Why is it always so difficult to decide?

@leateagee (3667)
China
January 13, 2010 11:32pm CST
As we grow older when being ask "Which one do you ...?" "What do you ...?" I've noticed that it takes us sometime to respond. When we were young its so easy to say "I like pink." "I want ice cream please." "I don't like it." and so on. But as we grow it takes a lot of time to answer. And this decision making often happens in restaurants, doing shopping, family matters. Please share your opinions. I haven't listed the reasons to give you opportunities to express yours. have a good time! Thank you!
18 responses
@tap0991 (2767)
• United States
14 Jan 10
well its only a matter a time as people drill think before you act that into your head that it gets through.
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
I agree with your thoughts tap0991! It's better to think a million times first before you decide in order to avoid blaiming your self.
@masay7 (89)
• Gambia
14 Jan 10
For me its the fact that, as you grow up, you are prejudiced by your interactions and experiences, so you always want to answer based on a perception developed over a period. For example who is your favourite politician? The ans will depend on your political ideology... got my point now:)
@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jan 10
Yes. Yes. Yes. Growing older means growing wiser and making life a little messier. hahaha. Because of the choices and experiences that we try to rely or compare or whatever we do with it, we forgot the benefit of our concerns. Thanks guys!
• China
14 Jan 10
Hello,leateagee.I think ther're many reason account for this.When we grow older and have a chance to choose,we feel ambiguous,because we want to make the best choice.We know if we choosed one,we must give up the other one.But sometimes we just want both.When we were young,we wouldn't think of too much,we just take what we most wanted at that time.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jan 10
Of course, the best choice. For everything that we choose we always weigh the consequences. It's either for the benefit of ourselves or for others. We become selfless. We care for others more than ourselves so we always think a million times befre we act. We don't want to hurt anybody. Thanks for sharing!
• China
16 Jan 10
HEhe,your English is much better than my.You just said what I want to say.Hope we can become friends.
@online_jon (1478)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Honestly, for every decision in life it's very hard to decide because one single mistake will be worst. Sometimes when you decide a certain thing you can no longer return you desision, like when buying. When you buy a certain thing on mall you can no longer as for a change on it because the receipt of it already in your hand. Like in real life when you decide to be bad and die, you will be thrown in hell and forever pain you will receive. But if you are good and die, your soul will go in heaven and feel the happiness with all your heart.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
15 Jan 10
There are consequences in everything that we do. Bad or good. Positive attracts positive, or negative attracts negative. Which means if you look at a certain thing in the mall and you think it doesn't look good or meaning you have second thoughts abut it well, it will turn out not to be good. It's difficult to practice, think positive to have a positive day, but try one. We have purposes for choosing to be bad or good. Thanks for sharing!
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
16 Jan 10
I have very definite likes and dislikes and very definite opinions and have no trouble expressing them. It doesn't mean that I'm insensitive about it, but, I know exactly what I like and what I don't like. I've never had any problems expressing myself. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Because sometimes we don't know what we want. We make a decision and very tough decision so that we will not regret when we finally have it. We don't have to take a blame or blame someone, so we really have to have a decision even it is difficult to decide. When my mother have a problems, they share it to us and sometimes what is our decision will be her decision too. She is depending on us and she knows when we decide it will be good for her. We need to decide carefully, for our life is at stake on some decision, much more when it is about a problem.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Making decisions isn't that easy. When we were still a child making decisions isn't that hard since the things that we decide our the things that we like and no big deal to others. But as we grow up, making decisions become too difficult especially if it involves our future and family. When we decide to something we need to think it very hard and if possible enough time so that we can realize the circumstances that might happen after the decision. Of course, we also need to trust ourselves in deciding on something because if we don't have any trust on it then our decisions will be end up of nothing and problems. We should always think very hard and examine all the possible results may happen with these we feel at peace to our decision.
