I guess my Questions are just to Scarry to Answer

Canada
September 17, 2010 10:46pm CST
Do you ever come across a discussion that you are to afraid to answer? Do you ever feel like what will people think of me if I answer this question honestly? Do you ever change your answer to be more pleasing to what you think people want to hear? Just wondering as I know there are times I have felt this way and sometimes avoid the discussion or I take for ever trying to write my words very carefully as not to offend.
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9 responses
@GardenGerty (99405)
• United States
19 Sep 10
If a discussion is scary to me, or it already has people in it behaving badly, then I will not answer it. I do not need that grief. I do not know if I am afraid, or just do not want the hassles. I try to think about where a person is coming from, in order to respectful to them in a discussion, while perhaps expressing a different view. Words can hurt, even if we do not mean to.
• Canada
19 Sep 10
Excellent point Gerty. Words do hurt and we should all choose our words wisely.
• Canada
18 Sep 10
Yes to all of the above questions ,so generally I just don't reply ti a duscussion like that at all
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• Canada
19 Sep 10
Sometimes I want to force myself to add to a discussion if I think I have something to add but all my fears and insecures stop me.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
the hardest thing to do is to lie to yourself, so i always answer discussions with all honesty. If i'd come across to a discussion or a question that i think i wont feel comfortable answering then i'll leave it and not try to answer at all. We're all entitled for our own opinion here in mylot, feel free to express yourself as long as you stick with the guidelines.
• Canada
19 Sep 10
Just like you I think most of us try to avoid answering certain subjects from time to time.
@ehsanji (503)
• Pakistan
18 Sep 10
I just throw it up there. It's what is the best. Kidding! Okay, I just answer to discussions normally. I just don't try to make changes. I say what I think and I just don't make things look pleasing. I try to sound natural, not like a news reporter. And Guess what? I get comments on my comments most of the time!
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• Canada
19 Sep 10
Sounds like you really enjoy the process of these discussions here at MyLot. I do to but I still have fear sometimes about how I feel about things and putting it out there.
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
18 Sep 10
I am not afraid to answer any question, however, there are some discussions here that I avoid posting on when I read them. The reason I avoid getting involved in some discussion, mainly ones about religion or politics, because I know that some people are so ignorant and brainwashed about those topics that they are going to attack you no matter what you say, and it is usually not worth the hassle to get involved...
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• Canada
19 Sep 10
I can certainly understand your reasoning for all that. Talking about religion is one topic I have no problm with Politics will now that is a different story.
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
I like to answer discussions but sometimes I change my answer when I think that I might offend someone.
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• Canada
19 Sep 10
Are you also afraid of being offended?
• Canada
18 Sep 10
true .. true... I have been through and came across these moments lots of times.. but you kno... lieing is bad... so what i try to do is that I try to place my answer in such a way that the person listning to my answer is also pleased and in somewhat ways i am not lieing as well.... but in many cases when I am traped I have to lie just to get it over with...
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• Canada
19 Sep 10
You gave me a good chuckle. I could feel the struggle in the desire to be honest but yet not wanting to offend or judged for your opinion. It sure is a juggling act sometimes isn't it.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
22 Sep 10
This happened to me yesterday. I debated for a long time and then finally responded. To some extent, I am sorry I did but it's too late. Hopefully I didn't offend anyone with my response. It was about finances and the future. I mentioned we were comfortable and had no worries in that area of our lives. Didn't want to sound like I was bragging and hopefully that wasn't the case. Good investments and savings over the years got us where we are today. It's sad to know all the people who are struggling to find jobs right now. I know several personally who can't find work. Tough time.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
22 Sep 10
Hi CoffeeAnyone..Its funny because your post reminds me of a discussion I started a long time ago and got very few responses to. The responses I did get however, made me wonder if I was receiving "lip service" or being told honestly, their answer. My discussion was, "If you could remain annonymous, would you answer posts differently"? For myself, ths answer was "absolutely". Even though nobody really knows me or who I am, my picture is up there on my avatar and somehow I feel connected to it if that makes any sense. My username also makes it "me" and how stupid is that? So, if you could answer, with no avatar, no profile, no username, would you respond differently than you do now..For me the answer is still yes....If you hunt back a few months ago, you could find the discussion, I'm sure. Its kind of funny how people answered me. I only believed about half!! Does this makes sense?