Great mood one day, terrible mood the next...

United States
June 25, 2010 12:18pm CST
I'm the type of person that is typically in a bad mood, and I don't really like that about myself. I want to be able to see the blessings I have instead of seeing all the negatives in my life, and all the things I don't have. I want to be able to enjoy life and not be so stressed out all the time. Yesterday I was actually in a great mood for no reason. It seems I just decided to be, and I loved it. I felt good, I didn't get stressed, I enjoyed the time I spent with my kids. I wished that mood could have lasted forever. Today I'm in a terrible mood, but I'm trying really hard to feel better. It just seems to have been a bad day and it's only getting worse. Mostly due to financial stresses, a bit worse than we're used to dealing with. So due to my stress I'm yelling at the kids over little things... snapping at my husband everytime he calls me.. and not really wanting to do much of anything at all but sit and relax and not deal with the world around me. Ugh! I hate feeling this way. Have you ever been in a great mood one day, but a terrible mood the next day? How do you pull yourself out of the mood you're in that's caused by something you have no control over?
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• United States
25 Jun 10
I know the feeling.... very very well! If they are behaving and we are all getting along I'm usually doing great and of course toss in a good nights sleep doesn't hurt any either! Like today I took DS to the grocery store while the DD's were in school. He's been a nightmare for months taking him out in public. Today we were out and he was listening very well & good spirits wich put me in a good mood. The clerk said "is that the same boy you had in here last time? Woa what a differance in personality!" Yeah it is he's being a good boy especially since I had bought a monkey harness and I tell him if he's not good he gets to wear his monkey, but today I didn't even have to say anything about it.
• United States
25 Jun 10
Sounds like my littlest.. even my 4 year old is becoming a bit of a pain lately. He used to be a perfect angel, but he's slowly turning into a brat. At first I thought it was his little brother's influence, but now I'm wondering if he's not picking this behavior up from other kids at the gym when I drop him off in the Child Watch. Either way, I have to deal with it for now because there's no way I can remove either influence, unless I want to stop going to the gym and get fat again, yikes!! He should be starting preschool in the fall so lets see if that changes anything then!
• United States
26 Jun 10
I dunno what started my DS' behavior cause he was good til he got potty trained and moved out of his crib. He took to his bed and being pt'd w/o trouble. But the public behavior OMG! Yeah who knows what kid he picks to emulate in the child care area. Or like you said maybe he got it from a sibling? or ? I'm glad you are able to keep going to the gym. I'm hoping one day to afford to get there myself... darn child car, gym fees, and gas to get there ect.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
27 Jun 10
I smile a lot, force the action and the feeling will come. I got that from a few different places, including the writings of Dale Carnegie, founder of the Carnegie Success Courses, he wrote, How to Win Friends and Influence People, and smiling was one of the main points he made. It isn't always an easy thing to do, and it can make you feel quite ridiculous at times. And it works better then everything else I have ever tried, I tie it in with trying to remember some very good times I have had in the past, and when you remember the happy times, it is easier to smile. You may have no control over your circumstances, but you always have control over how you react to them. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
• United States
27 Jun 10
I too read somewhere about faking it.. not sure where though, might have been a Dr. Laura book. It did work for me when I tried it last.. led to a couple of great weeks of me being in a really great mood. Like any new habit, it's hard to keep going, and I guess I eventually gave up.
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
27 Jun 10
Coming from the wonderful lady that lost 75lbs, I find it hard to believe that she knows what it means to give up...
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jun 10
It happens to all of us. I guess I pull myself out of it by taking a few deep breaths, reminding myself that I have no control over it and go take care of something I DO have control over..
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jun 10
Sounds real logical, huh? In reality I probably get grumpy and go do something away from everybody else.
@AmbiePam (50257)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I'm bipolar, so that is kind of par for the course for me. And I hate it.
• United States
26 Jun 10
That sucks! I'm having another bad day. Today it's the kids though. I definitely feel tired, so it might be that their crap is bothering me more than it would if I weren't tired.. but they're also not behaving quite as well as they were a couple days ago.
