can you turn your problems into something positive or make it work for your good

I agree with you hotsummer...take our problems as a challenges in our life, face it with a positive mind and above all hang on to God and everything will be a positive result....

Whenever I have problems, I usually sleep on it. I do believe that we have to sleep on our problems that when we wake up we have idea on how to solve it. It is really not good to solve problems immediately as we can. we can take them gradually. We have to think carefully about our moves. Because our immediate actions sometimes make the problem more complicated.

I couldn't get a date when I was young because I was different. After a while, you start to think that no one will want you. But I was able to watch other people date and see the problems they had. Then when I finally did date, I avoided many of the problems, new when a relationship was about to end and should end. Eventually, I found someone who was good for me and we married. Most other people that I've known have married and divorced or are miserable in their marriages.

I do my best to make any negative problems become positive solutions. i don't like things being left up in the air and unresolved. there is too much turmoil and obstacles in our lives without problems adding to the stress. A positive ending is always best if you can achieve it.

This is the best postive note today. We have to face our problems head on because it is not what happens to us but the meaning we associate to the circumstances that will determine whether we are going to make it work for us or get negative about it. We can decide to cry and crib, but if we decide to work hard and face it then obviouldy we will be successful. Both good and bad situations have a postive insight only we have to analyze it and be open. A succesful man will build a house out of the bricks thrown at him.

I always think about the problem and I know that every subject has two sides: a negative one and a positive one. I try to bend each problem so that the negative aspect go away and the positive aspects are all I see. For instance: when losing a job. The negative part is that you don't have an income. The positive aspect is now there is time to figure out what you really want to do with your life, you can try out new things and so on. This positive outlook makes you stronger and able to deal with your problems.

I totally concur with you hotsummer. You can procrastinate, but you will have to muster your mental toughness to face up to the real problems (core) that you have been avoiding. Accepting the situation means getting rid of "denial" which is a common way of facing the mess you are in. For example, "I never thought it would happen to me!" or "I never expected her to behave like this!" The first thing, as you rightly put it, is to face the "headache" and see eye to eye with the problem. Next, keep thoughts of all other people aside and tell yourself that you and you alone are going to create a solution to make life "livable" without caring for who gets hurt in the process. Here, since the problem is life shattering, making someone upset is not a big deal. Don't give priority to anyone else's "feelings" if you do something; what matters is that you should rationally do something that gives you piece of mind and go ahead in life.

Everyone who is still breathing has grouses in life. No matter where and how we live, there is always something that create some kind of problems we shoulder in life. That is part of life. Problems can sometimes be a blessing in disguise and we learn something out of our problems. For example when we are financially down, we learn to be thrifty and try to live a simply life to stretch what ever money we have. It is not easy to live on a tight budget but being extravagant will lead us into deeper sh&t. One day when our pockets are thicker we will understand the pain felt by the unfortunate. We become more generous. I have tasted my bitter pills in life and learn to appreciate what ever little blessings that I get.

Hi hotsummer, I believe that you are absolutely right. Problems can be turned in opportunities, we just don't lie down and die, we face the problem and make it work for us, not against us. Life would be very boring without problems, it is what keeps us active in all phases of our being. Blessings.