Were you and your brother or sister , rivals as children?

My sister and I were quite different as children. She is two years younger than me and was a real tomboy. She had her own "gang", climbed fences, went where she wasn't allowed and generally ran my mother ragged. I was a "boy" but not quite like she was. She still prefers the active life. We didn't fight too much as my mother was a strict disciplinarian and treated us both the same. If my sister took one of my toys I generally let her have it. She'd tire of it eventually and I could get it back. This difference between us probably explains why she is a successful business woman with all the material trappings of success and I am an old has been. But between the two of us I think that I am the more settled and comfortable in my ways.

my brother is just over an year and 4 months younger to me, when we were small we were competitors fought for same things, fought seriously at times and just for fun but when it used to get serious, mom would come and smack me coz i am the elder one and she doesn't expect me to fight but hey he taunts and laughs after i was smacked lol and i used to bear that and sometimes used to annoy so much after he used to show his tongue like this aaargh lol.. aww those were so cute days back then, well now we are so different, sober and quiet.. those days can't come back.. yeah we both are in the same college now :)

I'm 3 years older than my sister and 6 years older than my brother. My sister and I use to fight A LOT and over so many things, it's unreal. My brother and I got along very well. I was his protector in a lot of ways. But since my sister has left the house we have gotten along a lot better. I think the main thing that kept us fighting was that she seemed to be mom's puppet in everything and I didn't agree with my mom on a lot of things lol.

As a child growing up me and my older brother never got along. He was at least 20 years older than me. it seemed he was jealous of me being the baby of 6 children and he didn't want to admit he was to old to be living with my mother. Well he was nasty attitude all the time, talked about my weight, how I looked what I ate he would find all types of things to ridicule me about we would argue, and fight even as a older teen he would find everything wrong with me my mother would often have to tell him to back off because it got so out of hand it wasn't until I moved away and grew up some-more he and I made a mends it seemed he grew up just as I. He is very humble now, almost sweet. and you would never think he and I went through what we did as kids we stay in close cities but we can go years without visiting or calling but when we do its like he and I never parted. I guess we both had to grow up to establish a real relationship

As children we never fought but as adults there is no love lost between us. We hardly long for each other's company. I am the only one who tries to keep in touch but it is always one sided of which I am fed up. Their life is centred round their nucleus family.

I have a youngest sister, she is 6 years younger than me. But when we were kids we wouldn't get along, she was the kind of kid that would always want to make jokes, but the ones that annoys you. When we got older we started getting alone, I think she went through a face and change all those habit and our relationship start getting much better.

Yes, my younger sister and I used to fight like cats and dogs. Mind you, I was not allowed to fight back - only with words - because I would get into serious trouble is I did hit my sister. I merely pushed her away from my toys as a kid and I got a slap for it! We are both married with our own families now, and are the best of friends. We may disagree on something from time to time, but never argue about it and we will support each other if either are in trouble no matter what! _Derek

Hi, panda, it sounds great the story between you and your brother. Unfortunately, I'm the only child in my family as our governments' policy. I just have cousins, and now only one keeps in touch with me. He is my cousin brother, living in different city. When I visit him, it always takes 40min to reach there by train. I enjoy the time with my cousin.

As kids, we fought a little my brother and I, but that's normal. As we got older, we were actually very close and I miss that. Now that we are grown and have our own lives, it's hard to be as close as we were and I really wish we could work on that.

Since I was a kid, me and my brother are good friends as well as my sister. They are the one who always are my playmates because my mom doesn't want us to play with our neighbors because they have a bad attitudes and she is afraid that they might influenced us. But everything was fine and we enjoy the company together even when we grow up. I guess it is important that during childhood, you and your siblings are playing together as a bonding.

There was some sibling rivalry when we were younger. We were always trying to outdo one another and be the best at everything Of course, we always loved each other and still do. Yes, we have our arguments every now and then, but that's just part of being brother and sister I suppose

We're 8 siblings and I'm on the sixth. During childhood, we fought always with my 3 year older and 3 year younger brothers. High school life comes we're separated to find more opportunities. Since then we missed each other till now that we have respective family, we communicate continuously through our modern technologies now.

of course. not only myself, my parent usually tell me to regard my consins as a competetor. by the way, i am the only child. we compete about the score, the body's height, and the talent. fortunately, i always win!!! but this competition actually can not break up our relationship, it's only a part of our life.

