We never really learn..................do we??????

@saphrina (31740)
South Africa
November 10, 2010 1:47pm CST
Hi all. Let's make this short and sweet. We take a lot we do a lot and we live with and thru a lot in life. Today you are happy tomorrow sad and so the old story goes on and on. Whatever. Now a lot will say this is harsh, but i have learned that harshness can actually help and prevent a lot of heart ache or getting hurt, for whatever the reason may be. Try to be more like this. To prevent your heart from getting broken, just pretend and believe you don't have one. Simple, yet affective. TATA.
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
11 Nov 10
I think this is something related to artificial schema of non being emotional and just rejecting something very bluntly to avoid some outcome which could be possibly no good for both the parties. Yes, i agree with this, sometimes someone has to be harsh to prevent someones' heart ache and also one's own heartache. I have seen them in many movies and i don't know how come this will emerge in true life !!
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@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
The geek speaks.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hello guna. At least we agree on the harshness part. Didn't i tell you to stop watching those movies? Thanx. TATA.
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@offkey (313)
• United States
11 Nov 10
I disagree, pretending you don't have a heart really isn't living and you won't really be happy that way, getting hurt and making mistakes is a part of life and people do learn from them, at least I have, Live and learn is a part of nature. Nothing you said is harsh, it is just in my opinion wrong.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I don't have a problem with you disagreeing, but when do you think people will ever learn from their mistakes. How come they keep on making the same mistake over and over again? I would say in such cases, they should harden up a bit and try to learn something from it at least. Thanx. TATA.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 10
Hi Sweetie I wish I could be harsh I just can't I have tried, I stand up for myself yes, which I never used to, but I will always give the Person a chance and as you can see this is where it gets me lol, I now have to move My Daughter can be very harsh and yes she gets on in Life
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
You blonds. You gotta realize salt is just not going to taste good in cake, got it?
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. People think that being harsh makes you a hard person. In fact it just show them how far they can take you. Glad to hear your daughter are harsh. She will keep you on your toes then. Thanx. TATA. Vannie, we are not that fond of salt.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
You've used "we" correctly here - both of you are blond so it is justified. I wasn't talking about being fond or not fond of salt. *Vandy frustrates* But considering the fact that you are a blond, its understandable you didn't follow what I expressed. *sighs* What I meant is - you've to be different with different people! You cant be nice with everybody, or bad with everybody. Like in some dishes you need to add salt and in some dishes it has to be sugar. Understood blondie?
@sagar21 (1583)
• India
11 Nov 10
Are we becoming Zombies ???????????
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Yes sagar, the best zombies ever seen. TATA.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
Like the ones in Michael Jackson's Thriller.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Who in his right mind watch anything about michael jackson?
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 10
hi sis! agree~truly agree!it is not about being fake with our ownselves or in front of others but it is for our own good indeed.even if we show it, it has nothing different.so just say farewell and forget it!what a simple way! JA NE....
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Sis you say?? Hi sweetie. Okay then as you so fully and whole heartedly agree with me, tell me why it should hurt before you get through all that crap of getting hurt in the first place? Thanx. TATA.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
13 Nov 10
not sis??then i go for aunt! because they want to~i can't control the way they feel~if they follow that 'theory' of faking they should not feel the same feeling at the end.but i can control mine~so it is really up to individuals. JA NE~
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Nov 10
I will ssssssoooooo strangle you if you call me aunt. I mean really. Keep it at sis then. Okay we've got feelings, faking and whatnot. How amazing.
11 Nov 10
i could not really do this, i always open my heart and yes many many times it has been broken from people close to me. Yes we should learn from mistakes but this is life and we sometimes do make some odd choices.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Yes it is life, but we can try to make sure not to get hurt again. We need to learn from that or there will be nothing left of you to feel anymore. Thanx. TATA.
11 Nov 10
very true, but sometimes we think it is time to let someone into our hearts, it can be great for a while, then later yet again we have our heart broken again. Life would be easier if we could just have the right person in our lives now.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
There i just have to agree with you. It would be nicer to have the right person from the beginning, BUT how will we learn then? That's the only problem.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
Ok blondie - the heartless vandy wants to punch you where it would hurt the most.... so out with it!!!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Vannie, you can really try that punch on me. But it won't help, you know. There is really nothing to tell, you know. Thanx. TATA.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
Since there is nothing to tell, consider yourself punched, filed, and dumped in old files. :)
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Thanx Vannie, at least that will be a place to have some peace then.
@shibham (17025)
• India
11 Nov 10
Hi saphie.. Where is the discussion????? lol
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
Did you expect any considering the fact that the dumb blond tried.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi Shiby, did you pack yet? Vannie.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
@zandi458 (27953)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 10
I just can't carry around my emotional baggage and pretend nothing is wrong. That just doesn't work with me. It will cause my capillaries to burst if I were to follow your teachings.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. For me personally i will rather pretend. I hate it when others know how i feel. As for that capillaries of yours, i know the heart can use plastic. Should i order an extra set, just for in case. Thanx. TATA.
@zandi458 (27953)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 10
I believe in originality. Can you sign up as an organ donor? In case I need them.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Well if you want something that will make you nuts eventually. Sure why not.
