Do you encourage others to lose weight? And how?

United States
April 16, 2010 3:34pm CST
Thus far I've not really attempted to encourage anyone I know to lose weight. I know what it's like when you're overweight and don't have the motivation to do anything about it. However I do know a couple people who want and need to drop some pounds. My mom is one. She needs a kidney transplant and has been told she must lose 70 pounds to get the surgery. She tries a little, she'll do some exercises now and then. But I don't think she's trying as hard as she can, and she's really not losing any weight at all. My husband is another. He's never been happy with his size, he's like to lose maybe 30 lbs. He will exercise now and then, but won't eat right. I don't push them to try harder, or to eat right. I will sometimes push my hubby to come to the gym with me on his days off, but that's as far as my encouraging goes with him. With my mom I just try to share some tips I've found, and I also tell her how great it feels to have lost some weight. In the end I know this is something they must do on their own, and when they decide to do it I'll be there to help and encourage them as much as they need. Have you encouraged or inspired anyone to lose weight? Is there someone you know that needs or wants to lose weight but isn't really doing much about it?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Apr 10
Other people have inspired ME to lose weight, just by doing it. And the person right now who needs or wants to lose weight but isn't doing much is ME...
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• United States
16 Apr 10
Maybe you just haven't found the right motivation or inspiration. It will come along someday.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Apr 10
I did at one time, 30 lbs worth, but not in the last several years. At least I'm walking more or less daily and somewhat watching what I eat, but more than that, I'm just not up to right now...
• United States
16 Apr 10
I've felt like that. When I first started gaining the weight I just had no desire to think about getting into shape.. I was enjoying being lazy and eating whatever I wanted. I still have days like that.. who doesn't?
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
17 Apr 10
I encourage myself to lose weight from time to time. I try to encourage people, that show a desire. I offer some product that helps, if they want, and give tips that I know. If they ask, I will tell them, all that I know, and if I remember where I got it from, I will share that as well. With Appreciation.
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• United States
17 Apr 10
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. That's how it goes with most people who want to lose weight.
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
17 Apr 10
A horse can smell what is in the water, people are just suspicious by nature. If someone truly WANTS to lose weight, they will. If they think they should, they probably wont. With Appreciation.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes i do like to inspire people to lose weight.Sometimes by sharing with them my eating habits or sometimes indirectly they see it in me with how i look.And i practice what i preach. I have been a vegetarian for over a year now, and i don't eat red meat too much.So i try to inform people of the pros and cons of eating and not eating red meat. Overweight had many bad effects on our health, i guess everybody knows that.But not everybody has the strength or conviction to really lose weight, for real. I think loosing weight is an ongoing process that we must be done everyday. (^_^)
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• United States
17 Apr 10
Yes, being healthy is something we have to strive for everyday, no matter how much you weigh. Even if you are skinny, there are still health risks to eating fatty foods.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Well, before I could encourage others to lose weight, I, myself should start shedding pounds first. I am working on it right now though and I'm having fun doing it because I started doing one of my favorite things which is dancing and at the same time I know that I am losing weight because of the effort I put into it. I also started eating healthy. So I need to be in my ideal weight first before I could convince and encourage others to lose weight also.
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• United States
17 Apr 10
Lead by example.. excellent idea.
• Hong Kong
17 Apr 10
for me i encourage anyone to loose weight and be normal in their vital statistics, because i think sexy is hot, beautiful and you can call it anything you want it as long as its good to hear..
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• United States
17 Apr 10
I think it's more important than just looking good.. we want to feel good and be healthy too.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Both my sisters are very heavy.....but I don't say anything to them. They both have tried tons of diets and lose weight just to gain it back. I lost alot many years ago and struggle everyday to keep it off....so I know how hard it is...I wish they would go on a diet. I smoke...want to quit someday soon....so I don't say anything to anyone about their bad habits or lifestyle.....but as a smoker I still am somewhat healthy.....my sisters being overweight...both have heart problems!
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• United States
17 Apr 10
As I said, they have to want it for themselves. Hopefully someday soon they will find the motivation.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
16 Apr 10
I will encourage people if they express they want to lose weight, but i don't actively try to get them to unless they want it. I've been doing weight watchers for almost a year now. If someone expresses wanting to lose weight then I'll tell them what I'm doing and invite them to join me at my meetings. I've also joined the gym, so I invite people to join me at the gym. I know a few that could use it but like you said, until they want to do it and really try hard, it's useless to say anything.
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• United States
16 Apr 10
Congrats on joining the gym! How are you liking it? How much weight have you lost since you joined? For me the weight just started falling off as soon as I joined the gym... but I hit a plateau a couple months ago and couldn't kick it until just last week.
@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
i have encouraged only one person to loose weight... eheh my girlfriend...
• United States
17 Apr 10
I say love her for who she is and don't try to change her.. but that's my opinion.
@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
if you love a person you should help her achieve the better status... . for the benefit of both of you...