Me and my brother are 4 years apart (im the oldest). When we were little we almost never got along. I always felt like he was treated better and that he had more privleges then I did at what ever age he was. This deffinilty affected our relationship because i resented him for how he was treated better. But now that we are older its 100% different... we are actually very close and talk all the time. your situation sounds kind of simalier and if it is then its not you its your brother. I took it out on my brother but it wasnt his fault and it sounds like your brother may have done or is doing the same thing. Maybe you could try to start up a better relationship... almost force him to talk to you lol! It cant hurt to try. Goodluck and i hope everything works out for you!

I am the youngest of five children. My oldest brother was 15 years older than me. Not only did I not fight with him, I didn't even grow up with him. He got married when I was 6. I don't remember living in the same house with him. He passed away six years ago; I hadn't seen him in 8 (though spoke on the phone). He was a very funny guy and I so wish we got to have an adult relationship with each other. I can't even find pictures of us together. My sisters are 14 and 9.5 years older than me. Again, no relationship. My oldest sister moved out when she got a teaching job in another city, probably a year or two after my brother got married. My other sister moved out when she turned 18. She was the rebellious one. I was nine. Don't remember much about living with her. I know to this day she has always been bossing me around. And then there is my other brother, 4.5 years older than me. We fought like cat and dog. We certainly didn't hang out together. I was pretty much left to my own devices growing up. I never felt like part of the family being so far apart in age from all of them. As adults my brother and I have a fun relationship. He laughs at all my jokes and I love it! He still holds a grudge over something that happened, oh, 22 years ago? I am 47 and he is 51. My girls are 3 years apart and it has been my life's mission to make my little family a FAMILY. They are 13 and 16 and it gives me great joy to hear them laughing together and having fun. They know what I have gone through with my sisters and I have warned them to not let what happened to me happen to them. So please, take my advice, cherish the time you have with your brother. You are close enough in age to have some real memories together that you can laugh about together. My husband is very close with his siblings. There are 8 of them born very, VERY close together. His mother gave birth to two in one year - one in January and on in December. I envy the relationship he has with his siblings. If you can mend your relationship with your brother, do it! Life is too short.

I was the youngest of five children. My eldest sister physically abused me until she married - and then abused her children. My brothers didn't live with us. My other sister, five years older than me, who lived with us, was absolutely perfect and I really wanted to be like her, but I knew I couldn't be. Every day of my life I had been told that I was totally evil and no one would ever want me. When I was 11 years old, my sister mother and my third step father moved to Australia. My sister married very soon after arrival here, so I was the only one left at home. My third step father added more to it. He continued with the totally evil tag and after one horrible day, he added "ugly freak" which he hissed at me at every opportunity. He told me I might as well do the world a favour and kill myself because no one would ever want me around. This continued until I was 22 years old when my life changed completely. I always greatly admired my sister. She was so perfect. We never argued. In fact, she hardly even acknowledged my presence. It wasn't until I had a family of my own that we became more like sisters and in more recent years we have become very close. We ARE sisters.

My brother and I fought like cat and dog for years. I am four years older than he is and was expected to be the "responsible" one. My brother soon figured out that I would always get the blame as the eldest so he made the most of it all. Throughout my teenage years I tried to avoid my brother as much as I could, in order to avoid any conflict, and we grew apart from there. We still keep in touch but as we now live 150 miles apart, I don't see him that often

When we were children there were times that myself and my siblings fought with each other to a great degree, but there were many more times when we got along with each other fabulously. Now that we are grown, I see my brother on nearly a daily basis because I babysit his two preschool daughters. My little sister I don't see on quite as much of a regular basis, but I still average seeing her at least every other week. I think that we are a much closer family than most because of the fact that we lost our father while we were still relatively young.

I used to fight my sister when i was young. and it think the thing you have told was the reason. there is a reason that children always think that the part of love of their parents towards him or her id giving more by them to the siblings. but now as we have grown up we dont think those small things. may be we dont play with each other. but we are a bit supporting. i think the secret is the maturity in thoughts only.