Do People Still Care About Relationship Anniversaries

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United States
September 14, 2010 10:35pm CST
I don't mean wedding anniversaries here, What I mean is relationship anniversaries like the BF/GF stuff perhaps that I'm getting older and these where the things you did during the puppy love era. But its perhaps the decline in the significance of a relationship anniversaries and also do you still do that Monthsary anniversary even though you are way too old on your relationship. So do people still care on this stuff?
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@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
it's sad that sweet acts like celebrating monthly anniversary between gf and bf really declines with time. but there are still some people who give importance with that. Mostly, guys are the first ones to find those stuffs icky, thus it causes some disappointments on the girl's part, since girls are generally thoughtful and give importance into things like that. It is still nice to celebrate it monthly..just consider it as a monthly special date.
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• United States
15 Sep 10
Its really sad though to know that some guys don't really appreciate much on this little things.
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@spalladino (17926)
• United States
15 Sep 10
My husband and I still recognize the anniversary of the day that we met and the anniversary of the day that he proposed as well as our wedding anniversary. We don't do anything special for the first two but we try to do something special on our wedding anniversary. We never did monthsary...we're both older and that would have been too complicated!
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 10
Wait, important moment here! It is the 5 minute anniversary of me reading your discussion and trying to come up with a decent response. Moment of silence. Just kidding... You know, I think it just depends on the couple. And if it's important to them - strictly between themselves, mind you - to remember the date of their first kiss, first date, whatever, more power to them. On the other hand, who wants to constantly hear people broadcasting that stuff?
• United States
15 Sep 10
Haha... Sometimes I feel the same way reading some discussions and thinking of a best response! I think of this reason why some couples end up nothing I mean does really the though counts like celebrating this kind of stuff just to bring the fire up? For me being on a 9 year relationship I'm completely lost of ideas on how to celebrate the aniv's and some special occasion. I just think its just a waste of money.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 10
I think it's more meaningful if you do something special when it's NOT expected, actually!
• United States
15 Sep 10
Yes. At least, my husband and I do. We met on March 31, 2005, and celebrated every month up to one year. On our fourth year anniversary, we were married. We are nearing our sixth year anniversary now, and last year, instead of celebrating our "first" anniversary (our first wedding year, of course), we didn't call it that. It was our fifth anniversary. Sometimes love is a long and drawn out process for some people, but for us, it was like getting hit by a train. It was love at first sight, and if I hadn't gone through it, I still wouldn't believe in it! Because of this it seems disrespectful not to count every single day we were in love. Our meeting anniversary was so important to us that we agreed that if we couldn't get the minister lined up for March 31 of 2009, we would literally wait an entire year for March 31, 2010 to get married (and this is from people who waited until marriage to exchange virginities). Thankfully it all worked out and we could have another full year of marriage. As for the puppy love era...my husband and I never got rid of that. All of our experiences except for kisses were new with one another, so it continues to feel new each and every time. Plus, if you want to keep that puppy love stage, DO IT! It takes a little work, but if you respect your partner enough and want that type of silly young love badly enough, it is possible to keep it.
@Wizzywig (7859)
15 Sep 10
That's lovely... I wish you many happy years of "silly young love" together
• United States
15 Sep 10
Well said LovingLife139! Wish that all of that love will grow more!
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
15 Sep 10
No, I don't and I don't have to because I am single~!! I think I would not care if I ever get a relationship again.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Wait, let me rephrase that.... I meant I wouldn't care about anniversaries if I get in a relationship the next time.
• United States
15 Sep 10
I think it all depends on yourself personally. If you like to celebrate anniversaries and your partner does not or vise versa; then the other person should make an effort to recognize it. It is easy to figure out in the beginning of a relationship if your partner cares about anniversaries. I don't particularly, care about anniversaries so I don't make it a big deal or remember. If the person I was with found it an important thing to celebrate and recognize I would have no problem incorporating the occasion in our relationship. Now, if your with someone who knows that an anniversary is important to you and choses to not write it on a calender or simply acknowledge it, I would find that pretty selfish and insulting. I mean, if there was a lot going on that year and it only happened once and he or she redeemed themselves, I would let it go. Gifts or any other tangible thing don't even have to be incorporated, especially during financial declines. Just simply acknowledging the day, and giving your partner extra attention would be ten times better than not acting like it is just any other day. Again, if your partner thinks celebrating or remembering anniversaries is important than you should find it important to. Period.
• United States
15 Sep 10
Hmmm Very well said kellymarie713!
@Wizzywig (7859)
15 Sep 10
I remember the date we met/married but we really dont celebrate either - as for "Monthsary", no, never did that in the first place.
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Sep 10
I guess for most women, this still matters a lot. Like when I sometimes act as if I forgot our wedding monthsary or our BF/GF monthsary, my husband reminds me about it and he goes out of his way to find time for us to go out or do something special together on these dates. It makes me feel really, really special that through out the years, the romance is still there. I don't think we grow old on this stuff or maybe I was just born a foolish romantic. It's never actually just the effort to celebrate relationship anniversaries but the thought of how far the relationship has gone with all its ups and downs and still being together through all the joys and sorrows in your life as a couple. I just love seeing older couples, around their seventies already and yet you see them walking and holding hands and still seeing that sparkle in their eyes. This just reminds me of "The Notebook."
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
we're not yet on our one year but yes i would definitely make that day something special for us. every month on the day i said i love you to, i just greet my boy friend and say thank you for another month of happiness. i am the hopeless romantic type in the relationship, he has his own ways to but he rarely remember dates because of their culture. these days are special opportunities to remind you and your love one what you have special. i don't want to miss any chance of letting him feel how i feel blessed of having him in my life.
@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Hmmm.., I do care.., and I guess I'm way too emotional to be affected when my partner forgets to greet me on our monthsary... I mean.., It doesn't mean that you are getting older and you've been together for the longest time., you can easily put aside celebrating such days.., I guess it depends on the couple.., But I do believe this should be maintained..=)
@Cargoleta (726)
• Spain
15 Sep 10
I guess it depends on the couple indeed, some people really care about those things while others may not. My boyfriend and I celebrate our anniversary (the day we got together) and also the day we met. We only exchange presents and such when celebrating the day we got together, though, the rest of related occasions (such as celebrating when we met, or the 27th of each month that marks one more month into the relationship) we only acknowledge it and say something like "Happy 1 year and 2 months" or such :)
@Vantri (42)
• Sweden
15 Sep 10
Me and my girlfriend did celebrate monthsary in the beginning of our relationship. But now we do each half-year and something bigger every year of course. We've "only" been together for about 1½ year, but it's still it's nice to celebrate those small things :)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Sep 10
It hard to remember such moments once you get deeper into a relationship. But yes if you remember those days and celebrate them then there is no better happiness than that.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
15 Sep 10
It is the cultures of present time.. and mostly people like to enjoy their relationships anniversaries.. when they meet first time.. or when they were friend.. or when they proposed first times.. so mostly persons like to celebrate these dates.. i think it is not bad.. and now it is culture of our society..