Would you care if someone called you ugly?

Philippines
July 15, 2010 8:54am CST
I mean I haven't really thought of this until now but what if someone called me or you ugly. I know that some of you may go on and say, "Don't mind them". But in reality, no matter how small you think that matter is it will still affect you in some way. So what would you feel?
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26 responses
• India
15 Jul 10
i remember an sms when i saw this it says "if somebody call you ugly.... go to them .pull his collar close to your mouth and say in his ears that hey don't tell anyone"
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Lol, that is funny. I've never read that sms before. Thanks for sharing. I think I'll try this one for laughs sometime.
• Malaysia
15 Jul 10
I remember some SMS like that before. but in a different language.
@hanagi (391)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I would really feel bad about it. It will cause my self confidence and self esteem to lower. I wouldn't want to be called ugly especially when I am doing everything to make myself look presentable and pretty. Also it will really feel bad if the one who calls you ugly is your crush or your parents. Anyway, the only ones who are calling me ugly are my mother and my sister but the rest they always tell me I am pretty and I think my mother and sister would just call me ugly to tease me.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
If your parents and relatives are the ones who say you're ugly and other people say otherwise then I suppose you are not ugly at all. If it was the opposite (your parents and relatives said you're pretty and other people say you're ugly) then that's the time you should rethink your strategy of making yourself presentable.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Jul 10
It depends on who says it. If someone that mattered called me ugly, it would make me feel a bit uneasy but if it was someone else I don't care about, I would totally ignore it. I know myself better and people calling others as being ugly are probably suffering from insecurity. There is more to a person than external beauty or even internal beauty, so ugly or not, it shouldn't be the center of anyone's problems. There are people who go out of the way to thwart you down and put you off-track, so the solution to this is to keep yourself focused and be positive.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I suppose you're right. I was looking for an answer like this. It would definitely also depend on form who the comment came from and why. Thanks for this.
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
I can't say and don't know my reaction until the time that I'm in that situation already. I just have to cross the bridge first before I'm going to realize what it is to be there. But I am person with open mind and if it's really true then you just have to accept it but definitely I'm going to leave a word for that person too. I will just say it to that person that s/he don't need to remind me of how ugly I am because I knew it already. Don't add more to the burden that I've been bringing all this time.
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
You have a really good outlook in life, good for you. I hope a lot of people would think the same way you do. Cause if they did then the world would be a better place to live in.
• Malaysia
17 Jul 10
Ermm, it is easy...IGNORE THEM!Treat them like dog BARKING as always i did. haha Realize that there is no such thing as UGLY and all of us can't born a number 10 in today's society, but all of us have some wonderful features and personality is the 1st factor when we reach adulthood. No matter how pretty or handsome a person is if they don't have a good personality, they have NOTHING! If they are in your face simply say, "I've found that when a person hasn't got anything intelligent to say, they reduce themselves to name-calling or swearing and you fit into that category perfectly!" Of of the most important things you can do for yourself, in general , is build ur self confidence. As long as you can feel good about yourself, the shallow comments of other people shouldn't bring you down.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
16 Jul 10
If someone called me ugly I probably wouldn't respond right away if this happened in person. If they were referring to my looks my feelings would be hurt but I would have to consider the source. If they were referring to my personality, I would laugh it off. I know better.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
16 Jul 10
Whatever word is being said and if I would hear it personally I would be very offended. But that would just be for a while because I do not want to waste my time thinking and arguing about something so petty as this especially if it is not true. I believe the true you would eventually be seen.
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
you are hypo-crate to say thats its ok..of cause it hurts, but that's life..you cannot please every body..maybe if they say that i am ugly are ugly i have to make it up to make it presentable..at least if you are ugly, i will make it up in other way to recover it..but i am not being to affected so much, who knows maybe he/she said that because of insecurities..ha..ha..
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
16 Jul 10
I would definitely feel insulted. And I would have the honor to tell that person likewise. Being called ugly is a very demeaning remark. And sometimes, it only confirms your deepest insecurities that should have been buried right in the deepest recesses of our being.
