Do I Intimidate?

@SomeCowgirl (32270)
United States
February 7, 2010 5:18pm CST
I'm big and grotesque, my hair's always a mess. My voice is quite burly, my tone not quite nice, but I smile, and I laugh, I'm comical without an act. Yet people do judge, they see what they want, do I intimidate you? Have you ever seen someone in a crowd and thought "he must be a con artist?" or "he must ride motorcycles?" or "she must be a harlot?" I know I have!
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Feb 10
Yes, I sure have as well. I see people dressed a certain way and I do tend to pass judgement on them. I do try to wait until I have interacted with them to place a final judgement however. Sometimes I am wrong! I think over the years I have gotten pretty good at pegging people for who they are. I can read a person pretty well.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
10 Feb 10
On mine and my husband's only vacation thus far (we don't like to go on vacations alone!) we were waiting for the restauraunt / cabin reservation office to open, and there were some people who came riding in on motorcycles. My husband told me to get out of the truck, but I told him we should wait, I was scared of the bikers. It's not that they were intimidating, but more that I had judged them. I think that t.v. has a lot to do with the way people see another, you know? Well now It doesn't bother me at all. It's not that I had never seen someone on a motorcycle before either, it's just, I suppose the way they looked scared me.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Feb 10
And they want you to feel that way.
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
hello somecowgirl... I too have a messy hair..Every morning i do always take a bath and my wet hair is better... But when it dries out its like the tail of the horse its very rough and dry and it like I just came from a ride.. that why my friends call me an insance person when I dont pony it. But I Dont care, I feel more comfortable when my hair stay the way it is.. at least It doesn't stinks...
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
8 Feb 10
My hair is often messy, I don't like to comb it, but I am not that person. I was trying to describe the stereotypical motorcyclist... My question was really, does that type of person intimidate you?
• Philippines
6 Mar 10
yes it's intimidating at the same time ..it's funny....
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Feb 10
I used to be a bit judgmental on people, but lately I've trained myself to have a relax stance. I just realize that people around can appear to be deeper or shallow than they tend to be, and there are a few surprises in tow too, which have happened. So, I've been trying to keep an open mind since, and not having any kinds of expectations. Life grows on me, and I adore people whom are not discriminating after the first meet up. Good topic here.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Feb 10
You couldn't have said it more better. True enough, even after 2nd or 3rd encounters, we can never figure out someone. It might even take years to know for some people..
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I do this naturally, however I also am very accepting of others. I am nice to pretty much everyone I meet unless they are just mean beyond reason. I think that I tend to be intimidating because I am very direct, carry myself pretty certainty and look people right in the eyes.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
10 Feb 10
To me it sounds your intimidation is like that of a person in management. Your nice, but you won't lie and say you aren't direct, and you look people in the eyes, it seems to me your not easily intimidated yourself? I can't look people in the eyes.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
26 Mar 10
Baby you are none of those things and you are very beautiful and I know people are always judging others no matter what happens,or no matter what they are like,and I know I have seen people and thought he must be a crook,or he looks like a murderer because he rides a motorcycle,or she must be a harlot,or she must be a lesbian,and I try not to judge people but I think it part of human nature to judge people even though the only one who needs to judge people is God,and we will all be judged one day by our maker,I love you with all of my heart and soul.
20 Feb 10
Well no matter how people look as long as they wear or flash a smile then, they surely can captivate the onlookers and not be intimidated by them any longer. As it always said, "smile and the world will smile with you."
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
10 Feb 10
Some people are very easily intimidated.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
I am guilty. Sometimes, I can't help it. Just being human I guess. But it's nice to know people like these and be pleasantly surprised that they are really not what they look like. That if you really get to know the person, they are smart, they have ideas, and they have dreams. I try not to judge a book by its cover. It's hard, but I try.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
8 Feb 10
i don't really like to judge on people and i don't like to stereotype as well... i try to get along with everybody as much as i can and i don't want to make enemies... i don't like to be judged by other people, so that's why i think i shouldn't judged other people as well... i especially dislike it if people only make their judgment based on physical appearances... to me, inner beauty is much more important compare to physical appearances... take care and have a nice day...
@dawnald (84148)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Feb 10
Mostly not... I just either like their appearance or I don't. Might be fun to pretend to know who they are based on how they look though.
8 Feb 10
I think by our own nature we always judge from an outward appearance before we get to know someone. But in a strange way it's quite interesting to do this and then see how close our assumptions were. Sadly mine are often completely wrong.
• United States
8 Feb 10
First impressions are so often based on appearances. It sounds as if one realizes your great sense of humor once they spend any time around you. In my opinion, if you intimidate someone, then they haven't learned yet that you can't judge a book by its cover. Also, I can see that it could be a real advantage in lots of situations to immediately intimidate strangers. So, enjoy being uniquely you!
@udayrao2 (782)
• India
8 Feb 10
People judged me too( wrongly) - just b'cos I stood out in a crowd - I am very big and much bigger & taller than others from this country, in fact years back when I was much younger one rarely came across people my size - nowadays there are many youngsters in this size - and my physical features are also slightly different from the local people - though I belong here and so far there has been no 'foreign' blood running thru' me!!! Another thing is that some of the very small kids used to get scared to talk to me!!! The only advantage is that no one tries to mess up with me - though I have to date not got into a fight nor started one!!! Yes most people do judge others- even I do that many a times and try to guess the person's occupation, his character, temperament,etc
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
8 Feb 10
Hi SomeCowgirl, It is unfortunate that some people are judged based on their physical appearance. I have an officemate who is often misjudged as rude because he is big, tall, has a rather "unfriendly face" and has loud voice. Patients (we work in a clinic) seem to find his voice scary and his physique, really intimidating. While he (my co-worker) is actually a nice person, his physical attributes seem to work to his disadvantage, and I feel that sooner or later he'll stand to lose his job simply because patients complain about him because of their preconceived ideas about his personality.