Only choose battles you can win ?

@ronnyb (6120)
Jamaica
April 19, 2010 8:06am CST
This was the philosophy I subscibed to wholeheartedly until I heard it again in a movie and then I realised that my philosophy may be flawed.My reason for thinking that is that if we choose only the battles that we can win then we may never know our full potential.In addition ,how can we really know that battles we can win unless we try ? So is this philosophy good or flawed ?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Hi Ronnyb, I have fought alot of battles in my lifetime & i never stopped to think was i going to win or not. If it was battle i just fought it. U don't always win but u have fought for what u believe in.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 10
Thank you for your response Antique ,like you I just fight a battle and I ont really think about success that much especially if its a necessary battle
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Thank u for the best response, Ronnyb. Have a good one.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Would be nice if we didn't have battles to fight but i think everyone does. U just have to take them as they come. Good luck w/yours, Ronnyb.
@caver1 (1765)
• United States
19 Apr 10
With my kids, I say "pick your battles". The idea is to not fight over every little thing, but to save the battles for the important stuff. So I don't fight with my kids over keeping their rooms clean or what clothes they wear as long as they are modest. If we are going to go to battle it had better be for something important so we don't waste time fighting. To answer your question. I think the philosophy of "choose only the battles you can win" is flawed. If something is important enough to you to do battle over then it is important to make a stand even if you don't win. At least everyone will know where you stand on the issue.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 10
Yes I take the same stance too fight for whats important and not which ones you can win
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
19 Apr 10
We are lading a life full of battles only.Some battles are successful and so get failed. On our gaining experience in life - this decides as to which battle shall we choose and our intuition says tht we cn succeed this particular battle,hence we chose and succeed this is my style of aiming the battles.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Apr 10
A fair enough analysis ,I guess we should be able to assess which battles we can win or not.Thanks for your input
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
21 Apr 10
Life is about battles, almost everyday we face challenges and a lot of the time we have not choice but to face them head on. I don’t know if it’s possible to only fight the battles you are sure to win because as you say how can we know we can win until we fight? Can we ever know for sure? Have you ever considered that losing battles are sometimes the most valuable life lessons?
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
21 Apr 10
I agree with you that this philosophy seems to be very flawed. I think that we need to constantly challenge ourselves to go further than we do in our day to day life. When we are trying to achieve things that we may not be able to do if we don't attempt it. There are many times in our lives where we think that we aren't able to do something because of the words or other people, but if we put our mind to it, we will learn that we are able to achieve.
• United States
20 Apr 10
Ever since I was a little girl I have known what I could do and what I will not do. Some have changed but the core things haven't.I don't battle.Either I can do something in time or I can not.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Yes, there are just some things in life that are not worth my time or energy. They are likely to end up in failure a lot of the times, with things working against you. Of course, there is something to be said about taking risks, as you will never know your full potential. I think a happy medium between the two is the best way to really function in life. I mean, think outside of the box every now and again. Then again, you have to be smart about what you do. No need to do anything that seems like an uphill battle too much. Just enough to be different, but not too much. It is fine to fall on our face if we fall. However, it is not a good idea to willingly throw ourselves facefirst down on the ground. It is a tricky thing to determine a lot of the time of course.
• United States
20 Apr 10
THis philosophy only applies to people who are coward, and those who don't have great ambition in their lives. IF you want to grow, you risk and conquer. First, write down your goals. second, know how to get these goals.Third, work on it. Don't think of the risks, because those will hinder you. Think of your goal instead, because if you are focus to it, you will work for it and no one will stop you from achieving it. You may encounter tough times, some times you loosen your grip and just want to fall but don't quit because it is only when you quit that you fail. As long as the passion is burning, difficulties aren't seen as hindrances but they are stepping stones for one to conquer to achieve ones goal. The greater the dream, the tougher the road. but at the end, you are twice or thrice in greatness the person whom you thought you were before you made it. Don't be scared to dream high because it is possible. Your will and determination will bring you to your goal. SO keep your spirits high, keep trying, change technique if you have to but don't change your goal. In the process, you are learning living life. It is a journey worth it to struggle and experience difficulties and yet keep working forward.
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
I usually choose the battles that I think I will have a hard time winning. The more challenging the task the more interesting it is for me. If I pick a task that I know I will never fail I won't learn anything from that task because it would be a routine for me. Facing battles I have never encountered before will improve me as a person and will make my life more interesting.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
sometimes i choose the battle that i know i'm of advantage to it. but if i do it most of the time, i feel bored later on. and you are right, we may never know our full potential if we just keep on choosing a fight we know that we can win in the end. losing a fight is not that bad. coz in every lost battle, that's where we'll know our weaknesses and then we can improve it later on.
19 Apr 10
No, if I battle I choose bigger enemies I think it's away to get a big name to defeat the undefeated
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
19 Apr 10
I think you misunderstood the philosophy. My philosophy is to "Choose My Battles Carefully!!! In my younger days, I'd jump in the middle of ANY battle...only because I wanted to try & win it. Now I choose my battles more carefully & I make SURE they are worth my time & effort!!! As you get older you begin to understand that winning is NOT the most IMPORTANT thing in life...especially if it's a petty cause!!! So, I do my BEST to be sure I'm fighting for a WORTHY cause!!!
@pratheep87 (1228)
• India
19 Apr 10
Hello I dont think its a philosophy. Only choose battles you can win depends on every man and so it cant be a philosophy. Based on their surrounding, Metal and physical strength one can choose the battle. Cheers
• Lincoln, Nebraska
19 Apr 10
Ronnie I believe that such a philosophy is flawed. The reason why is exactly what you said about we can never know our own potential. There are also things that we should stand up for on a moral basis simply because it is the right thing to do, irregardless of whether we win or lose the fight, the argument or the cause. Hopefully my addition to this conversation helps.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
19 Apr 10
that is what ive been doing wrong choicing battles i cant win. but i like a good fight, if you cant beat them then you fight dirty
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
which philosophy? the battles you can win, or something that maybe you can win. I go for the battles that post a challenge and allow me to expand my full potentials. most likely these are battles that my mind thinks I can't win but my heart says I can. I agree what someone said, "what is easy is boring". If you play against somebody you know you could easily defeat, i don't think you will play with that somebody often. Life is just the same. I think your former philosophy is flawed.