@Satenik (102)
• Armenia
16 Jul 10
If someone told me I am ugly when I was a teenager that would be a catastrophe for me. But now I wouldn't care. I mean I don't think anybody would because I am pretty good looking (no boasting). But who knows. tastes differ. And beauty is a relative concept. Be confident.
• Pakistan
16 Jul 10
i am in view if any one called you ugly due to your moral attitude, then this criticism is fruitful to you to change your self. But if any one's means to hurt you then you should be confident on your self and never feel mind. some time these kind of talking hurts you and makes you laking in confidence. you should judge the intention of the person who is saying this. As Beauty is in the eye of beholder, similarly Ugliness is in the eye of beholder.
@T_Diamond (965)
• New Zealand
16 Jul 10
...am I filthy rich?
• Canada
15 Jul 10
If I was insecure I would probably be really upset, but it all depends on who calls my ugly. If my boyfriend called me ugly to be honest I'd probably die. I think if there's one person in the world I couldn't handle saying that to me its him. On another note if some random in the street called me ugly I most likely wouldn't give a rats ***.
@chayne12 (13)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
its really true that no matter people will say "dont mind them" the word that they said really keeps on repeating in your mind thus decreases your self esteem and confidence. someone already told me that im ugly but i dont mind them all. I'll say, so what? it's better that i got ugly because if im beautiful maybe i am now pregnant and just staying at home. dont mind them. you affect their lives but they dont affect yours. that's the good thing.
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 10
i wouldnt really. I know how i look and i also know that i am the best jurdge of my ownself. I have been in situations when people havnt cared about me. They have said he looks bad. I never cared. The less you listen to people the more successful you become.
• United States
15 Jul 10
It would probably depend on who it was. If my husband said I was ugly, obviously that would really bother and upset me, on the other hand if it was some random stranger I really could care less.
@xtedaxcvg (3190)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Well, to be honest, I'd be pretty upset. Although I won't pay much attention to it, it would somehow affect me. It's just one of those days where you brush off those dirt that has been thrown at you.
@Galena (9123)
15 Jul 10
it happens to me a lot and it hurts me every single time. seriously, to all you apparently beautiful, perfect people, how DARE you think that just because I'm ugly you have the right to point it out and make me feel bad. I can't HELP it. do you think ugly is a choice? do you think when you tell us we're ugly we'll think, oh thanks for that, I'll go away and miracle myself beautiful like you. you acheive nothing but making someone feel bad for something they can't help. do you think we want to be reminded? if you see someone ugly, please just ignore the fact they're ugly. don't be cruel. ugly people have feelings too, and also ugly people CAN hear just as well as beautiful people, so giggling to your mates as you pass me about what a minger I am is just as bad as calling me ugly to my face. I've heard it all my life. I can't change it. I don't need to be reminded every day.
@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Actually it doesn't bother me. There have been way more people these days to call me cute or pretty. All others which are those who have chose to call me "ugly" are after one main goal and that is to hurt me in some way. Yes its possible that to them I am ugly in appearance but if they thought I was attractive they would never tell me the truth since that would defeat their original purpose. Now, if I am in a particularly negative mood, feeling down about myself then I'll have this question in the back of my head "Has everyone who said I'm pretty been lying to me and this is one of the first people who has actually told me the truth?".
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
That depends on who that person was. If it was a friend, I wouldn't mind because for sure she is not trying to offend me but was just joking, so, I'll just laugh about it.:-) If it is a family member, well, that hurts. Imagine, blood of my own blood, flesh of my own flesh yet calling and seeing me as ugly... Ugh! If it is an enemy,what do you expect? I'll be more insulted and the more I'll get angry with that person. Anyways, I am confident with the way I look so no matter what people say, it will not hurt me that much. If someone I don't know said that to me, there's only one thing I can think of why she said that to me and that is : SHE IS JEALOUS OF ME!