Am i the only one that has fusses w/my kids?

Good for y'all. doesn't seem like we can do that. He hurts my feelongs over something then before it's over we are both p.o.I think we are too much alike.I just wish he was a more sensitive person toward me. Neither one of my sons have ever been that way toward me. I try to never make waves but when i do it's all my fault, u can't explain to them how u feel w/out alot of cussing & screaming. That's not a good thing.Thanks for responding. happy easter to u.

Thanks for responding. He is 28 w/a wife & 5 year old son. It breaks my heart when this happens. I'm not suppose to have an opinion on anything especially if it's different than his. Happy easter to u.

I know it is hard to not say much. I know he gets angry at me but usually he just turns colors and goes about his way. Tomorrow's another day and it is less important. We have three grandchildren (girl 5yr., boy 2yr & girl 7 weeks). Although my husband comes home from his mother's house fit to be tied. She drives him up a wall. He seldom talks back to her but holds it in to take out on someone else.

I tried not to fuss w/mine yesterday because my grandson was here & i didn't want him to hear us fussing but my son wouldn't leave it be. Why does your mil drive your son crazy. Guess sons forget what all u did for them when they were little. Tell him from me to have more compassion for his mom. Bet she had alot for him when he was depending on her for everything.Thanks for responding. Happy easter to u.

I'm glad they aren't anything serious w/your daughter & it's wonderful u & your son never argue. I don't like to argue w/anyone but have never backed down from one either[not bragging].What gets my goat w/my son is that he's hurt my feelings & he can't tell the difference between feelings & being p.o. I usually end up being p.o. before it's over with because i don't like him going off on me.I'm afraid we are too much alike. Thanks for responding.

I hope you had a great time on Easter with your family, miss. Yes, my mom and I came to a solution. I simply started staying away from my parents and now we don't quarrel. Well, it is not the perfect solution, but I had to move out, because it had become too much for me in the end. Have a conversation with your kid and I am sure all will be well soon... Have a great time!

Thanks for your response. I did not see one person yesterday or talk to a soul. It sure wasn't a good easter but hopefully there will be another one. I'm glad your mom & u worked it out but that's a sad way to do it. I bet she misses u. Have a great night.

Thanks for your response & happy easter to u. I'm glad your mom & u have come to a good way to solve your arguments. That's a good thing. I'm afraid my son & i are too much alike.He hurt my feelings, he didn't make me mad till later when he was running his mouth. Thanks for your advice.

I wasn't jumping on him for anything. I ask to take my grandson to an easter egg hunt & when he said i couldn't it hurt my feelings. I never get to take him anywhere. He got mad because i cried not just about that one time, for all the times i have ask to take him somewhere. As for dearra i don't think she needs to be jumping on u for anything. Hate to tell u but it want go away.Thanks for responding.

With Dearra some of it may be teenager hormonal stuff...

Think u are making excuses for her behavior, sorry.

Thanks marg, u are a sweetie for sharing w/me.I never get to take ryan anywhere . When iask to i'm turned down which hurts my feelings big time. ryan & i were invited to an easter egg hunt & cookout late afternoon at a cousin's & my son said no.When i told ryan about it he seemed excited . I thought it would be a fun thing to do just he &i for a change. I have seen very little of him lately. I just got my feelings hurt then son decided to run his mouth & we both ended up mad. I'm still mad & hurt over it. glad u & your daughters made up. I'm sure they understood u were up tight about having surgery. Anybody would have been. thanks for listening to me. U are a good friend. love & hugs.

thanks good to be back home glad I missed this last Sat weather y'll had set thru the last one with son but wasnt this bad.

I think u are right, they do feel that way.Anytime i don't agree w/them i'm always the one that is wrong. They don't think i'm so dumb & stupid when they want or need something tho.My bank has closed on that. Thanks for your response. Good to have u back on mylot.

Oh Antique, I raised my girls alone too and while I know I was a good mom, an argument with one of them will throw me right into second-guessing myself also. Trust me, my girls have said some very hurtful things too. I really hope your sons wake up and realize how important grandparents really are to the kids. By not letting you spend good quality time with them they are not only depriving you but the kids as well. Have you tried talking to their wives about this? Oh I hope they do come around and make things right by all of you. {{{HUGS}}}.

