Members who only respond.

Happy new year Ramesh! I stand accused! Guilty of not starting many discussions I hope that you will find my resons valid. When I start a discussion I must do so when I am certain that I can comment to the first users who respond. This is a personal thing of mine but I never just 'throw' a discussion onto the page and walk off. I am here both from home and work and though it may seem that I am here 24 hours a day, that is not how it is as I come and go therefore it is not always possible for me to comment back immediately. Many of my own discussions are indeed aimed at the newer users and they keep receiving responses from them even though some are over a year old. I have comments to make on those too. Once I start commenting the banter back and forth starts, more responses arrive and I am sometimes overwhelmed with how many. I think you were not on a recent discussion which received 150+ responses in the first 36 hours after posting and I was involved on all of them with back and forth comments. Great fun but I cannot possibly do that often as I have not that amount of time available (sadly). I prefer responding. Sometimes I stick to one discussion commenting on all of the responses, and sometimes on several. I feel that each one of us comes to myLot for their own personal reason. Mine is to have fun. It is not a job. I get my fun by cruising all over the place I hope that answers your question and I do not end up in your 'black book'

some of us seniors have discussed pretty much everything already which is why we dont start many discussions we dont want to start repeat discussions so we simply add our input on someone else's discussions even though we have responded to several just like it in the past we can choose to be active here however we like and no one has the right to tell us that we have to do things a certain way or that we HAVE to start discussions we have the freedom to CHOOSE

Hi Ramesh Well, I’m guilty of not starting any discussions but don’t berate me. I have my own reasons for this. First of all, I enjoy discussing and replying to my friends here instead of bothering them with my own problems. Secondly, whenever I’ve started any discussions, the responses have been quite a few and in replying to all of them, I could get no time to respond to other’s discussions. I start discussions only when I am in some deep trouble coz I believe that friends here have given me some very good advise in the past.

Well, you have a point there, if those that are complaining about discussions that are pointless and useless, it maybe to them. On the same token silly as it may sound could be useful to others. Who knows. I myself doesn't start to many discussions, I just don't. No real reason other than usually if I have an idea, it has already been posted. So I just respond. Lately I haven't been in as much still I respond more than start discussions. It can be fun and interesting to see the way others answer. Happy New Year, I hope it is a better year for everyone.

Hi ramesh, don't even think about referring to me as senior unless you fancy a clip round the head, can't you come up with a better word than that, it resonates with old age? I start, comment and respond but almost invariably just as a discussion is winding up there's a few memebers come along with less than 20 posts to their name who haven't read any part of the topic and just drop in a one liner of no relevance. I find this annoying as if there is nothing to contribute don't do it. I don't feel that anything here though should be thought of as duty, if it was I wouldn't post on here. I think its up to people to do as they wish and number of posts has nothing to do with quality disussions anyway. In my opinion if anyone starts a discussion and fails to comment back then I'm not interested in their discussions no matter if one post or 20,000.

Hi Ramesh, I think we are all welcome to start a good discussion here--regardless of us being senior or new. i love responding to my mylot friends new discussions. i seldom write or start a new topic. all that i have in mind are already here. so to avoid duplication and the risk of being deleted, i just content myself to responding. i really enjoyed responding friend and hopefully this year i will make a new discussion once a week. Happy new year ramesh!

hi ramesh i respond to good discussions, sometimes we can find them lieing in the "no response" category .. i start discussion on n off depending on my mood swing .. i disappear sometimes due to some personal commitments .. i dont respond to some of my friends discussion if the topic is of no interest to me cheers

Hello, Ramesh. I only start a discussion when I feel I have something new to say. I do, however, make a point of responding to discussions started by new members and offering advice, help and friendship. I always used to go into guideline-breaking discussions and advise people that they shouldn't do it, but my advice was always ignored, and I lost a lot of posts because of it. My time on MyLot is precious to me, and I don't want to waste it on somebody who won't listen. I want to be out there responding to quality discussions like yours!

I am actually not one of the members that is guilty of this. I try to think of a quality discussion to start every day, but I don't like to start more than one discussion in a given day because then I don't have the time to properly attend to the discussion that I have started. The exception to this comes into play when there is something that is going on in my life which I view to be a pressing issue. I try to respond to more discussions than I start. However, I do also always try to talk to the people that have taken the the to respond to the discussions that I have started. That is just how I've judged it to be the most efficient.

I'm glad that I'm not one that complains. I love to comment on what other people think and get paid for it (even though it's not much, it sure does add up). I never started a discussion and I don't think I will need to for a while.

I'm barely 17 days old here in myLot and I started 50 discussions already. I'm eager to read responses from my readers and so far I'm overwhemed with the responses I get. I have difficulty in responding in some discussions because I cant relate with the topic. I hope to read more quality post.

i start 3 discussions then i decide to stop giving new ones. for i find that is not very easy to start a new discussion. starting a new discussion is not just start a new one whatever , i expect more responses on my discussion. if there's no response, i'll be sad to see that. so i stop to start new one till i have good discussions. that's my answer. happy new year!

Hear hear. I'm a newbie here and in my short stay here I noticed the quality of the posts i am seeing here..some really are very informative and some really are dumb. I also read somewhere that the quality of posts here in mylot is quite different now than before. Nowadays I am seeing grammatical errors and words that are incorrect in spelling. Let us help each other to give this site quality.

hi friend not a problem beacause now you became a senior as i joined later than you.now tel me friend same question going to you .i will be waiting for your responce.oh,sorry sorry i just forgot to say something ,now i am telling "wish you happy new year 2010".god bless you for all your dreams ,aims ,goals.

I usually respond and seldom start a new discussion. discussions are not at all useless, u may say that they are repeated discussions but mylot is so old that its tough to bring out good new discussions and so the discussions are quite the same or boring at instances.

yes...i was also among them a few days or months back...due to lack of new ideas..it sometimes happen that we feel it easier to respond rather than discussing on new topic....i rarely complain about anyone's way to write..many times i try to help newbies..and tell them to write more and explain their points properly instead of one-liners....rest..i leave..if i feel like responding to particular discussion ..i respond..or else i skip..recently i started few discussions...which were really i needed to discuss...tc !!!

i usually don't have much worth writing about or asking. so won't start a discussion, i will respond long as i can put in something useful. but i do get a bit fed up with the same sort of dicussions, eg how you lost your virginty. things that others don't always need to know about.

I do start discussions at times, but I would mch rather post responses to other discussons. It is very difficult to come up with a decent enough topic to get anyone to respond. I have had some that got just very few responses, and a few that have more than 30 responses. I haven't been that lucky to receive over 100 responses to any of my discussions. They seemed to fizzle out way before that, but that is how it goes sometimes. I am not really worried about it, as I am just glad that I got responses at all. I have tried to hlep the newbies out many times as I will respond to their useless discussions, which some are, as they are pretty much all the same anymore. I let them know that their discussion will probably be deleted because it is one tht has been asked and answered many times. If they would only read the guidelines first, then they wouldn't have to ask the same questions over and over. Good luck to you, happy mylotting, and Happy New Year.

a lot of us are not good at starting a new or any disussions at all. I know you mean well, but it is rather easier to give advice and help someone, than starting a new discussion. We love to respond and fair or not, the younger generation always have something to be helped with. But i promise we will try out best to highlight anyones day, the moment we think of something to discuss.

Actually that's a good point. If your going to complain about something, than you should be willing to do something to change it. I have only been on Mylot for a little over a week, and so far many of the more experienced users have been very friendly and helpful, while others just seem to complain alot. So just to put it out there, everyone please just think before you type.