• United States
15 Jan 10
Gee this question is a tough one and I think it is because of the fact that we lost touch with ourselves thing about it when we were younger we were so sure of ourselves and had alot of trust in the choices we made but as we grew older we tend to notice that well we made some small mistakes along the way and lost the ability to have trust in the choices we choose to make. Then after awhile we just lose faith cause we don't know what would of happened if we made the other choice.
@josh_box (17)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
cause as we grow up or in our daily life we incounter dicion that we learn after if its good or bad so as we grow older we are having dificulty to dicide since we already learn a lot of things.
@ratsalad (11)
14 Jan 10
Im sorry but I do not agree with your comment,hold on, thinking about it, yes I do agree.Well I sort of understand.Ill get back to you...
@peavey (16876)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I think it's because, when we are young, we don't stop to think how our choices will affect us. Ice cream? Bring it on! Pink or blue? You don't stop to think that you may have to live with that choice. As we get older, we realize that those choices mean more than just what we happen to like at the moment. Ice cream can put on pounds or make our blood sugar spike. Color choices change daily and sometimes, hourly, depending on our moods, so we want to make the choice that we can live with over time. Wisdom takes time to assert itself.
• Hong Kong
14 Jan 10
Hi leateagee, First thing comes to my mind after reading your question is when we grow older we know more, then we have more choices, so it takes a long time to choose. It is the simpliest answer. Second, I think when we grow older, we know how to care for others. So when we make a decision, we have to think not just for ourselves but others, too. That is less self-centre. Third, we know the world more. When we have to make a decision, we do think about the result sometimes. So, it bothers us much if we wanted to have serveral good results (greedy), or in opposite, we do not want any of the results, but we must choose one way to go for (difficulty). Of course, there are many more reasons. I think the most important reasons is our minds become too complicated, not as simple as when we were young. :) Have a good day! agonyaunt69 (1:35am 15 Jan 2010, Hong Kong time)
@MrKennedy (1994)
14 Jan 10
Because as we get older, we grow wiser and more responsible. Therefore, it takes us longer to respond than it would when we were younger because we think about the question being asked more and mull over the consequences more carefully based on past experiences, preferences and such.
@megamatt (14326)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Our minds are more complex. When we are younger, we enjoy simpler things. However, as we get older, we think even more. We think to the point where we overthink. I think we outsmart ourselves. Making simple things more complex then they really should be. Life can be simple but we tend to have so many options and weigh the positives and the negatives, that it can be far more complex than ever before.
@Wizzywig (7859)
14 Jan 10
Maybe everything seems simple when we're young because we only have a limited knowledge of the world. When we're young we can just make a decision based on how we feel at the time because there is only "now". As we get older we think of possible consequences - "will it give me indigestion/make my breath smell/raise my cholesterol etc etc" or we wonder if we can afford it/if it will suit us/what other people will think (maybe)In family matters we (hopefully) have the maturity to consider how our decision may affect others.
• India
14 Jan 10
Hello, When we were young we only cared about petty things. A wooden toy would be more valuable possession of a child than a diamond pendant. We were satisfied so easily. Our wish list was rather too short. But as we've grown older, we've realized that there are stuffs that are precious than ice cream and toys. A more serious choice than one that we used to make choosing which color to wear. Its just that our interest levels are shifted towards something else. We don't focus on petty things anymore. So when somebody asks about our choice we are in real trouble. An entire process of shifting our focus back to the basics, starts. This takes effort and time. That is why it has become difficult for us to make certain choices, and easy to make some others. God bless you Take care
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I guess when we are getting older we are more keen with what will happen if we choose this decision or the other that's why we don't usually rush things up. And of course we are getting mature and probably have learned from the experiences in the past so we are weighing things up before having a decision.
14 Jan 10
Hi leateagee, I think when we are adult whe attend to ditter, can't make up our minds and thinking ifs or buts, decisions, decisions, decusions, lol! Tamara
@nautilus33 (1831)
14 Jan 10
Hi! For me it's still the same! I have no problems with deciding which one to choose or how to make something! Even I am getting faster- I just go in in the first store and buy the shoes or t-shirts I like! It is so simple!