they will have to choose on their own.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 09
Today's world is a world where man tries to outsmart another. I mean to say that since man's needs are getting enormous, they do not care how they amass wealth and comfort. Many parents have no time for their children. The caregivers are maids or baby sitters who may not instill values in children while they grow. Children too, do not bond with their parents since they are busy making money and values are not just taught by teachers in schools. Don't you agree Vijayanth?