giving up one's dreams and ambitions for mom!
By Winky
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
Boston, Massachusetts
January 10, 2010 12:20am CST
my youngest sister who worked hard in trying to go to the US for work made it in 2008. she was given the visa to work in cruise ship as a nutritionist in the ship restaurant. before reaching her first month in florida, usa-- my father died. she decided to go back home where she was allowed by the cruise management. she was only in her 21st day in her job but filed vacation leave for our father's death.
now she's home with mom. she chose not to go back to florida, usa and pursue her dreams. she chose mom than her ambition to work and earn dollars. i admire her guts and even love her for that. my sister is still single and not planning to get marrie dyet. she hasd a boyfriend who's so patient and understanding. evcer willilng to wait for the right time that my sister willbe ready to marry her. my sister is already 29 years old.
she's into cakes, pastries and food cart business. she's hardworking and a sweet daughter and sister. i know she will be successful. i am proud that she is my sister. her name is mary rose!how about you do you know of any story of giving up one'sdreams and ambitions for the family? please share. thanks!
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15 responses
@will_win (222)
• India
27 Jul 10
Your sister is great who had sacrifice her dreams for her mom but she have to think for her future ....it doesn't meant that she have to leave her mom ,she can continuous her life with her boy by getting married and staying with her mom..........but i am really proud of her and she proved that she is a good daughter ........nowadays world is changing who will sacrifice there dreams instead they they go against there family.........i hope you will be same as now..good luck.........may god bless your family
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Jul 10
Hi Will_win,
I am happy to tell you that my sister and her boyfriend finally tied the knot or got married last June. She's now pregnant and so happy to start a new family. Most of the time she stayed at mom's house. Her husband is so considerate and understanding that my sister is looking after mom and being with her most of the time. I am so proud of her!
THanks for dropping by.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
it takes a lot of courage, love, and some amount of sacrifice to do something like what your sister just did for your mom. she is admirable. from your responses to the discussion, you clearly describe how proud you are and how close your family is. you've been brought up well too by your parents. not all children are willing to do some sacrifices when it's their personal ambition that's at stake. but your sister clearly knew what she wanted and what she had to do. good family you have, good values you learned, i believe. cheers to your family!
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@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
hello msfrancisco!
looks like you are surrounded with nice and kind hearted people... and thumbs up for your sister! she's so great to be able to sacrifice her dreams & ambitions for your mom...very few people can really do that nowadays! and i admire her for that!
i know she will not regret her decision coz i always believe that greater blessings are coming to those people who knows how to love and care their parents...God is preparing something better for them!
i know she will not regret her decision coz i always believe that greater blessings are coming to those people who knows how to love and care their parents...God is preparing something better for them!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
she's not only a good daughter, she's also a great sister. what else can i say except--thanks god for giving me mary rose as my ever darling youngest sister. she will always be my baby!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
Hi Ckyera,
i just read your PM thanks for that. well, i too believes in that--if you take care of your parents you will surely receive more blessings or you will be greatly blessed. i know right now she's already enjoying the blessings that she deserves and a lot more will be coming for her. thanks friend!
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Your sister has a very generous heart; your mother must be very proud of her to sacrifice that way. 29 is not that old too still be single but time has a way of catching up; she should start thinking about marriage if she wants to have children of her own.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
12 Jan 10
That is awesome! It's great that your mother is so supportive of your sister's business efforts!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
Hi Canellita,
I just called her last night and told her that I made a discussion about her in mylot. She was so touched and happy upon learning it. I asked her any update about her getting married. She told me that she’s contemplating on it and tentatively scheduled next year. She’s so busy wither food cart business and mini bakeshop. Of course, she wants to have a baby that’s why she’s also considering settling down. Mom is really proud of her for making that tough decision. Mom is ever supportive of her in her business. Mom is enjoying doing some stuff for the food cart even marketing some ingredients for the pizza roll.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
10 Jan 10
My parents married each other later in life because both were busy helping support and care for their aging parents, and their siblings had moved away or gone to college.
I think it was wonderful of them to do so. This was in the days before social security and retirement plans. I commend them both! And yet they went on to raise the eight of us. They were/are such great role models, and now, we all help to take care of my 86 year old mom, who has lived for 2 years with my brother and his wife.