• Singapore
26 Jun 10
There are many things beyond our control but we all have a choice. We have a choice as to which mood to be in. And you are actually aware of this. Look at what you wrote: It seems I just decided to be (in a great mood). You know that it is a choice. You decided to be in a good mood. Given any situation, we have a choice to take things easy or to be hard on ourselves and the people around us. Sometimes for the sake of our loved ones, we just have to be in control of ourselves so that we do not develop a negative image of ourselves in their eyes. Five or ten years down the road, how do we want our kids to remember us? There may be lots of pressing things on our mind (everyone does!) which we have no control over. Sweat the stuff we do have control over instead of those we have none.
• United States
26 Jun 10
I do my best to control my anger, until it becomes overwhelming.. and I probably handled myself pretty well considering all the stress I was under, which isn't going away anytime soon. Doesn't help that hubby NEVER chooses to be in a good mood unless things are going well.. he can be a real downer in stressful situations, and sometimes I grow tired of trying to talk him out of it, lol.
@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 10
katsmeow no I cannot say that I have as my moods do notswing that greatly. Have you talked to your doctor? You could have a mild case'of bipolar and if so, there are medications that the doctor can give you to even your mood swings. Also if you check out as clean and no bipolar then you know you just need to find ways to unstress yourself. I am a diabetic and believe it or not,m whenwe get stressed our blood sugar tends to go sky high as if we had ate something supersweet. so I do as myh diabetes nurse educator suggested, try this.Picture an imaginary bubble all around you that keeps all stress out. It cannot penetrate the bubble you have around you. Then relax and feel all tension just draining away. This really does work.Financial troubles are the hardest for any of us and again use that tough bubble as the tensions and worries will just bounce off. too once you are not tense a lot of times you can come up with positive ideas to cover your financial problems. I still use that bubble whenever I feel stressed out or am threatened to be stressed. good luck and God bless.
• United States
26 Jun 10
I'm certainly not bi-polar as my mood swings have good cause, as I mentioned. Even if I were, I'm against the idea of using medication to help level your mood. Personally I'm not a fan of medication for any reason, I won't even take aspirin for a headache. Of course if I need an antibiotic or something that's a different story. If it's a problem I can work through myself, I'd rather go that route than take a pill.
@GardenGerty (104026)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I do sometimes have mood swings, and you are right, it is often from stress. I find music to be very helpful, and I also try to eat right and take the vitamins that work for me.
• United States
26 Jun 10
I also use music to lift my spirits or energize me, and of course I do normally eat healthy. I think mostly on these bad days I just need more sleep, but that's easier said than done.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
26 Jun 10
Hi kats~ Unfortunately, I'm not here to give you an answer because if I had one then I wouldn't feel the same way that you do! And yes, it is most days and I have no idea why. I have alot of things to be thankful for and alot not to be. But, basically I have my health, at least so far nothing has been found YET, that is really life threatening! But, there are more tests to be taken and that is bothering me so it makes me upset, frustrated, angry and most of all scared so I turn into "quiet anger. I am angry at everything and everyone, but I don't show it anymore because I have been placed of meds that seem to have sort of fixed that chemical imbalance to control those really bad "anger management issues" so that I don't "act out" the impulses and tantrums anymore, at least most of the time. But, it doesn't mean I'm not feeling them!
