Would you still buy your child a car if they did not graduate?

Well my parents were never in the situation to offer to buy me a car when I was in school so kind of a different situation, they did offer to help me on the basis that I paid them back so maybe offer her that, maybe help her if she needs a car to find work but tell her it is on the basis of finding a job, and that she needs to pay it back when she is getting paid but offer to make the payments fair to her, so that she will still have some money left at the end of every month. This is of course with me assuming that her parents are in the situation where they could afford it. Its not really good that she quit school and doesnt have a job but she expects to have things handed to her, so he has done the right thing refusing just to get it for her, but he could probably try to use this to encorage her to either go back to school or at least find a job.

Hi Newtalent, Good day! If I'll be in this situation I'd stick to our agreement and that is I'd help her buy the card once she graduates. Why? It's because even if we love our children so much sometimes we have to be firm in our decisions that could either make or break them. What do I mean by this? If ever we would give up to what our children want even if they don't do their part of the deal or agreement they might take that it's just that easy for them to get whatever they want. In case they can't get it on their own they will always be able to depend on their parents. This is fine. However, they should also realize the importance of keeping their part of the deal and being responsible. If our children will grown thinking that they can always get whatever they want they might end up miserable in the future. They will not learn the value of working hard for what they want. When their parents are gone life would be so hard for them since throughout their life they get used to their parents always there fixing their life and giving them what they need and want.

I would definitely stick to my word. If I said that I'd help out provided they'd graduate, then I would not help at all if they decide to stop schooling and do nothing. I'm not obligated to give them gifts, and it's not the obligation of the father or the parents to buy ungrateful kids cars. Parents should be firm on their word else their children would just take them forgranted.

hi newtalent well I never had this situation but I would keep to my agreement if i was the father, it is time for the daughter to learn' responsibility and he needs to be consistent to be of any help to her.If she knows he will help her get a car if she goes to college, this should prod her to really do it. Happy Easter.

This is the way I see it, I think that though the daughter made the mistake of not graduating, if she proves herself in going to find a job and maybe going back to get her HSD the father should help her to buy the car, but only if she proves herself in a way that is satisfactory to him. The father just wants to teach the daughter a lesson. When my husband and I have children and after they are grown if we say that we will buy them a car it may be when they are still in school but we would be sure and firm in saying "only if your grades are high can you drive the car."

I definitely would not buy her the car if she did not graduate. I have still got many years to go before I will have to worry about this for either of my children, but I also acknowledge the fact that we will do this same kind of thing for our children. My mother did this for my siblings and I and it was a great motivator for us to keep up our grades and it also made it to where we could be more involved in life that was outside the four walls of the school.

Dear friend, May be I would buy a car provided the child could drive it well and if I feel that child is expert in driving. May be who knows one fine day could become a champion in car racing. May be I would be careful not to lose that child too.

make a promise to the children is a good thing, but that does not educate children because children will only be motivated by the lure of these promises. The child has no consciousness of itself. So don't over sell out your promises to your children. Most important in educating children is put awareness of and responsibility for himself

It's the kid's problem. She's got issues. It's not the car strategy that went wrong, It's about how she was brought up by her parents. That's what's wrong here. I don't see why she has to do that to get a car. She obviously doesn't care about her education.

When I didn't graduate on time, I let go of all promises my parents made me to buy me a car. I know that they only thing my parents wanted was for me to get through school and do what I'm supposed to do as a student. There is no reason not to graduate on time except when you're financially unable, or mentally unable. But to not go to school just because you don't feel like it never is an acceptable reason. I would understand that making that promise is more of a fulfillment for the parents as it is to motivate their children to make it through school. I think it's only right for the dad to hold the car over her head to help prod her to finish school. To him, it doesn't matter really if she gets the car or not, what matters is that she finish school. Well, since she hasn't done any of the above, that car is out of the question. Forget the car, forget the fancy hooplah. Now she has to be more responsible, and she has to realize that no one's going to take care of her if she doesn't at least try to take care of herself.