They are coming Home
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
June 26, 2010 12:38pm CST
You may remember that I looked after my grand twins. They came to me at 17 months and then left with their Mother to live in the Middle East where she works. They left me at 3 years and two months. My son went up to settle them in and visited them for Christmas and Easter and he talks to them daily by skype. I talk to them too and they ask sing their night songs to them etc but I have missed them so much.
Anyway they will be home by July 3rd to stay until the first week in September and I am so happy about this. This will actually be the first time tat I have all four grand children in the country at the same time - so there will be lots of picture taken.
So many of you helped me with good advice re potty training and parties and naughty corners etc. The you gave excellent advice re transferring the decision making back to their Mom from me so that they knew that he was now in charge. They have just had their fourth birthday but told their mother that they want their party at my house so more fun.
This is a post to express my happiness butto turn it into a post have you had any good news re children or grand children lately?
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jun 10
Hooray, I know you are going to be having a great summer now.
Good news re: grand children? Yep, I'm not having any any time soon. :D
Ok seriously, we got Dearra's report card, and after all the absences and scare over her grades and everything, she managed to pull her grades up. Also, she doesn't have scoliosis. How's that for good news?
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 10
Now that is great news about Dearra not having scoliosis and I am so happy that her grades were o.k. You must be happy over this one. Yes, you were first, were fist, were first
Thinks: I get very silly around Dawn.
Thinks: I get very silly around Dawn.2 people like this
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
26 Jun 10
Yay for you and your grandbabies! 
Nope, I have no good news about kids to share. As a matter of fact I'd gladly send you a few of mine for the summer as well.. so they can stop making me and each other miserable!! ARG!!
My oldest has had such an attitude lately and it's making me insane. He's lazy, but that's nothing new, and he's becoming arrogant, which is new. He's talking back, which he's never done before, and telling me no when I tell him to do something. One of these days soon I may just end up smacking him!! He's even giving this attitude to his siblings, bossing them around, treating them like idiots, and being overly competitive with them. I've been talking to him about this daily for the past few weeks, but it's not stopping and I just now had to yell at him and forbid him from speaking a single word to his siblings since he can't be nice to them.
My 7 year old son, well he's a sneak and a liar. He winds up with something that I have no idea where he got it from, and I can never get the truth out of him to know if it was given to him or if he stole it from someone. He's always been like this, but it seems to be getting worse. The last day of school he brought home a rated R horror movie and I think he was watching it in his bedroom. He told me a kid in his class gave it to him... I don't believe it.
The little 2 are just whiney beyond belief, and it grates on my nerves. It's something about crying and whining I just can't stand to listen to it. The 4 year old is told to stop when he starts whining and crying, and usually he listens.. but the 2 year old doesn't stop.. ever. He's crying right now as a matter of fact, I think because he's really tired and needs a nap, but his daddy will be home soon and then we have to go over to FIL's, so little man can't nap right now, so I just have to deal with the crying.
Ok, sorry for ranting.. I didn't mean to rain on your parade. I'm just having a stressful moment and wish hubby would get home very soon.. though he's usually very little help. I have to tell him when he needs to speak to the children, then I never like how he goes about it because he always asks them why they're doing what they're doing... so I end up yelling at him "You know why the child isn't doing his chores, because he doesn't want to, he wants to be lazy and watch TV... don't ask why, just punish him!!" Arg!!
Nope, I have no good news about kids to share. As a matter of fact I'd gladly send you a few of mine for the summer as well.. so they can stop making me and each other miserable!! ARG!!
My oldest has had such an attitude lately and it's making me insane. He's lazy, but that's nothing new, and he's becoming arrogant, which is new. He's talking back, which he's never done before, and telling me no when I tell him to do something. One of these days soon I may just end up smacking him!! He's even giving this attitude to his siblings, bossing them around, treating them like idiots, and being overly competitive with them. I've been talking to him about this daily for the past few weeks, but it's not stopping and I just now had to yell at him and forbid him from speaking a single word to his siblings since he can't be nice to them.
My 7 year old son, well he's a sneak and a liar. He winds up with something that I have no idea where he got it from, and I can never get the truth out of him to know if it was given to him or if he stole it from someone. He's always been like this, but it seems to be getting worse. The last day of school he brought home a rated R horror movie and I think he was watching it in his bedroom. He told me a kid in his class gave it to him... I don't believe it.
The little 2 are just whiney beyond belief, and it grates on my nerves. It's something about crying and whining I just can't stand to listen to it. The 4 year old is told to stop when he starts whining and crying, and usually he listens.. but the 2 year old doesn't stop.. ever. He's crying right now as a matter of fact, I think because he's really tired and needs a nap, but his daddy will be home soon and then we have to go over to FIL's, so little man can't nap right now, so I just have to deal with the crying.
Ok, sorry for ranting.. I didn't mean to rain on your parade. I'm just having a stressful moment and wish hubby would get home very soon.. though he's usually very little help. I have to tell him when he needs to speak to the children, then I never like how he goes about it because he always asks them why they're doing what they're doing... so I end up yelling at him "You know why the child isn't doing his chores, because he doesn't want to, he wants to be lazy and watch TV... don't ask why, just punish him!!" Arg!! 
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I did read your PM and responded last night.