• United States
26 Jun 10
I have thought about getting some medication, I was diagnosed with depression, so I could easily get some happy pills.. but I don't think they'd help. Like you said, you still have the feelings, you just can't act on them. I'd rather work through it myself, figure out what's bothering me, and fix it or whatever... like think of happier things, etc.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
25 Jun 10
I would think that you get stressed because you feel that you have no control of your financial situation. Or else it may be PMS I would feel that way after a wind storm or hurricane and we would not be making any money for 7 or 8 months. I just did not know what to do. I worried about how to mange and what would happen to us. But we were in a better situation than you as we had vegetables, pigs and chickens. So we could and did survive. Farming is either feast or famine. And it is hard to count blessings during the bad times. I know this very well. Remember that your husband is trying to do everything possible so it is hard for him too not to provide for his family as he would want to do. He is probably stressed too. I know that you are frugal like myself and I am sure that you are cutting down on costs as much as possible. Is school finished now for the summer? Did you decide to move to your FIL? Would this be cheaper for you? I would tell your older children how worried you are about things and ask them to cooperate with you. I wish that I had the answer Kat. I can understand you not wanting to face reality when things are looking so bleak at this moment. I will think about this and try to come up with something. Many blessings
• United States
25 Jun 10
You've missed quite a few discussions while you were gone, because many of your questions have been answered in form of discussion, lol. I forgive you though. We've just decided we will not be moving in with FIL, we noticed his controlling side coming back out so we decided the move would be a bad idea. So in order to help with finances we decided to drop our cell phones and cable. That leaves us with the basic necessities of rent, power, home phone, internet, and car insurance.. as well as catching up on things that are behind. Normally a few financial stresses don't bother me much. I'm used to being broke and not always affording the bills on time.. that's not a huge deal. We always find a way to have enough food though. This week my car insurance hit twice, overdrawing our account, before I was able to get the week's groceries, but I didn't know until I got up to the counter with all my food and my card was declined! How embarassing. We just have to get through the week.. and I'm sure we'll find a way. Hopefully we can borrow a little bit off FIL to get us through.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
25 Jun 10
I find I am typically in a bad mood most days as well. Some days it could be some thing as simple as the kids constant picking on each other that totally ruins my mood. Today they are just getting on each others nerves and Lily is crying about everything( she has been doing that a lot lately). I am not in a BAD mood today, but I sure am not in a good mood either. I don't normally pull myself out of the bad mood. I usually just stay in a crappy mood all day.
• United States
25 Jun 10
Yep, same thing as my house, as well as a lot of hyperness which also drives me crazy in such a small space. They're very good at riling each other up.. and I spend most of my days just yelling at them, so much so that I've long gotten past the whole guilty feeling after yelling or punishing a child.. so sad! I don't normally try to pull myself out of bad moods either, but I'm tired of feeling so crappy all the time.. so I actually want to try being in a good mood more often. Yesterday was just such a nice day.. maybe it was my mood or something but it seemed the kids were behaving better than usual.. today everything they're doing is getting on my nerves.
25 Jun 10
If the changes in mood are triggered by circumstances- I mean if there was a reason wh would you would be in a good or bad mood in that particular day- then, it's just natural to have these mood changes. But, if these moods just changes without any triggering factor or reason at all, then I guess, you should talk to your husband and close friends. Ask them how they see you... do they feel that your mood changes are quite frequent and rather irrational, most of the time. Ask yourself even, if you have been like that since then or those mood swings just started lately. Try also to assess if there has been stressful events on your life. For short, know yourself more through personal reflection and through those people around you whos opinoins you can trust. Then make an assessment if those mood changes are rational. If they just happen for no reaon at all, then I guess, s brief visit with a professional would help. But if you don't want to do this, then try to find ways to minimize those mood swings... or else, you'll be putting everybody around you in a bad mood... not quite good for your relationships- for your husband, family or friends. If the bad moods gets into you, try to think how much you would hurt the people around you if you let it control you!
• United States
25 Jun 10
I have 5 kids.. I think for the most part my bad moods have good reason, lol. And today's bad mood definitely has a good reason because of the financial stress I mentioned.
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jun 10
Your thoughts decide your future. Think good, think happiness, think positive. It does happen that you cannot carry your ggod mood forever, but you can try. When you feel angry think of something that makes you happy, think of something that will change you mood. Its human tendency to always remember the negative or something that had gone wrong. So its up to you how you control your thoughts. Keep something handy that bring a smile on you face, like a family picture or anything that brings happiness and llok at it when you feel low. This will help you to change your mood.
• United States
25 Jun 10
Yes that's true, our mind can set our mood.. but sometimes it's difficult when you're under great stress.
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
There are many stimulants that triggers our mood swings. Like what you said for example stress due to financial reasons, or it may be due to work, office, co-workers, etc. But there are also people that these mood swings are part of their personality. And sometimes there are also cases that individuals have this personality disorder and mood swings is one of the symptoms. I for one must admit has a very mild personality disorder because i do have mood swings very often in a day. It is important that this does not control you and it should be that you control it.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I try to begin each day in a good mood with positive feelings. I don't like it when a bad mood comes my way. negative feelings give you power but not in the right way. The rest of the day is just a stuggle then. There are so many trials that we face each day. Facing them with a positive attitude helps to keep the bad moods away.