he forgot our monthsary!!!! twice in a row!

Philippines
March 18, 2010 11:05pm CST
i am so pissed off right now. my boyfriend forgot to greet me TWICE IN A ROW!. he asked for an apology last time, and i accepted it. but now, this is too much. i can't understand! of all people! i can't believe he did it twice. i thought he learned his lesson last month. but please! now? twice? i don't know what's the meaning of this. i don't know what to do! i want to throw punches on his face. imagine, my ex-bf remembers?he texted me! and he is my present, he even forgot! what kind of relationship is this? i don't want to feel bad, but i can't control my feelings. it seems that he does not care about the relationship. i don't know what to do if he will do this thrice. i think i am going to forget his name. i am not making issues (that i am sensitive, immature or paranoid) here, i just want to know if your guy is also forgetful with these matter. what do you do?
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@khalida (1130)
• India
19 Mar 10
hey! before any occasion comes and i had given him a glimpse of how angry and frustrated i would get if he forgets to wish me and thinks its unneccessary!well so far he has never forgotten1 touch wood! :) sometimes some guys just don't remember things and u got to leave behinf hints for them but then there is no point in someone wishing us like that!! anyway stay calm, it would have slipped his mind! but better blast him well this time so that he doesn't forget the next time ;)
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
yes, i will blast his face right now. i am not in the mood to see him anyway, maybe soon.
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@CJscott (4185)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Blasting him won't do any good. If you forgot something, and he blasted you, how would that make you feel? You think a scolding will change a man....
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
Hi CJscott.. incidentally, how Do you change a man?
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Hi donna! It's really a fault of your boyfriend that he forgot your monthsary, and it already happened twice consecutively. I know it can really make you mad. You're maybe asking yourself "What is happening to him?" "Do he care for our relationship?" "Is he serious for his love to me?" Well, he should really give you a good reason and good explanation. What I am thinking is maybe he just too busy at work. He is a workaholic person. Yes, he loves you but his work is just his priority. He wanted to succeed in life. If you will think of it, it can also be positive since he is working hard, for the sake of both of you, for your future. So just give him chance to explain, and if he can still proves you that he really loves you, then forgetting a monthsary will not be an issue anymore. He can show his love in many things. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
well, he is not doing something now. well, maybe after this, if he will still forget it. i don't know what will happen.
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
19 Mar 10
You dont think that he cares because he doesnt remember a particular day EVERY month? I dont want to sound rude but I think that you are coming off a bit immature and paranoid. How long have you two been dating? My boyfriend in two and a half years never remembers our anniversary or to say happy birthday...and we do just fine, because that's not what a relationship is about :)
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
well, in our case, we made it to the point to go out and have a date when it is our monthsary. we see to it that we have time to celebrate it.
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@jlamela (4910)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Hello Don, Nyaaah!ganun?hehehe. You're not immature of course, I guess it's normal to be fed off with boyfriend's insensitivity especially on that very important occasion. I think he is some kind of an irresponsible cretin. Why on earth he forgot that date? He should memorize it by heart. Are you happy with him?charing, joke.hehe. You must not keep your anger with in your self, I think, you should tell him that his forgetfulness is not amusing anymore. Open communication is always the key to successful relationship, char!hehe Gosh,he should make it up to you by any sweet gestures. But wait, did you ever ask him why he developed that bad habit of forgetting your monthsary?hmmmm, try to assess his sincerity and loyalty to you, maybe there's something rough beyond the soft surface. joke,hehe, just my personal view. Or maybe he is really like that--not compassionate or sweet or extra thoughtful. I don't know anymore what to say to your boyfriend because he is also a friend of mine.hehehe. I will remind him if we meet.wahaha! Stay pretty and happy :-D
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
thanks! i told myself, he will do this again. i might find somebody who will make me feel special on our monthsary.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I'm sorry to hear that. BUt, I think monthsaries are unnecessary.For a person like me, i'm oblivious when it comes to dates. Maybe your BF wasn't aware of the dates also. Moreover, my perception about monthsaries is that your relationship won't last long. Celebrations are not that important. What matters most is how you two cherish each other. Monthsaries are arbitrary.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 10
i understand what you mean. but i felt bad still. for the last 1 year, we keep on celebrating it. and suddenly it stopped. that's why i felt bad.
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@CJscott (4185)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Forgive me. What is a monthsary? Never heard the term.
@CJscott (4185)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
So, I learned what a Monthsary was, and I agree with the person that said arbitrary. It is how you feel about the boy that matters. But, it is important to you, and he should recognize and honor that. So, what can you do, to make him want to remember it? With out, criticizing, condemning, or complaining, and giving honest and sincere appreciation for what you have. Think on it, the answer may surprise, and the response from your boy, could astound you. Cheers.
@lokisdad (2938)
• United States
16 Jan
Ok i am not sure but i think he forgot your one and two month anniversary is what you mean? You said he forgot to greet you. I think that is too much you are expecting you only been together a short while. It takes away from it being special if you do it every month. No offense but most relationships aren't even serious that early on. You're still in the early dating stage and most people do a one year anniversary which is a significant amount of time not every 4 wks. I think you are taking it too seriously. Its way to soon for love two months is barely enough time to really get to know someone. You must be really young because this is shows a huge level of immaturity and a little on the clingy unhealthy side. I'm not trying to be mean about it its just my opinion. I read this and it reminded me of my siblings when they were young teens get in a relationship and a month later I am in love and they barely know the other person. Break up and same thing with new person. Good luck
@neleene (55)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
i hope that won't happen to me but i really got a hunch we will lead into like that.. grrrr..i greeted my boyfriend happy monthsary yet he didn't even mind it until i ask him if he is disappointed with me, good thing replied "im not, chillax and have a good day..." oh come on! grrrr..it's just that.. well, gurl, your feelings now is normal. just don't hold on too much on him...let him be but don't expect from him nor let your world be focused on him..enjoy your life with your friends...and let him be the one to chase you and not the other way around.
