Personal feelinggs..... effect on may thing........

@Aaleexix (2291)
India
November 3, 2010 5:56am CST
What we feel towards anything is the basic of our liking and disliking. It is a very critical thing that we never ignore our feelings. In our activities our feeling has a great role. What is feel is depend on our on perception on any matter. And our perception may not be correct but when some one says against our perception the we feel sad. And internally we consider them as our rival. Before going to the route why other perception not similar to us, we think them as our opponent. We recognize them as negative person. And our comment towards such people is negative. But saying negative to them who are against us is actually our negative attitude. In our action we always forget to be impartial. Impartial mentality is that some one against me so he is wrong. Opinions are contextual and always varies. So in anger our action against the people who are opposite to us is actually our narrow mentality. Now in discussion do you rate negatively only because of being opponent? What is basic of your negative rating? Have you any certain criteria to select anything here to consider that deserve for negative rating? I think we all should have the motto that be impartial. And some thing against me so that is bad is not any basic of quality control measure.
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5 responses
@Memnon (2173)
3 Nov 10
The only basis that I would ever consider for a negative rating would be that the content of a discussion were in some manner abusive. The fact that someone might disagree with my view is no justification for being negative.
@Memnon (2173)
3 Nov 10
I realise that there is an option for abusive comment. My point being that disagreeing with someone is no reason for negative ratings. So why post them? By contrast, my bank will deliberately process payments in the knowledge that this will incur costs for me. That is reason to post a negative response. But they have, of course, stifled public opportunity to respond. Our banks are the face of the new Nazi Party.
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
4 Nov 10
Perhaps negative marking is for those comment which has the quality of bellow standard. But there needs of some extraordinary quality to make quality discussion/responses/comment. We the general people has not that caliber to make such quality writing. So definitely we deserve negative marking. But this site is not limited to extraordinary people but it is a site open for all. So it is a critical decision we have to make, what type of writings deserve negative marking.
@dorannmwin (36695)
• United States
6 Nov 10
It is actually a very rare thing that I would rate a discussion or a response negatively. The only reason that I will ever rate a response to a discussion negatively is because the response to the given discussion has nothing at all to do with the topic that is being discussed. I never rate an individual discussion negatively because there is never anything negative about someone starting a discussion on any topic.
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
6 Nov 10
For me ... I myself find it is very complicated to select a matter for negative. As abusive matter are reported so using of another button for negative rating is creating confusion. Some time I find that negative and positive button should be user to measure the quality. Still I am not completely clear on this matter. As you said I also really use negative button. When any matter is close to abuse but I am not clear and there is hesitation is in my mind whether it is abusive or not then I rate that as abusive. And some time some people place some abusive matter in such presentation that is directly does not come user abusive but indirectly tended to violate rules, then also I rate that as negative.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
4 Nov 10
I very rarely negative rate anyone because the only reason I would do so would be if the post was breaking guideline rules or abusive in some way. I have often come across points of view that I disagree with but I would not consider rating the person negatively because of it. There are too many who use the rating system as a way to be spiteful and vindictive and that is a very sad shame!
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
4 Nov 10
It is really controversial matter. But we should keep it in our mind that rating is completely individual choice. So we can't criticize anyone for their rating. But when we see that people rats on personal choice of liking and disliking, then we feel that straight forward approach can lessen the rating here.
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@ravend (661)
• Malta
3 Nov 10
HI aal. I try my best to be impartial - but some issues are just too hot for me. If someone says bad things about gay people or passes bad comments which seem prejudiced or racist, I snap and lose my patience. And I just can't help it.
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
3 Nov 10
Bad comment are really irrelevant. And guideline it is said the irrelevant content should be reported to the admin. How much we keep ourselves impartial is best for good discussion. Impartial attitude and free minded approach is best for a good discussion.
@Sreekala (18782)
• India
3 Nov 10
Hi Aaleexi, What happened to you why you seem to be sad? I think your rating go down. I never rate anybody negative. But I know all people are not like that. Some don’t know how to use the negative rating and thinks that if the opinion is opposite or they dislike then they want to give a negative. Don’t worry much on this; I think all mylotters are facing this problem at least once in mylot. I too faced many times. You can make it with the help of your good friends. So cheer up and be happy.
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
3 Nov 10
It is not the matter of my rating. Rating is independent quality mark of reader. Readers are free in giving their rating. I am not aware of my rating. And my rating always playing like pendulum. Up and down. It's peoples choice. My discussion is not directly on rating here in the site. My discussion is on that our impression toward any one is directly effected by our liking and disliking. Some one if says us some words of faltering we are motivated. We are not moderate towards the open minded discussion. Imperial selection of quality needs tolerance towards other thinking. Different people has different point of views. Some thinking is different to me so he deserve negative feelings never encourage us for open discussion. If we need to take interest on what other feel on our opinion then we have to modify our thought to make similarity with other.