Karen@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
that's great karen please extend my hugs to your mom. i will include her in my prayers for a peaceful life at 86. i know it's not too late yet for my sister. i wish her all the happines and success in life. mom will be taken cared of by all her children. we take turns in visiting her and all of us present for some special occasions. i know dad is hjappy with the kind of love and support we are giving to our mom. at least my sister is there with her 24/7.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
...cheers to that. let's make everyone's remaining days in this world significant, happy worth remembering. i am always looking forward to taking my vacation to be with mama.
@shibham (16977)
• India
10 Jan 10
At first some claps for her that she has sacrified her dream for family. I didnt ever heard this type of instance. It is realy admirable but i think she needs some mental support so that she can easily forget her past. Sometimes a lamentation rises when we think about our past in lonely situation. Some kinds of agony. So relief her from it. Anyway i applaud your sis. Lol.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
Hi Shibam,
THanks for that. i will extend you and the rest of those who responded her their affirmation about her decision. yes, i am always here regualrly texting her and following up on her. we are bestfriend and i know when she's not fine and okay. now, i can say that things are going well with her. mom and the rest of the family are all supportive of her.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
yes...we have a happy and healthy family relationship. we never had a great fight or misunderstanding. i salute my parents for bringing us the best that we can be. we develop the love and respect for each other without any sibling rivalry. we too appreciated each other's uniqueness, weaknesses and strengths.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
10 Jan 10
Hi msfrancisco, wht a wonderful story of love. Your sister is an amazing person, and I'm sure she will eventually have a happy married life. Good luck to you and your family.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
11 Jan 10
Hi Mipen,
Yes, rose is really amazing. she surprised us with her decision even mom. but of course mom appreciated it very much. she's with mom in her process of grief and acceptance of my dad's loss. she used to accompany her hear mass and visit dad's grave. i admire her so much that's why i can't help myself express this admiration and this discussion is dedicated to her!
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
12 Jan 10
I admire your sister for her big heart to leave her dreams and dollars and choosing to stay with your mom to be of support to her. When the whole world is going behind money, here is a heart who gives importance to relationships. Hats off to her. My appreciation to her boyfriend to wait for your sister. That shows how much he really loves her. If it is not for pride that I am telling this, I gave all the money earned before marriage, to my father and even took a big fat loan and gave that to him for my younger sister's marriage, before I got married and went to my husband's place. The loan I paid from my salary that I earned after my marriage. My husband not only kept quiet for this but made me take 100% provident fund withdrawal and give to my father for my sister's marriage. My sister is happy now with a good married life and that is enough for me.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
Hi Buchi,
That's a lot. I salute you too for financially helping your sister with her wedding. she's blessed now i know based on your story but you will be blessed more with the generosity you showed to your sister. You have a great parents for ensuring that you love and support each other in all ways. Hugs to you and your parents. My sister is happy knowing all your comments and commendation. now she is more certain that she made the right decision. her story inspired other people and even changed others lives.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Jan 10
Your sister deserves a lot of respect for doing that. Hopefully she will still be able to pursue her dream in some other way.
Well I can't think of anybody right off the top of my head other than a guy I used to work with who moved from California back to the state he came from (Minnesota maybe) to be with his elderly parents who weren't doing so well any more.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
I too have full respect to people who truly loves their parents to the point of giving up their dreams and ambitions. I know there are other ways to reach her goal and I know she’s doing it now. I am praying that everything will go smoothly in her life. I am happy for her that she has a loving and supportive boyfriend (her boyfriend since highschool)…they’re both into business and I know they will surely succeed. Thanks Dawn.
Your friend has a great heart too!
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Hi msfrancisco,
Your sister is truly a blessing to your mom and to the whole family. Very few would sacrifice their dreams for the sake of their parents. It's good that she has her true love who is just waiting to marry her. Maybe work abroad is not for her, maybe her life is really meant to be spent with this guy. Indeed, things happen for a reason.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
Hi Doryvien,
You're right. her boyfriend is scared of allowing her to go abroad. he's happy that rose is here with mom. he's happy that they have productive time together by being partner in the food business. i hope they'll make not only in business but with their plans of settling and hopefully next year. thanks for dropping by. i miss you friend.
