How would you view this?

me and my boyfriend also have a combined family, i have two of my own and he has 6 of his own. when we are asked about our kids he says he has 6 and I say I have two. The only time he may mention my kids as being his are when we are out and someone calls he will tell him that he is out with his family or when he sees someone he may say this is my lady and my step kids. I'm not sure why your boyfriend is not acknowledging your kids or even the one that you both have together. It doesnt necessarily mean he doesn't consider you guys a family or you are wasting your time. Try just talking to him about it and let him know how you feel. My kids real father is the same way, although he has tatooes of my daughters name he doesn't have our sons name, and he does for his girlfriends kids and nothing for ours. So just talk to him and let him know that you consider them a family and ask how he feels.

Typically when we get frustrated over a relationship issue is when we haven't talked to our significant other about the issue first. If you don't know what's going on in his mind, why he didn't include the child you two have together from his own mouth you won't be able to resolve this within yourself. First ask him, (kindly i might add, no discussion started with anger ever ends well) why your child's name is not on that. Ask him if he sees you and him as a family. If not, then what? Get answers without getting angry at any of them at first. Resist the temptation to yell and storm out. Once you find out what's going on in his head then and only then you can decide whether you are wasting time on him or not. The fact that you have a child together is probably the one main thing holding you two together. So If you want a father figure in your kids life, be sure to give him a full opportunity to prove his is worthwhile. I wont' say anything about the summer incident cause I just have a one sided answer to give. Take care good luck.

Hi message, I can very much relate to this. I was in almost the same situation with my youngest daughter's dad. He had 2 kids and I had 3 from previous marriage and together we had one. He did tend to favor his kids over mine while I viewed them all and treated them all equally. He disciplined my kids harsher than his own. We got into many arguments regarding this sort of thing and it drove us apart. Maybe family therapy could help you work through this. I have been told that it is extremely difficult to blend families. I have t o say that I think that's true.

messageme, I always believe in speaking up when something is wrong or bothering you in a relationship. I am sorry but I really cannot answer on his behalf on how he perceives issues especially about his family. Yet, I am wondering if what he mentions or fails to mention in his Facebook is really important to the relationship. I feel that he may perceive things differently or rather tends to be superficial with non direct issues like contents in a social networking account. And,I feel that there are just more important issues to consider if accepting him back is worth you while. I am sure nothing is more important than relating well with both all the children and you, here. Has he changed for the better since his comeback? Are the both of you relating well? In all fairness, what happens or posting in Facebook is of no relevance to a good relationship and that the both of you are finding each other the right fit here. Take care.

I think u know the answer to your own question! My opinion YES, u are wasting your time.

He didn't think enough of you to marry you even after you had his baby, so why would you think he respects you and your child enough to acknowledge them. You are just the convenient tramp he mistakenly had a child with. You allowed him to treat you bad, and only you can respect yourself enough to change his behavior. Think of the example you are setting for all your kids. Not good.

I think it's no surprise that men think differently then women.....I wouldn't read anything into it....but bluntly ask so you have the answer or inform him of what you expect....good for you for giving him another chance....but start communicating so you do have a chance to make it together!

I think you have gotten the answer. He has listed who he considers his family. It is very hard to believe that he just happened to leave off the other children's names. Of course you're not going to really know until you ask him but I do believe a lot of men are "action oriented" meaning that they show their feeling through their behavior while women are more comfortable expressing their feeling verbally. So even if you ask him he may still deny that he doesn't feel the same way about the other kids. He may also be "hiding" the other kids from someone from a previous relationship who uses facebook and he doesn't want them to see the other children.