Why are some people so vindictive?

@mimpi1911 (25455)
India
December 23, 2009 11:44am CST
I have found some people so vindictive that they not only allow others to be happy but also loses out on the fun in life. They are losers all the way and my prayers for them. Life is something more, something beautiful, something gorgeous. Let's move beyond and look at the rainbow and forget the animosity. Wish you a Merry Christmas and a wonderful New year. Lots of gifts, choc'lates, cakes and lots of love.
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@dpk262006 (52377)
• Delhi, India
24 Dec 09
Hi dear! Let the vindictive people be vindictive. It is not possible to change them. They are brought up in such a fashion that they are taught that being vindictive is good for them. However, in practical realities of their lives they forget that love, affection, kindness and forgiveness is more important than being vindictive. I just fail to understand the mentality of those people who are such. I myself cannot be vindictive, even if such negative thoughts travel in my mind sometimes. If I think rationally, I would like to forgive those who are vindictive to me and would pray "let the Great God may give them some common sense, so that they could improve." I also wish you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I am awaiting for some gifts, chocolates and cake from your end..........lol! Have a great day! Deepak
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
I know deepak. You can never be vindictive and even anything close to that. I have always appreciated your way of living. I have great regards for you since I have known you. You are a great person and above all this. Check you mail box...
@dpk262006 (52377)
• Delhi, India
25 Dec 09
Hi dear! I searched my mail box frantically and discreetly and I searched every conceivable corner of my mail box, however I could not find any chocolates or cakes anywhere. Many thanks for your sweet, kind and soothing words about me. Your acknowledgment, appreciation and applause are MORE than anything for me and nothing could be more precious for me than your considered views about ME. Deepak
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
11 Feb 10
@Sreekala (18778)
• India
24 Dec 09
Hi Mimpi, Merry Christmas to you dear. Thank you very much for your nice and lovely wishes. But the gifts are yet to reach. Forget about those people dear, let us have fun and enjoy.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Thanks dear. Wish you a wonderful Chirtmas Eve and a great day tomorrow. Gifts, choc'lates await you and your kid.
@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
Hmm, are you trying to get my attention with that post mimpi? Maybe you're trying to make me actively participate this holiday season.? With the offering of "Lots of gifts, choc'lates, cakes and lots of love." I cant say the same about the vindictiveness present in other people out there. I really dont know what to do about them. I just try to get out of their way if I can and if we ever do cross paths I would stand up for my rights. Hope these people stop being Scrooge at least for the holidays. Merry Christmas.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Yes, I just hope so. I just wish they forget the negativity and enjoy the fun. What are you plans?
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@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
Eat and eat and eat.LOL We're having pizza and ice cream for Christmas Eve dinner. Then Im not sure what my GrandMa will have cause all the cousins will be there tomorrow.^_^ How about you?
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Really! Have fun and eat eat and eat. I will stay home and enjoy with my mom. My dad is out of station to our country home. So, my mom would prepare something special and i am going to devour it!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
24 Dec 09
I do not detest them but always pity them.How can someone waste the precious life by being vindictive and turn a blind eye to the wonderful things that lie abundant in this beautiful world.How can one choose to be the stupidest?Poor things. And I am waiting for your wish of Chocolate to come true Mimpi. [b]May beautiful moments and happy memories surround you with joy and (chocolates) this Christmas. Wishing you good times, good cheer, and a very Happy New Year![/b]
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
That's so true Bala. And now have a nice treat of your favorite choc'lates..
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@balasri (26577)
• India
24 Dec 09
Chocolates?How can I deny your request mimpi?
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
@chaitra001 (3280)
• Bangalore, India
24 Dec 09
Hi mimpi.. even I have seen some people like that.. who always try to say some thing or the other thing on every matter and make others hurt and unhappy.. these peoples sometimes even discourage others.. what I feel is we should beware of this people and be as away as possible from them to keep our self happy and enjoy our life... Happy New Year Dear..
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Thanks Chaitra for your nice words. Hope you have great plans this weekend. Enjoy and let me know. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
• Bangalore, India
24 Dec 09
yes dear I have planned a holiday of 10 days from my work from tommorrow till Jan 3rd.. I will let you know how I enjoyed my holidays once I am back.. Happy Christmas and New Year to you..
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
I wish the same for you and your family. Have a wonderful time and enjoy every bit of it.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Hi mimpi1911. It is because of low self esteem. These type of people make others feel bad because they are not happy with their lives. They don't know how to be nice They feel if they have it their way then it is all good. But it is not. I don't like to socialize with people that are vindictive. If I see a person acting this way, I will distance myself from this person, pronto. The last thing that I want in my life and around me is vindictive/negative people.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Same here cream. I am a simple person with simple living and simple thinking. Little little good things add upto my emotional bank account and I truly believe that negativity begets negativity. I would rather want a happy kind of person with me who tales life positively. [b] Wish you a Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year.[/b]
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
24 Dec 09
I want only positive things and people only around me. Vindictive people tend to slow me down. Have a Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year too!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Love you for that. Just enjoy life and have a wonderful time tomorrow.
@drannhh (15003)
• United States
24 Dec 09
I know what you are talking about *wink* *wink* and I agree. I did buy chocolate today, not for others but for myself! I bought two kinds of chocolate cake and chocolate candy too. Yayyy, me~! As for those vindictive people although they may be in our prayers, perhaps Santa Claus will not bring them ANY chocolate.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
I just wish Santa gives them some good thoughts and some self evolving choc'lates so that they know that life is worth living and worth living well.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
11 Feb 10
Absolutely Alice!!!