Doryvien---1000 post is just near the corner...it's just a few articles/responses away. gogogogogogogogogogogogogo!
@sutent (1060)
• China
11 Jan 10
Hi msfrancisco,
I really appreciate your sister decision.
Most of us have some dreams and ambitions to realize when we are child and youth. But when we grou up, we have have to make a choice between our dreams and living pressure, lovers or some other things. In my opinion, it is good to choose our lovers, relatives.
And now, i had gave up my primary major and work in a new occupation for a better life as well as relifing my parents' burden. But i am not regret this choice. In my opinion, it is very common in current society.
In my opinion, your sister will success if she still insist on her belief.
Have a good day.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
11 Jan 10
Hi Sutent,
Let me congratulate too for that tough decision. I am happy that you are happy and fine with the kind of decision you made same with my sister. she's definitely happy not only with the change in outlook as far as her US dream is concerned but the moment of being with mom. she made mom so happy with her presence. she's doing good with her business in partnership with her boyfriend and of course with mom.
Good luck and stay happy with your life now!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Jan 10
I think that what your sister is doing is very admirable. I too gave up my own hopes and dreams, but not for my mother, although if she would have needed me to I would have done it for her. I gave up my dream of becoming a physician when I got pregnant with my oldest daughter. Now, I am a stay at home mother to two wonderful children, my daughter is seven now and my son is three and I couldn't imagine my life being any different than it is today.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
Hi Dorann,
Your two precious gems are more important than your ambition of being a physician. Being mom is the greatest role in the world. Your kids must be so lucky for having you as their loving mom. I know they will do the same too. Our friends and relatives admired her kind-heart and loving soul for being happy to stay with mom.
@acer5540 (354)
• China
12 Jan 10
You have a good sister!While i'm the single child of my family.So is my husband.We go to colleague in another city which is far away from home, we can work in that city,and have a good salary than now, but we choice go back home.It is a small city, though we don't live with parents, we lived close.We can go home to see them easily, have a lunch with them,company with them...
I think there are many things we should do than earn much money, after the truth of life is love, enjoy,not money all the time.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Jan 10
Hi Acer,
Yes you are right. I am happy that you chose to stay near your parents to enjoy each other’s presence and company more often. Money will always be there—but the lives of our parents and loved ones will be spent only once on earth. So whatever things that we can do to make them happy and feel loved we need to do it—NOW ‘cause tomorrow maybe too late. Of course we need money, but love and care is more important than money. As a family you can do so much to earn and support each other than earning money alone without feeling any affection from your loved ones or so far away with them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this.
@leebay_ube (7)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
Hi msfrancisco9369!
Your parents did a great job in raising you. It takes great sacrifice to do what your sister has done. That's a genuine example of unconditional love. God bless!
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
Hi Leebay,
I know...my parents are just great to make us respond to challenges like this one positively. my sister has a great heart and i really salute her for this major decision that she made. mom is so proud of her but felt sad too for giving up her dreams. but as i can see it...she is definitely happy now with mom and her business. her boyfriend is always there to. hopefully they'll finally get married next year!
@vandana7 (99067)
• India
10 Jan 10
Hi msfrancisco, that is very touching. Why couldn't she take mom to Florida? That would make her feel better and mom would not feel guilty that daughter had to give up her aspirations. Well, hopefully there will be right opportunities. I think there must be. May be something better is in store for her. As to somebody else giving up their life, I do know of a lady who had the responsibility of her younger brother and sister. She never got married and spent her entire life for these youngsters. Brother's wife did not give her the required esteem. Now she is no more. But I do feel not everybody can be that good. We should not expect everybody to be like that. Its better they pursue their dreams rather spend their time resenting such sacrifices.
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
10 Jan 10
hi vandana,
mom does not want to travel abroad. she preferred to stay home in our country. my sister is fine now as she pursue her dreams in food business with mom and her boyfriend. she graduated with a degree in nutrition and dietitics. so there are lots of opportunities here for her. if ever she will be in florida most of her time will be in the cruise so it will be hard living mom alone by land while my sister is on cruise.
i know there is something in store for my sister. if ever she needs to go abroad and that's her fate so be it. by then mom will be fine as she already processed dad's loss.