@thesids (22378)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Nov 10
Hi Saphrina, That would be not me. I am ruled by my heart and yes, there are heart aches but then they have a different impact on me... I feel sad, happy, disgusted, flattered... so many emotions that would not have been felt / realized if I was that harsh and stubborn. Life is short and in that span we must enjoy all that comes across to us and emotions make you feel you are alive. That is my personal view of course. Cheers, theSids.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I know you won't ever be like that. You enjoy life to much to ever think of being without feelings. Good that makes one a better person in life. Thanx. TATA.
@thesids (22378)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Nov 10
:) for your appreciation of my response here. I have learned it the hard way and am happy that I learned it before that was late. Cheers, theSids.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Good to hear that, sweetie. We have to learn the hard way to be better next time.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
10 Nov 10
I will have to try that. I hope you know that you are training me to be heartless and i might turn out being wicked in the end. And if that happens all i can say is that it was your fault.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
Sweetie - if I said only those dumber than the blonds follow the blond...
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
That's alright sweetie, you can blame me. I can take a lot more than you can. And now we just added another 10 years to this. Thanx. TATA. Vannie, behave yourself.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
@dawnald (84141)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Nov 10
Doesn't work in the long run, m'dear. You will find that if you suppress emotions, you will suppress the good ones as well as the bad ones, and then you don't get as much joy out of life. Not worth it.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hello Dawny. Suppressing is fine, that is what makes my day sometimes. Okay i get it. Can't we just make sure the good stay away from the bad ones then? Thanx. TATA.
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@dawnald (84141)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 10
I wish.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
12 Nov 10
It would have been nice though.
@toniganzon (45011)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
Totally agree with you there. I'm so sweet and nice and kind to almost everybody! But I noticed that the more I become nice, the more people abused me. And it really pained me every time they try to so I decided that I should be harsh to them before they could try anything to harm my feelings.
@offkey (313)
• United States
11 Nov 10
I too am taken advantage of because of my kindness, But I will continue to be kind, even though I often get hurt, a few of the people that I care about have hurt me countless times and will most likely continue to do so, I decided a long time ago that I cannot be and am not responsible for the way people treat me and I will continue to do nice things for people, I will not be broken. They will not win, Even if it pains me.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. There is nothing wrong to being kind and sweet, you just have to learn when to put your foot down so people will learn to not use you. Thanx. TATA. That's the spirit offkey. Don't change for other's, just make them see what you are made off.
@ElicBxn (60424)
• United States
10 Nov 10
that sounds like the story of the young man with the beautiful heart he was so proud of until an old man with a ragged heart said his was more beautiful and that the only way to have a beautiful heart was to share it with another... to live is to have heart aches, its part of what makes us human, but you don't have to wear it on your sleeve to share it, and should husband it (as in animal husbandry) and only share it with people that are willing to share theirs back.
@vandana7 (59046)
• India
11 Nov 10
I agee with this - a hundred percent. Why become a machine, when we were not born as one. :)
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. I like this. So true, but yet for some so hard to understand and do themselves. Thanx. TATA.
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@Memnon (2173)
15 Nov 10
I don't think that we ever really learn this lesson. For some of us there always has to be some sense of hope. For some it is easier than others. Some swoon at the drop of a hat pin! We all have to learn to close doors at some point, as there are plenty around who will use us as doormats if we let them. It might sound harsh, but I am sure that we have all been there at some stage: and have often advised friends that they are being used this way!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
16 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. That swoon at the drop of a hat pin sounds funky. And then we blame the friends. Thanx. TATA.
@ipenk1000 (207)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 10
violence like what is it? not whether the love we can learn to respect others
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Nov 10
Okay then. I have no idea where the violence part come from. Thanx. TATA.
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
You are the best representation of us all here, saphy. that's why i love you. =) Can we be best friends now? LOL
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. And you just had to go and say that, didn't you? Thanx a bunch. I will think about the best friends, though. Thanx. TATA.
@RONDOLAWE (776)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 10
I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO SAY ABOUT ME your theory, harsh and effective may be true but what's next, what could be the favorite by many people who like it and what it could be absurd opinion but something may have a point after the try and get it after all slightly injured
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. If i can get a point to this i am sure i will pop back on over and give it then. Just give me a while okay. Thanx. TATA.
@Hatley (164079)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Nov 10
hi saphrina maybe we dont really learn but I cannot pretend I have no heart as it goes out for p eople here at Gold Crest who are so much worse off physically than I am. I hurt for them as I watch them struggle just to do the common things most of us do automatically.Guess this is just my naturew or all the years I worked as an nurse's aide have made me aware of the braveness and gallantry of physically handicapped people who still smile and carry on like nothing is wrong. I cannot pretend I don't have a heart as mine is touched by others.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. That is so sweet of you. I know you can't ever be like that. Then you won't be the Hatley we all know and love so much. Thanx. TATA.
@chicko (86)
• India
11 Nov 10
Ya we dont learn from our mistakes! we're humans after all. Well, it helps if you are emotionally groomed and practical in your approach. You must just take the bad events in life as experiences and move on. You must strike the balance between giving and receiving, keeping a check on your feelings and emotions. Learn to read signs right from the beginning and act accordingly. Don't live in a dream world, till someone shakes you and wakes you up! Its ok...They say love truly, forgive soon, laugh heartily, life is short!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Nov 10
Hi sweetie. Nicely put there. Balance i can, not always fairly, but close enough. As for that saying, love truly and that will make you stronger. Dream world is not for me. I love reality, that i can cope with. Thanx. TATA.