I do not think there there is anyone out there anymore that anyone

@jugsjugs (13045)
June 5, 2010 3:36pm CST
could class as a true friend.I have been having a good read on a few profiles tonight finding out who is being two faced aswell as back stabbers.There are people that will do what ever it takes to try to cover their tracks aswell as lie to other people.True friends were about when i was alot younger or is it that i am getting older and only now seeing it all.
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• United States
5 Jun 10
Apparently age does bring wisdom. It's sad though, isn't it? How some people are, that is. I mean, you never realize how many people out there that are actually like that until you come across one. The worst is when you think they are your friend, but they treat you like dirt.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
5 Jun 10
I am alot wiser than i was a week ago now and the best bit is they must know that i know whats been said to each other aswell.I find it hard to think why there are soo many people like this and what do they think that they can gain as it ends always in arguments aswell as the trust will never be there again.I hate it when one friend stabs another friend in the back and the next minuite the back stabbing two faced person is up the persons ,,,, like they are a great friend, i feel sorry for the person that do not know but it do make you think what they are saying behind your back aswell.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
5 Jun 10
I'm sorry you feel this way, because I find the friends I have now are more reliable than when I was younger. Then again it could be that I am wiser in choosing who I confide in. I made a really good friend just 1 1/2 years ago and she knows more about my life than my family does, as well I know hers..
@jugsjugs (13045)
5 Jun 10
What would you think if you had a friend that was stabbing another friend in the back to yet another friend of yours, would you be then thinking that they could be doing the same to you aswell as others? Also then the so called back stabbing two faced friend then carried on being pally to the person they had been stabbing in the back all day.
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• United States
6 Jun 10
Haahaha, I am not laughing at you, but at what you said..I just came back from facebook with a good friend, my sister-in-law and daughter is a deep back and forth discussion over my status..My daughter lost it and had some colorful words which she should have known I'd delete..Now I am shaking with anger, because I stood up for only to have her attack me as well as my good friend..._
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
5 Jun 10
I think there are still some good friends. I think I am one, and I have a few that would do anything for me and vice versa. There may be a problem determing who is a friend and who is just someone you know. I think that maybe as we age we expect more from our friends. When we are young and foolish there isn't really much that we need except someone to giggle with. When we start to get older and really experience life's ups and downs, then we need true friends.
@jugsjugs (13045)
5 Jun 10
If you heard aswell as maybe read something that one friend had said about another friend yet the person who they are stabbing in the back they are always being as pally as they can to their face, it would make you think what kind of people they are and if they were doing the same to you.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 11
i do feel too that it is getting harder to find a true fried the more i grow. everybody is busy and never come back to make some track. i feel like i am lost, without any true friend. and that is make me lonely sometime
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
I think its just about connections. I mean that bond or that understanding that you might have with a particular person. When that kind of understanding is established and achieved even when you two dont get to keep in touch because of work or some other reason, when you see each other again, it would be as if you two just talked an hour before you met for that day. For some the certain bond will be there but for other it will be like a pleasant memory. You two still get along but the closeness is just not the same as before. I have friends who I know will be true to me. I can always trust them. There are also those who are just "friends for the moment". Like they would be your bestest friend today but when something happens, someone new might come along, that certain friend would just leave with the times. It really is hard to find real true friends. Im just glad I found some.^_^
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
13 Jun 10
Well, true friends are rare I believe that much. But believing and having faith in people is also an important thing. People can get older and wiser or older and bitter. In the first case you will be more aware and get to know people before you will call them anything close to a friend and before you start trusting them, in the second case you can only see the bad aspects of people and don't trust because of the bad experiences you've had. Unfortunatly bad friendships and backstabbing does happen, but we mustn't forget the good things we have. Also, I believe friendships need work and otherwise they can go haywire aswell.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
8 Jun 10
I actually believe that there still are people that could be looked at as a true friend. The thing is, there aren't nearly as many people that fit that classification as I would have thought when I was a younger woman. I would say that I actually have three people in my life (excluding my husband) that I would consider to be a true friend. The rest of the people that I know would be considered to be casual friends or acquaintances, but nothing more than that to be honest.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
7 Jun 10
WEll I think I have true friends that keep in contact with my thru here and the phone really dont depend on facebook for them I have been adding a few friends there but dont go there often
• United States
6 Jun 10
I hate to say it, but I don't kiss peoples butts, and I don't back stab. I may actually say something some day that someone wont like if they don't like it they know what they can do with it. I have one true friend that I have known for years that comes in here, she knows more about me then anyone else does, she understands me and my humor. But 99% of the people here haven't known me for 12 years so they can't understand me as well as she can. But there are a few folks that are not my friends, and I have to say they never will be because they want to fight and argue whenever I post or reply to something. People like that I will never make friends with of course though I enjoy being sweet to them, but if they cross me, One to many times that is when the crap hits the fan. I have a few offline friends that I would call back stabbers, but they have found out that I don't let them to close as of lately.
