ideas on how to motivate a lazy teen

@cher913 (25890)
Canada
July 2, 2010 3:09pm CST
more often than not, at least a few of us have had a lazy teen for a child. mine is a 17 year old girl and just wants to hang with her boyfriend and her friends. the boyfriend has a job but finds it hard to say no to her. how did you deal with a lazy teen?
6 responses
26 Oct 10
I really think people need to be role models. When I was at school I had very few people to look up to and although my school tended to bring in x pupils who had made a mess of their lifes but managed to get it back on track, nobody ever came who was just making something of themselves. It always appeared to be someone who got into trouble, then learned it wasn't needed. People also need to make sure they work, as this is the biggest thing and hopefully parents who just pay for their kids stop and think how more rewarding it would be for them to do it themselves.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jul 10
Mine is 13. Does it really last until they're 17? this one doesn't even have a boyfriend yet. when you figure it out, do let me know. :D
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
6 Jul 10
Well, when I was a teenager, my mother made us earn our keep so to speak. We had to keep good grades in school and when school was out for the summer such as it is right now, we were expected to help keep the house up and also to help with our younger siblings. In doing this we never had a ton of idle time on our hands. If this isn't an option, then I would probably suggest that she get a part time job so that she would be able to have money of her own to spend.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
3 Jul 10
Give her responsibility. When I was a teenager both of my parents worked and I was in charge of my three younger siblings. There were chores that had to be done and I was the one responsible for making sure that they were done. I couldn't go hang out with my friends if my parents came home to a house that was a wreck.
@jhnmikala (153)
• United States
2 Jul 10
I restricted them from stuff if they didnt get out and do stuff get a job or whatever it is that I wanted them to do I took stuff away like say example their phone or I wouldnt let them speak to their friends you know that kind of stuff. And believe me its worked wonders they listen a whole lot better.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
2 Jul 10
give them lots of coffee.