• United States
18 Apr 10
Only if that's what she truly wants. You can't try to change her, you can only support her in the decisions she makes for herself.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
18 Apr 10
But kat, you aren't really telling the truth here. You've inspired a lot of people on mylot to get back on track with their weight loss. I had somewhat fallen off of the bandwagon and then with your sharing your weight loss journey, I've been able to get back on track. As far as me encouraging others to loose weight, I don't think that I really do in the conventional manner. However, the fact that I make sure that my family eats right is doing a lot in the direction of helping my children to maintain a healthy weight.
• United States
18 Apr 10
I'm glad to know I've helped inspire a few people, but I did not do that alone. You had it in you to begin with and just needed a push of sorts. The show Biggest Loser did that for me.. that's what originally inspired me to begin my weight loss. I took a lot of knowledge from that, and also some sayings. Also times when I wanted to give up I'd imagine Jillian Michaels standing by me and what she'd say at that time, and it pushed me to keep going. I just wish me or the tv show could have the same inspiration on my mother. She's always been lazy and very heavy, and I think she always will be, and probably will never get that transplant. Mostly I'm thinking of my sister, cause she's only 15, and still needs my mother, and my sister is very heavy as well.. over 200 lbs and only 15. It's sad.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
17 Apr 10
katsmeow1213, Being aware of the health hazards that comes along once one gets to be in the overweight category just makes me more wary and concern for others around me. However, I am against being pushy or outright persistent to the extent that I get misunderstood and get this idea being pushed away by the ones who really needed it. I can understand the urgency for overweight people around us especially our family and loved ones. Like my dad, who is stricken with high blood pressure as a result of his overweight, I made sure that the family go on a low salt and oil food. Also, ensured that saturated fats are avoided by going for more fish and skinless chicken in our diets. I feel that people like my dad will adapt faster if everyone is involved and that there is no differential. It helps when the family sits down eating the same cooked meal and food. For the exercises, it will need a little more work like getting his friends to encourage him to participate in morning exercise groups. Walking every possible opportunity since he is never in need to rush or have a schedule to keep. Taking the stairs instead of electric elevators or lifts. As for my friends, I would always speak when asked as I understand that they would have enough pestering from their family and loved ones. Besides, with a successful example like my father, it is just easy for them to approach me than the other way round.
• United States
17 Apr 10
A common misconception when it comes to eating healthy is people think it doesn't taste good, which doesn't have to be the case! There are tons of ways to prepare healthy foods and make them taste good. I am a fan of salt free spices, especially a brand called Mrs. Dash. It makes any ordinary chicken taste extraordinary, and it's still healthy! Way to go on getting everyone involved in your dads health.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
24 Jul 10
Select an exercise pattern to suit your life style. All of us have different life styles and professions so there is no sense in trying to follow the book strictly. Try and follow an exercise routine that is suitable for you. You have to understand that even more important than the exercise it is sticking to it. So unless you choose something that can suit your life style, you are not going to stick on to it.
@BART78 (2932)
• Canada
11 May 10
yup, i encourage few people that i know that rely needs help, but it's upsetting cause they don't have strong discipline, motivation and determination..
• India
17 Apr 10
I usually don't encourage anyone to lose weight because it might work the other way, that is instead of getting encouraged they might think "uh here is another one who is concerned about my overweight" and as a result they might restrain themselves from getting along with us and might sometime avoid us completely. It is best NOT TO GIVE ADVICE NOR A WORD OF ENCOURAGEMENT TO A PERSON, IF HE DOESN'T ASK FOR IT FROM US. Forgetting completely about their appearance and keeping themselves engaged completely in other activities has helped many lose their weight instead of sitting alone and dwelling over it. And most of all, we find one thing in common to all those who think they are overweight is they start to reduce their food intake. I want to tell this to them all, the food we take in should contain all these - proteins,vitamins and carbohydrates in order to form a complete layer. Having a food without anyone of it or in an improper proportion will make our body unable to absorb the food completely and it will again result in overweight. So, don't reduce your food intake.
@Vikkyd (198)
• Finland
17 Apr 10
I really don't know too many overweight people who would seriously need to lose weight so I hardly ever encourage anyone to do so. If someone wants to lose weight but doesn't have the motivation, I'll of course try to encourage them. But for me it's pretty much the opposite, I usually encourage people to gain weight. I don't mean people of normal size, I mean underweight people, I actually know quite a few underweight people who I think have some kind of an eating disorder... The reason why I'm more motivated to encourage underweight people to gain weight than overweight people to lose some is because I'm underweight myself, I mean seriously underweight. This has nothing to do with eating disorders, in fact I eat more than most of the people I know, even more than some of the overweight people whose eating habits I know about :D And I also don't eat much healthy foods, I exercise a lot and eat food that's high in protein but that doesn't help either... I guess my problem has something to do with some kind of digestion problems, my body takes hardly any of the needed stuff from the food I eat and thus my body doesn't work properly. So I encourage people to gain some weight if they're underweight because of my own experiences, it really isn't nice to be underweight...