Moral dilemma

I would tell the girlfriend and show her proof if I was able to get it. Those girls need their privacy and who knows what he may end up doing? Some peepers end up doing more than that, and I certainly would not trust him around any one of similar age or gender that has been a victim before. I just hope Dawnald this woman has a few active neurons firing in her head and pays attention. You cannot save the world, but you can try and no one can fault you for that. Is he allowed to be around girls under 18? It would make it easier if he is not, because all you need is a phonecall to his parole officer and the police department and he goes bye bye for a little while.

Well I would tell this girlfriend. I couldn't imagine someone not telling me something like that,I mean what if you didn't know and then something like that happened to your daughter? I would want to prevent harm to anyone.

Gut instinct says to tell the new girlfriend, though she probably won't listen. I know there were many times a friend tried to warn me of the dangers of one of my new loves.

That's a terrible and scary situation. I don't know what I would do but I do know that if it were me oblivious to his past, I would definitely want to know about it before moving him in and getting myself and my gorls in a much bigger mess. I would hate to be in your shoes my friend. I would be torn as to what to do.

I think there is a difference in the way mothers think, and the way fathers think. For a long time I didnt let my papa know about my pedophile uncle, because I was scared of getting beaten up. Dad was something of a tyrant. :) But even after I told him, he has been pretty chummy with that uncle! That feels like adding insult to injury. :( I think mom would have understood how it felt. :( Such things annoy me quite a lot. :(

I really do not Trust him, and way that is really decision... And, I really believed, you could talk to him, in most civil manner... I will pray for the safety of your family especially your daughters... May God Bless Us All, Always...

I would say that if there is anyway you can find contact info for her, get her the info. If not, I would call CPS. She has a choice, but she at least needs the correct information. I am a mother of a 16 year old daughter and I would want to know. I would never take the chance with my daughter. Good luck!

This is hard...the history of him should be known to the new girlfriend, in my opinion.. maybe you might want to give it a shot.. just try for like once?

I'd talk to her and say "Ya know what's cool! There's a website where you can find out what if any records people have, you should totally check it out!" Then I'd let her see for herself... That's just me though...

I would have to tell her about him. it will probably make her mad but so be it. At least u warned her & u would feel guilty if something like that happens to her children if u didn't warn her. He needs to be put away.

Hi dawnald, I would never allow this person anywhere young girls, people don't change and he will do it again, I wouldn't want him anywhere near the house. Tamara

It's almost guaranteed that he will do exactly what did in his new locale. If the girlfriend is not warned about this man's condition, do we not share some of the responsibility for what he does? Such individuals need to be exposed for the harm that they can do.

I would find a way to get the message to her, even if anonymously. I'd want to know! And I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing that those girls could be in danger.

While generally I believe in minding my own business, in this case the welfare of the children/young women takes precedence. I would inform their mother if at all possible, making it clear that you aren't doing it out of malice or spite, but out of concern for the girls.

The mother, and in this case, with the girls this old, even the daughters need to know to keep their guard up. If he has been convicted, and served his time, he may be in the clear to associate, but even so, she needs to keep her guard up.

How CPS will handle this is determined by how serious the original charges were, if he was convicted, and how long ago it was. Is he on probation still? He may be risking jail time, if he is. Did he go for counseling?

For goodness sake tell her! This guy, even if he is reformed is still going to do something creepy and horrid at some time. You can't leave anything to chance.

Hi dawnald, I normally try to stay out of people's personal relationships and let them work or not work things out themselves. When it comes to something like this, however, I would have to speak out. I would have to at least make sure the mother knew his background. I would go to her with what I knew and some proof so it would not just be hearsay. If she still chose to be with him then, I really don't know what I would do. If I was dating someone with this sort of history, I would want to know and I'd be furious if no one stepped forward and informed me.

I am not usually one to interfere in other people’s lives but in cases like this I would not hesitate to somehow contact the girl’s mother and let her know what the person she is about to move in with is capable of. She may not believe you but it may give her something to think about. I don’t know if you are able to get in touch with her but if it was me I could not live with myself if I didn’t at least try...If you don’t have her contact details would you be able to advise Child Protective Services or something? Sounds drastic but I wouldn’t take any chances.

Think of it this way. You wouldn't want such thing to happen to your own daughters and you wouldn't want a man like that to wander around just like that, always looking for his prey. You can let the girlfriend know about it anonymously. You can also go to proper authorities or any child protection agency to help protect the children. Well these things may be hard to do. But what is important is you've the best in order to help protect the children.