I know that I am sometimes unfair with my kids, but I tell them that sometimes life isn't fair and they'll always have to do things they don't want to do, and they need to just do it without complaint and backtalk. We've also tried explaining that if they do the things they don't want to, without much hassle, then after it's done they'll be allowed to do the things they do want. However if they don't do what is asked of them, or put up a big fight to get it done, then they're grounded for the rest of the day and get no TV or video games or anything. They haven't learned yet.. they still keep trying to get away with not doing any of the jobs they don't want to do.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 10
I also hated whining but I cured them all of it. I told them that whenever anyone whines it set off a terrible noise in my head and I cannot hear. This only happens to mummies;. So if anyone whined I would cover my ears and look around and ask if someone was whining? I was so dramatic about the pain! Then of course they would stop the whining and speak in a normal voice.
You can rant any time. I sent you a pm so please read it and respond. Teenagers can be a real problem and I have no answers. How about a school counselor? IDK. I told my boys that they could criticize me anytime or say that I was unfair or wrong but there was a way to speak to me because I am their mother and therefore I deserve respect. So they had to speak to me respectfully. My husband was hot on this one as he always spoke to me respectfully,.
I would tell my husband to speak to the children and one day I listened. He walked into their bedroom and said "Hi guys'. I could have hit him over the head with the rolling pin
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 10
I don't think that I got the response. will check no before I leave work. There is nothing wrong with your parenting methods.You are right. Life is not fair and no one ever promised that it would be - we all have to do the best we can. I agree with you 100%. I just hope that they learn this lesson quickly!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
27 Jun 10
thank you for te advice but English is their primary language. They gomto an International school in Quatar where their mothr teaches s it is natural for them to absorb Arabic too. Thnks for responding and welcome to Mylot
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 10
Well, they do love their school in Qatar. However I have been warned that they speak Arabic very well so they may switch languages on me! Bless you
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@woodman321123 (356)
• China
27 Jun 10
It is great . I bet your grand children will bring you much happiness . your house will be full of joy because of them . The relatives are so important for everyone . But I suggest that you should learn more Arabic before them come .hehe.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
26 Jun 10
My daughters will also be home at the same time this summer. Orgionally only my daughter from New York would be home but the other daughter and her family are moving to Germany so they will come this way for a visit. It will be the first time in six years all my kids will be in one place at the same time!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
27 Jun 10
So this will be woderful for you too. Take lots of photos and enjoy the time together. Blessings
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
27 Jun 10
That is wonderful news, cynthi. I know u are so happy that they are coming home to see u. I'm sure their leaving was one of the many hard things in your life. I know they will be soooo glad to see u to. Grandchildren are such wonderful little creatures, lol. I got to keep my grandson today for a few hours & i loved it & i think he did to. We had a big time. hugs.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
27 Jun 10
I am sure that he loved being with you yesterday. They are wondeful and I am so looking forwad to seeing them again. Blessings
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Jun 10
Hi cynthiann! So happy to hear such incredible news about your
grandchildren coming home! I know how miserable you were when
they left. And to have all your kids home at the same time you
must be so excited. That is going to be one big happy reunion.
I am so thrilled for you! I hope that you will be able to take
time off from work to enjoy them especially the grands! Please
let us know how everyone is doing. Hugs, Opal
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
27 Jun 10
Thank you Opal - I am so happy that they are coming. I love it when everyone is around - even all the confusion that there is sometimes.lol Thank you - I'm already planning a few activities for us all.
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
26 Jun 10
That is such wonderful news about your grand twins coming back to stay for a few months. I know you have missed them terribly. I am sure they have missed you as well.
Jeremy, my 10 year old, just recently got back from a week long camping trip with my sister and her friend and some of her friends family in Arkansas. He had a blast swimming and kayaking in the lake. He spent a lot of time in a hammock and asked me to get him one for his room instead of his bed. He says it is much more comfortable and he falls asleep faster in there than in a bed.
He is now officially in 5th grade. His last report card was pretty good. He got all 3's and 4's which is the equivalent of all A's and B's.
His attitude lately has left something to be desired though. He for some reason feels the need to bicker with his sister constantly and it is driving me nuts.
Lily, my 3 year old, has been super cranky lately, but on a positive note she is getting smarter by the day. She has been memorizing the lyrics to tons of songs lately and in the rare moments that she is not being cranky she is singing along to something or even belting out a song without any music.
He says it is much more comfortable and he falls asleep faster in there than in a bed.
He is now officially in 5th grade. His last report card was pretty good. He got all 3's and 4's which is the equivalent of all A's and B's.
His attitude lately has left something to be desired though. He for some reason feels the need to bicker with his sister constantly and it is driving me nuts.
Lily, my 3 year old, has been super cranky lately, but on a positive note she is getting smarter by the day. She has been memorizing the lyrics to tons of songs lately and in the rare moments that she is not being cranky she is singing along to something or even belting out a song without any music.
@ellie333 (21016)
•
26 Jun 10
Hi Cythiann, Hope you had a lovely trip away and now that you are back you have your grand twins returning for the summer, how wonderful for you, bet you are getting really excited. Looks like you have a wonderful action packed summer ahead of you. Family news I have a new nephew born on 12th June and yesterday my daughter got her result for her degree 2:1 so really happy. Huggles. Ellie :D
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
26 Jun 10
Oh,many congratulations to your daughter and for the birth of your nephew. You must be so proud of your daughter. This is such great news. Blessings
Blessings
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Jun 10
That is lovely news! There will lots of good memories made I think! I don’t have grandchildren and I hope they are a really long away from now (LOL) because my daughter is only eight! She did very well in her ballroom exam two weeks ago; yesterday was my birthday and she brought me coffee in bed along with a beautiful pink Parker pen as a gift, she helped me with chores and was an absolute angel until her cousin came over to play...It’s not long until your grandkids arrive, enjoy them and have lots of precious times with them!