Hi again, Just went back and read thru the responses....something I should of done first and got a better idea of what was going on. Ok...yep, me and my girls do have our days like that and I so hate it. I speak my mind also and while for the most part they are respectful and we talk things over....every now and again....it's just awful. I'm just curious as to why your son would not let you take your grandson on the egg hunt? I would have been upset too unless my daughter had a really good reason. I have 2 grandchildren and I don't get to see them nearly as much as I would like but my daughter thankfully has been very good about letting me take them when opportunities arise. My grandson is 11 and we are very very close. I taught him how to make the incense burners I make so when he is over, he likes to work on them. I sell them for him and give him the money which he puts into his bank account. Well, not long ago, he spent the nite here and he made one a red sox one. It was a girl in a red and blue bikini with a redsox cap on holding a bat. She jumped all over me for it as if I were corrupting her son...my grandson. I stood my ground and in the end, she did calm down and appologize. I was so hurt and insulted but it's all ok now. I hope this has passed with you and your son as well.

Good morning sid, Thanks for your response.I appreciated u taking your time. I have never been allowed to take my grandson many places. my grandaughter i don't even get to see. I do get my feelings hurt, maybe i shouldn't but i raised both my sons by myself & thought i had been a good mother but i even have doubts about that now. Neither one are speaking to me. I haven't seen my oldest son in a year next month.We did not have words about anything. My youngest has not spoken to me in nearly 3 weeks so that means i haven't seen my grandson either. i'm glad u & your daughter worked things out. i think she over-reacted. My son called me a very ugly name when all this happened. I'm not likely to everforget that. Thanks again. Have a great thursday.

Thanks cats, U made me feel better. i appreciate your response. I reckon i've just been handy for him to take all his frustations out on lately. We had another round sat. I know life gets tough , been there done that but i am not going to be his whipping post. Hope thaings are going good for u. hugs. jo

Thanks again cats, he hasn't talked to me in over a week now but that's o.k. after the ugly name he called me i don't really want to talk to him anyway. Hope u have a great sunday. hugs.

hi antiquelady you know my son still thinks I am a bank at times and now I just do not have that much money so God has to help him get a job now. It is hard to say no to ones own son but what If one does not have that money?

I loved your response, thanks for it. I'm glad u & your son have such a good relationship . I thought i did to but this has proved me wrong for sure. Hope u are doing well. Take care.

Happy easter morning Bon, It makes me feel better knowing i'm not the only one that has fusses w/their children but am sorry u do. I know how hurtful it can be. they may think they can boss me but they can't. They may have to someday but i'm not ready for that yet. Thanks for your response. hugs.

Good for u , Jen. That's the way it should be. Kids are suppose to be ruling the roost. My sons have been gone from home a long time but it's still my home & they are not going to come in here & act like an azzif u get my drift. Hopw u have a good day today & find the best egg. Thanks for responding as always.

tHANK U kATHY, U ARE VERY KIND. i TO HATE TO BE IN A FUSS BUT SOMETIMES SEEMS AS IF I'M IN ALOT OF THEM. gUESS THAT HAS TO BE MY FAULT. i TOLD A FRIEND THE OTHER DAY I CAN sit in this house & think i'm not bothering a soul & get in more crap. i don't try to tell my sons what to do they are grown & unless they ask for my opinion i don't give it. Seems like i'm not allowed to say anything unless it's what they want to hear. I'm not turned that way. Right or wrong, i say what i think, always have & always will. I just hate it when people try to turn it into something else if u know what i mean.

Thanks for your response. I certainly don't want to do his thinking for him , he's grown. I raised him to be independant but not ugly to his mother. Happy easter to u.

I am not here to be jumped on, called ugly names are be disrespected by my sons. Days of being treated like that have been gone for years & years. I went through hell & high water raising my 2 boys by myself. They niether one will get by w/doing that. i'm glad u & your son can work it out that way. I'm glad he has respect foru. i thought mine did but found out different. Thanks for responding.