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
There are still people who can pass as true friends, but though it is tragic but true, there are people out there who cannot and are not true friends. We call those people frienemies. We have to focus on people ho we can trust rather than those who betray us.
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
6 Jun 10
Sorry you seem to be having trouble with someone here. A lot of people are in the same boat, unfortunately. I think you are now older and seeing it all plus, when we are younger we are not so devious and don't have all the emotional and mental baggage we lug around when we are older. So, it's a combination of the two. If someone is being mean to you, ignore them. They don't deserve any rent-free space in your head.
@ericpapasit (1276)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
Confusion with your title though. But don't stop to trust someone but be careful also.
@derek_a (10902)
6 Jun 10
I think that for most of us there are true friends still to be found in the world, even though it's mostly about survival of the fittest! As a Zen practitioner, I try to be as honest and as loyal as I can, because if we hit out and/or hurt another person, we are also doing ourselves a disservice. At the same time, I think it wise to alway remain cautious with other, and have no expectations from them. Then there will be times when we will get a pleasant surprise. We always get back what we give out. _Derek
• China
6 Jun 10
I am alot wiser than i was a week ago now and the best bit is they must know that i know whats been said to each other aswell.I find it hard to think why there are soo many people like this and what do they think that they can gain as it ends always in arguments aswell as the trust will never be there again.I hate it when one friend stabs another friend in the back and the next minuite the back stabbing two faced person is up the persons ,,,, like they are a great friend, i feel sorry for the person that do not know but it do make you think what they are saying behind your back aswell.
@hexeduser22 (5853)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
It's rare to find true friends this days. So if you happen to find one never let go of him or her. Today most friends are classified into two: The Practical friend, the one who befriends you for survival and practical matters, the second one is the user-friendly friends, friends who use and abuse your kindness to the extreme. True friends are to be considered endangered species
@emjsar15 (140)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
hi! i understand your feelings for your friend who has done wrong to you. But you must be aware in choosing a real friend to put trust into. Not all friends are trusted one to give our secret. If you just read the scriptures it is written there that not to give our full trust to anybody even to our brothers and sisters or to our friends nor to give out secret to them.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
hi jugs, i think there's really a lot of that kind around and its really difficult to find true friends in its real sense. but i do believe that they still exists coz i have some on my side. i have read once that if you have one true friend you have more than your share and if you find one its like finding a treasure. i think we can just say that we have lots of true friends when we are younger because we are not aware yet of the things around. as time pass by we were able to know their characters more and also in time we were able to measure the friendship that we have. just like in my case, i always believe that this person is my true friend, best friend coz we have been together since elementary years till college, but one incident happens and from there i find out that she's not really a true friend to me. we are still 'friends' till now but just friends for the sake of old times but its no longer like when we are young, coz i already know her and what kind of friendship we have. i don't know but really its difficult to find one true friend that will be there for us through thick & thin and we can trust all our life. for now the only true friend that i treat and trust all my life are my parents, my brother and my husband.
• India
6 Jun 10
True wisdom comes not with knowledge but with experience. We learn to distrust only if someone breaks our trust and not otherwise. As a child, I trusted my friends and in return, they trusted me. As we grew in age, we began learning them. Our experiences with our friends taught us many things. We learned whom we must trust and whom we must not. Most important thing is how much we learn from our mistakes. If we have not then we cannot claim that we are experienced and wise. To know who your friend is just pinch his behind once. He would reveal his true colors. Then only you would know who your friend is.
@Helenlgw (18)
• United States
6 Jun 10
thats not true i belive in being a true friend i admit there are some bad apples
• United States
6 Jun 10
When I was a little girl I had two close friends they both liked me but didn't like each other. But when we went into middle school we drifted apart. When I was in highschool, I had a few friends but I wasn't that close.Now I have a close friends and my guy is my best friend. There are some great people out there. True I don't work with my close friends and our friendship is based on mutual respect and a shared interest.I hope you can find a true friend.