• United States
21 Mar 10
how long have you been together? maybe its because its a new relationship he hasnt gotten into the habit or remembering? guys are notorious for forgetting things.. my husband is a romantic so he remembers all the anniversaries and holidays etc and im the one that is absentminded.. i never fully forget but will remember right before.. does he try to make it up to you afterwards?
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
21 Mar 10
I really hate to say this to you, but I really don't think that a month or two months is really that long in the grand scheme of things. Now, I would be upset if my boyfriend were to forget at six months and I would be really, really upset if he was to forget at a year. But in all of the relationships that I've ever been involved in, I've never made a big deal out of a month. In fact, this is the first time that I've even heard the term monthsary.
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
i guess for me monthsary are for teens only like they are excited and counting of months being together. coz in us with my boyfriend we dont count it coz its like we only stay just for the purpose of how long we can be together. though we only celebrate anniversary which is more wonderful coz we are just surprise to know that its been a year already. anyway he might just busy thats why and maybe he also feel the same of not counting the months. perhaps he will in anniversary day.
• Philippines
20 Mar 10
Almost everyone I've known tries as much to remember their monthsary. I guess It's almost as bad as him forgetting your birthday. But my question to you are these: 1. If he forgets your monthsary, are there any other things that he forgets? Are there more important things that he forgets? Because if this is the case, then you should start considering if he's just as hooked about your relationship as you are. 2. How long have you guys been together? If you guys are starting out, then it's pretty important since that might be the only big thing you guys have going for you. I mean, if you don't have that much time to spend with each other, then I suppose remembering your monthsary is important. But if he's been going out of his way to do things for you, or make things for you, then forgetting a monthsary shouldn't be a big thing. It's painful to hear, but sometimes these things don't really matter to some people. Or it's not much of a deal to forget it. Your boyfriend might not think it's a big deal if he forgets your monthsary as long as he knows that he's doing what he can to make you feel loved. So do you feel that he loves you despite forgetting your monthsary? And would it be good enough for you if he shows you a whole lot of other ways he does love you aside from giving you something every month? If you do love him, it won't hurt to forgive him. On the date of your monthsary, take him out to dinner, or go to a movie. Don't tell him what the day is, or what special time it is. Just go out with him, make sure he has a good time. Make sure that he has fun, and that the both of you had fun. Then at the end of the day, you can remind him what day it is and look back if you did enjoy that day. Then it might give you an easier time to remember WHY you even gone out with him in the first place.
@clrumfelt (5309)
• United States
19 Mar 10
I think it's sweet you have had a monthsary for so long. However, such celebrations can get to be quite ordinary if they are overdone. Maybe it is time to back off a little and have a 6th monthsary or even an anniversary. There are plenty of other times he can show you special attention, Christmas, your birthday, Easter, Valentines for example. Maybe his forgetfulness is a sign it's time to change things.
• United States
19 Mar 10
Ok, I think I understand this. Personally, months are not what we celebrate. If we did, it would get really expensive. Months come and go. It should be more of the years rather than months. If they forgot the anniversary I could understand getting ticked. Then again, I'm horrible with dates. My husband had to get a keychain and put it in the car with our anniversary on it so that I wouldn't forget.
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Get over it and get real! I've been married to the same woman for 54 years, and yes I have forgotten our wedding anniversary on at least one occasion. She wasn't too surprised, as we have a whole lot more, that is much prevalent, to think about. We have raised 4 boys, who now have families of their own, and who live many miles away. I won't come right out and say that I think you are over sensitive, immature, and paranoid, but will say, "I believe these adjectives would not be too far off!"
@crazydaisy (3899)
• Canada
19 Mar 10
Do you have any kids yet if not I would for get about him I would thank my lucky stars that I don't. you could do better then him.Know if there's kids you should have a Lawyer look after him paying you. cd
19 Mar 10
You celebrate every month? Good grief. I'm happy that my partner remembers things like my birthday - lol
@maximax8 (27058)
19 Mar 10
It was annoying for you that your boyfriend forgot twice in a row. Some men can be useless at remembering dates. I know a man that always forgets his dad's birthday. He has a birthday on the 19th of the month and so he can't even remember two birthdays on that day in different months. So you are in contact with your ex-boyfriend. I have an ex-boyfriend that was romantic with meaningful dates on the calendar so I was the same to him. We went to Belgium for Valentines Day. Maybe you could buy your boyfriend a calendar and mark it up for him. Good luck.
@ybong007 (6660)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
I guess i getting older. There were no monthsary during my time. It's anniversary, who the hell started the term monthsary anyway? I guess, you have to talk about your boyfriend about how important it is you so he will try more effort to remember. Guys are just by nature forgetful. Cheers!
@basqui (3892)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Monthsary: i think it is only popularized here in the Philippines right? For me i really am not keen on memorizing dates, i even forget my friends birthdays. i'm not even sure of my girl's birthday! I don't even know when is our anniversary, and comes monthsary? Whoaah! I think that girls are really very sensitive on this matters? I don't care much if someone forgets my important day, i just celebrate it happily with those who are with me in that day!