@bhav27 (443)
• India
24 Dec 09
some people are really like this , may be they are unable to forget what happen with them in past so that's why they are like this , i will take example of me and my sister , she is very vindictive as she never forget anything happen in her life and this result in many fights with many people whereas i never remember anything happened with my life so i never fight with any one and mostly i am friendly with every one so it depends upon everyones nature , there is no ones control on this behavior of the person.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
26 Dec 09
Thanks for being so honest bhav. I really appreciate the way you are. I think forgetting some things in life makes us a better human and helps in progression in life.
@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
24 Dec 09
Most people that are vindictive are unhappy. They don't see life in the happy sense that you do. They are miserable, and they take it out on everyone around them. It's sad, because the way they behave pushes people away from them, and they desperately need other people in their lives. It's like just when they need people most, no one wants to be around them which makes the whole situation worse.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Sad, isn't it! I think people suffer a bad consequence of a bad choice they make in life. A lot of things come in this but the end result is sadness. I just wish people be happy and beautiful.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
24 Dec 09
Vindictiveness is a sign of insecurity and jealousy. If your have achieved something that this other individual would like to achieve but has been unable to, he or she will do whatever is in his or her power to bring you down and sadly, sometimes they are successful...It is a shame but these types of folks are everywhere, some are even here! The best thing to do is take the higher road and send them a prayer that they will one day take a good look at themselves and decide it’s time to change. Merry Christmas to you too, chocolate...Yum!!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
You are lovely! I am just trying to do that Paula, to my utter peace and sanity. Love you.
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@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
24 Dec 09
I have often asked myself that question. My ex is being very vindictive. I think because I made him leave our marriage. He wanted to stay, for financial reasons, not because he loved me. He cant get his mind around that and I guess its the same for other peiople who are seeking revenge and being vindictive. I think sometimes people just cant see both sides, and they feel life or someone else has treated them badly. Basicly I think that it is a personality disorder.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
I am sorry about that Jenny. This certainly a personality disorder due to so many factors. They are pitiable at the end of the day and I just wish you get better.
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
Some people are just plain miserable so they also want to make other people's lives miserable. That way they wouldn't have to feel so sorry about their own lives. lol. Have a meaningful Christmas, mimpi. ^^ ~sb
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Hahaha....I think you are right. That was surely one shot of wisdom. Here wishing you a merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
@dong88 (794)
• China
24 Dec 09
You are right nice! Yes,let us forget all the hatred,all the pain and make our life becomes happy and full of sunshine, our devotion out of love,friendship and treat us in contact with people.Merry christmas!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Thanks d9ong. That's so well said. Let's forget the hatred and start afresh. Hope you have a merry Christmas a wonderful New year.
@lilgold (89)
• United States
24 Dec 09
people are born different
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Oh yeah they are. But it's proven that the negative streaks develop due to cumulative patterns in the environment, family, circumstances and upbringing. Genetics only play a little part. Merry Christmas.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
24 Dec 09
These people make themselves and others soooo miserable, and unnecessarily. I've always felt that somewhere deep inside, they do not like themselves, and hence they just allow themselves to be mean spirited and take that self-loathing out on others. Wish you many Christmas blessings, too, Mim :) Karen
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Self-loathing does make us not love others as well. This is sad. I just wish we have more self-esteem to face life. that would make living easier and more beautiful.
@Hatley (152297)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Dec 09
hi mimpi my dad used to say of a vindictive person he is soured on the milk of human kindness. I have known people like that that are soured on everything that they want to make you act like them. Life is really just about what you can make it, I know we all have some problems we cannot solve right now so smile, be happy any wary and you will start to feel happier. Merry Christmas to you and yours and a very Happy New Year too.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Thanks dear. Yes, life is but hurdles and we need to live it with smiles. Thanks for your inspiration and I am much happier now than I was a few years ago. Wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
@ToughTate (143)
• United States
23 Dec 09
So many people nowadays focus on the past or future that they don't see the 'present' in front of them. Thinking about hate or anything negative only leads to more negativity and depression. I agree, life is meant to be enjoyed, loved, and fulfilled to the fullest. People need to start thinking about doing good things for people or the good things they've done for you. All the best.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Couldn't have expressed it better. Like thoughts attract like thoughts and from negativity we move on to more negativity and it spoils the essence of living.
@alokn99 (5718)
• India
23 Dec 09
The reasons for thier vindictiveness could be a sense of insecurity or in some cases because they have vindicted by someone. Either way i would say it's not the way to be. They don't get too far by trying to bring down people around them. It only causes thier downfall. You are right Mimpi, they should learn to enjoy life more and get the best out of sharing, encouraging and looking at things with optimism. It's the holiday and christmas season and it's the best time to spread the cheer. May they see the brighter side of things and learn to enjoy life more. Merry Christams and a very Happy New year to you too. The plum cakes for me please...
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
24 Dec 09
Thanks Alok for your response. I feel there is no excuse being vindictive and no reason should be good enough to bite back. As humans we have some responsibilities which do not really ask us to be revengeful. There are ways we can tackle animosity. However, some are born like that.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 09
Mimpi it will never change there will always be People like that about no matter what but they have to live with themselves, they will never find Happiness because they have decided to be bitter all their Life Happy New Year to you to hugs