Do you ever feel or act like a pity party of 1?
December 4, 2010 7:41pm CST
I was chatting with my friend on Skype today, telling him all the reasons I have to be frusterated (HE ASKED! So I spilled my guts). A lot of bad news has been floating around in my family (I'll leave the specifics for another discussion.. ah ha ha) and he flat out called me a pity party, and to get over it. I didn't think this was very fair at the time, so I got super defensive. Looking back, though, and re-reading our Skype chats, I decided that he was right. I was looking at the recent events at all the wrong angle. But I am never a pity party, I try not to ever let myself feel like a helpless 'victim' of situations and circumstances. I usually like to use whatever is going on in my life to motivate me to do better and to overcome it. But today, I guess I was my own little pity party - I just needed my friend to point it out to me, I guess. Do you ever feel this way? Like you're hosting your own pity party? How do you get past this?
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11 Dec 10
I am a Cancer. So I am very emotional, and a pity party of 1 is not an uncommon thing. Sometimes I drown on all the emotions that I forget to look at the big picture. What your friend did by telling you, is something that happened to me a long time ago too. I was also feeling sorry then, and a friend flat out told me to get up, and get over it. So now, whenever I feel the start of the pity party, I just remember that moment in the past and give myself a shake.
5 Dec 10
I think we all go through that at least once in our life and when we do there will be times when we don't truly notice that we've become a pity party. I think it's when we are so engrossed over our problems and would just want to get rid of it by rubbing it off to someone else. I actually get to be at the other end often. It doesn't make me feel better, neither could I truly say that it's healthy on my side since after all the conversations, I feel that my soul have been drained but I guess if I'm really a friend, I'd need to just be a listening ear once in a while - but it does get tiring when all you hear are complaints.
5 Dec 10
Hi Maezee, Sometimes that can happen, but that does not necessarily mean you are that kind of a person. Maybe on this particular day you have acted like one, but that happens to everybody. Stress, pressure, pain affects everyone and when they come in large numbers and from all directions it is hard to cope with. I have been in such situations a couple of times. It felt like everything is happening for the wrong reasons, like nothing is going right, etc. But I make it a point to enjoy myself when I am in the company of others. I do not let my depression get the best of me. However, it is true that when I am alone, I feel very upset and chatting with someone in that kind of a mood, I may get a little carried away like you did.