Are you a Go Getting or a stay and wait kind of person?

@34momma (13896)
United States
October 13, 2010 3:14pm CST
I was riding into work with a really good friend of mine a few weeks back. She is smart and really creative. She has an eye for betting together a great party. So one of our friends said "wow you are so good at party planning you shoulld start your own business." I sat there and thought wow she really would be so good at that. Do you know what my very smart and creative friend said?? She said "I am so scared I'm going to fail, i rather not even try. If someone ask me to help them plan a party I will, but I am scared to start doing it on my own." I wanted to get up and shake her silly!!! I told her if you want anything in life you have to be a Go Getter. You need to get out there and get it for yourself. If you sit around waiting for someone to give it to you, you will wait forever!! So that got me to thinking.. Are you so scared to fail you won't even try? Are you a Go Getter or the stay and wait around kind of person??
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@mentalward (14697)
• United States
13 Oct 10
I've been knocked down so many times in my lifetime that it's hard for me to "go get" much these days, although I'm still not a stay and wait kind of person. I'm almost always the first person to get moving on a specific idea but I don't usually stick around to see it finished, mostly because I get bored quickly. My mind doesn't want to stay on the same idea too long because new ideas are always popping in there. Maybe I'm a better teacher than anything else. I can teach others how to get going and stay going all the way to the end of something but I'm already thinking about the next thing while I'm doing that.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
how are you going to teach others to be a go getter to see things out to the end if it's something you have not done yet?? how about writing a-book on how to be a go getter but make sure you started and then finish it. then you can sell it online for $5 each. this can be your test on starting something and seeing it to the end.
• United States
13 Oct 10
I am definitely a go-getter! I think that letting oppurtunities pass you by is just going to cause a lot of regret! I've let that happen before and I never want to do it again. I'd rather try and fail then always wonder what could have been, you know? You should definitely get your friend to open her own party planning business. What if it takes off? The questions are endless and she'll never know until she tries!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
13 Oct 10
you are so right. You have to put yourself out there. you just never know what can happen. well i have a plan. i am going to have a party coming up in the next few months. I am going to ask her to help me plan it. then I am going to get cards made up for her and give them out to everyone that shows up!!!
• United States
13 Oct 10
I gasped out loud when I read this! LOL! That is such a good idea to get cards made up for her! Are you going to tell her or keep it a secret. It would be so awesome if her business takes off :)
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I'm not going to tell her. I am going to let it be my gift to her. If it takes off great, and if not then she will just know she did a great job on my party and that's that
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Oct 10
I like to go after what i want in life. I may not always succeed, but I have to try . It isn;t failure if you at least make the attempt. i don't like to sit and wait for something to happen. usually, it will never happen that way.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
to go after it is to be successful!!! good for you sender!
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I am definitely not a go getter. I know I should be one because nothing would ever happen to someone who wouldn't take a risk, even once. I have been waiting for years but the things do come my way though it may have been a little too late.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
See you lynlypiochy.. you have to go for it. because if you don't then you will get things so much later in life. for once... take the risk
@Hatley (164759)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Oct 10
hi 34momma I think I am a bit of both. I love to write but got so discouraged at all the rejections I lost incentive yet I think I am pretty good at it.So sometimes I start up and write my heart' out but I do not any longer try to send them out. It is really so hard to be rejected. It seems like it takes I do not know what for an unpublished author to get anyone's attention. I have seriously thought of writing non fiction and see what happens.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
then you need to be the publisher of your own work. write a book, get it copy written and sell it yourself online!! girl you know the old saying... "if there's a will then there's a way."
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
13 Oct 10
As far as having my actual own business, I probably wouldn't do that, but for the most part I would consider myself a go getter. If I want something, I figure out how to get it. Sometimes I enlist help of other people, or I help them if they are working on the same thing I am, but other times people cause me trouble and roadblock me when I try to accomplish my goal, which usually makes me even more stubborn and determined to succeed. I have learned to use the disapproval of others or the apathy of others to my advantage I'm not scared of failure, I just know I would not want to deal with running a business. I technically do sort of run a business because I do regular childcare on an as-needed basis for friends who work on call, but it's much easier for me to just do it and be paid each day or week or trade childcare than it would be to get licensed and have to pay employees and have to have government nosing around and deal with taxes and whatnot. I'd even help party plan or do other stuff and if someone wanted to pay me, cool beans, but I wouldn't want to make it into something that wasn't beneficial to me. I don't sit around and wait at all, unless that is part of my game plan. I'm very good at annoying other people by either going for what I want immediately... or waiting till it's the best time for me. I trust myself and my intuition and it has rarely led me wrong or caused any regrets.
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
14 Oct 10
it's not about having your own business.. I already know you are a real go getter. there are times when you need the help of others. and then there are those times when you need to do your very own thing because others will get in your way. Being a go getter is doing just what you are doing, and that's making your own way and making up your own rules. doing it your way! You go Girl!!
@elmsquie (78)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I feel mostly with my choices I am the person who will wait around & think about my decision several times. I hate it when regrets follows telling me how compulsive I was to jump into a decision so easily. I try to take my time thinking, weighing my options. I sometimes have the feeling of being too scared to to pursue when I am not certain with what would be the outcome.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
13 Oct 10
it's not the outcome that counts. it's the ride that get's you there that makes you the person you need to be. I am about to launch my website winnergirls.org in a few months. yes i am scared that it might not do well, but i take that fear and allow it to fuel me even more to make sure it's the best ever!!!
@SViswan (12072)
• India
17 Jan 11
I have to say...that I'm like your friend...the 'waiting' kind. A friend of my mine recently spoke about this same aspect of mine and called me a ' frog on the log'. He said forgetting taking risks...I never went out and got what I wanted. That is so true. I feel like I am a jack of all trades...master of none. Many people have told me I am good at what I do and ask me for help and I go ahead and 'help' them. But I fear having to do something on my own and this indecision leaves me doing nothing!! But this friend who called me a frog...also said it has something to do with the time I was born. I'm not sure I want to believe that...but that's what he said.
@fatragu (349)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I am defiantly a Wait and See kind of person. I am like that because people scare me. I am incredibly nervous around people that I would rather stand back and be a wallflower. But I have no problem helping out the Go Getter. I would rather be the person that helps out rather than being the main person.
• India
14 Oct 10
Most of the time i am go-getter.... but at times wait a little and think and proceed
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
being a go getter is a lot better, because it indicates that you have confidence in your self.and high self esteem.and you are not afraid to try things out even if you fail at first, of course you will be better the next time you do it.you can tell your friend to really try it, encourage her and boost her self esteem. and maybe someday when she becomes successful, you know in yourself that you did a good thing for her.
@kodukodu84 (1576)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 10
It depends on how bad I want the thing is. I know a lot of people will think that this is or that is better for us, but they never knew what we exactly want for our life. So I don't really listen to whatever people told me what I should be, as if they knew myself better than I do. When I have something that I really want then of course I will go and get it, I will make an effort to make it happen and most of the time it makes me proud of myself but actually some people will even think that it is bad for me, but as I said, I know myself better. I don't go for anything just to try, I go for it when I really want it but also must come with a complete plan on how to do it and how to make it happen.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
14 Oct 10
I am a go-getter,no doubt about it. In fact, sometimes I get to the point of being a control freak. I want to go and pursue what I want to do, no matter what. Risks are part of every endeavor we make, so just take them and see how far your talent and strengths would take you. I never just wait for things to happen. I go ahead and make things happen.