Did you suffer from peer pressure when you were in highschool?

United States
December 29, 2010 8:05pm CST
Looking back I didn't . One had to be with the in crowd to suffer peer pressure! I was always an outsider. At the time I wished I could be with the in crowd but now, I see I couldn't have fit in even if they Wanted me to. I do things my own way in my own time.I still rather be alone and comfortable than be with " friends" doing something I am not comfortable with. How about you?
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@jillhill (37357)
• United States
30 Dec 10
I didn't suffer from peer pressure....I was one of those in the "in" crowd...you know the type....cheerleader...president of many clubs...but you know what? My senior year I quit all of it...to get to know everyone in my class..turns out the two best friends I had when I graduated..and I still hear from them today 43 years after I graduated....are ones I started running with in that final year..even went to beauty school with one and we were roommates...these were girls I hardly knew before then. It was the best year of high school.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
I had friends and we werre a group but we weren't the in crowd. I losy track of them after graduation . My best year was my Junior year. I Finally got the hang of this school thing. I had some good friends and the a$$holes were gone.
@aleic27 (161)
• Philippines
30 Dec 10
Me too I'm too shy to mingle with others... But looking back, I realized that being unique is also great. Sometimes, peer pressure can also bring harm to a person.
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@jillhill (37357)
• United States
30 Dec 10
And make them do things they really didn't want to do because of it...being ones true self is the best!
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@gunagohan (3415)
• India
30 Dec 10
i am the same kind, i do things all in my own way and sometimes i might be dependable on my friends for some kinda of help and i never felt any kind of pressure stressing me from my peers or friends. i just go on my own way and nobody disturbs me and i don't disturb anybody..
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@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
31 Dec 10
Well yeah I kind of felt it well only a little I just felt pressured to wear makeup and clothes, but whatever I am glad that I decided to do that because I am happy with myself now. In high school I never felt out of the crowd or alone because when I would walk to a class I always saw my friends and would say hi to them and every class I always had friends so I pretty much loved high school. They are the best years of my life so far. I mean wow though I was so amazed at myself for having so many friends since I myself think that I am shy and when I tell my friends there all like you shy yeah right. They never believed me on that so I just dropped it and well I became a happier person because I did that. Never thought in my whole life that I would be able to make such good friends that really are friends and I still keep in contact with them. Still there was people that I think were trying to be my friend, but only because they wanted to get close to one of my friends that I guess they really liked oh well. It's better to always be yourself that's what I found out and it is so true. I never actually believed that, but now I do because I have learned from all the mistakes that I have made so far in my life. I do remember feeling peer pressure when I was in middle school though. Now those were the worst years of my life because right there I did feel the peer pressure and it was no fun and I can't believe that I feel into it, but no more now that I am in college there is no peer pressure so it's all good, but still I loved high school the most.
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• United States
31 Dec 10
Elementary school was hell and so was middle school . I had one year where I had a year like your highschool years, that was my Junior year. I Finally got to a place where I knew what I was doing and I had great friends and no bullies! That year I came out of my shell a bit. these days are my best of my life . I'm Totally out of that shell.
@jonnie7 (51)
• United States
31 Dec 10
I also had peer pressure. I had lots of friends and I remember one time they came to my house to go play soccer. But actually they all went to go smoke and I was like okay I am not going to, but the next thing I knew they were like come on man its not going to do nothing it is just one. I did and until this day I regret doing that because now I can not stop. And when I meet up with my friends now we all have a little smoke reunion. I think about stopping but it is harder than you think.
• United States
31 Dec 10
It is the hardest thing to do , quit smoking. All I can say is if you really want to stop, go get help. There are several methods out there , keep trying until you find one that works. Goods Luck. And if you are not ready to stop, then don't. It is ok.There are worst things to do than smoke.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
30 Dec 10
Yes I did! Fortunately (or unfortunately, whichever you look at it), the 'in crowd' when I was in high school was the smart kids. They were the ones always topping the class, the ones in the student body, and the ones joining a lot of projects and being successful at it. I say I was under a lot of peer pressure because it forced me to study even harder, and go to politics (even though I lost), and join projects. It was hard to cope with my close friends. My best friend was the class valedectorian!
• United States
30 Dec 10
I was the dumbest person in my group of friends and with the least amount od ambition especially when it came to studies. My friends sound as smart as you and yours. I just never thought of school or classwork as a competition . Maybe that is a good thing. Why? I usually just give up when I see a battle is lost and if I Had to keep up with my friends, I would have failed every class . I would think what is the point. I can Never be as smart as ....Thankfully my mom Never put extra pressure on me. All she wanted was for me to do my best and graduate. I did!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Dec 10
Hi Sarah, When at school I was more a kind of person who was purely an introvert. Just a couple of friends and that was my world at school. There were other classmates who would do all the fun things, play pranks and others but I was not them. It was maybe due to the fact that I was alone me and my grandparents were the only three at home and I could do anything with my grandparents - play chess, play carrom, play cards, get educated (I remember by grandfather teaching me until I passed out class XII), watch TV. The need of beyond this didnt exist with me and I had no issues. That part of my life is still the most treasured and I have nothing that can even near those days. HAPPY NEW YEAR 2011 theSids.
• United States
31 Dec 10
I had that type of relationship with my mom and dad. School was hell but when I got home I had a couple of friends from my neighborhood and my mom and dad. I was painfully shy so it was more comfortable to be with my family than a whole lot of kids. Funny , now I can handle hanging out with a whole lot of friends.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
30 Dec 10
I didn't suffer. I can be on my own and can be also with the group. I am engaged into different activities that help me a lot with my social needs. Peer pressure will affect mush to a person who has problem with low self esteem.
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Or no self- esteem at all!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Dec 10
I don't remember suffering from a lot of peer pressure when i was in school. i was not a crowd follower so i didn't care that much about what what everyone thought and did. i tried to follow my own path. that can help to ease peer pressure where it doesn't belong.
• United States
30 Dec 10
No is a beautiful word. If you say No And mean it , there is no peer pressure.I never just followed Anyone. I still don't.
• United States
30 Dec 10
I was peer pressured to ditch school and I did. I was super scared but I did it and it was fun but I was always paranoid because we'd have our backpacks and cops would drive by sometimes but never question us cause we could always went to Carter school or college... So that's probably why we were never stopped.. I got into a habit of ditching school too.. :(
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• United States
30 Dec 10
Let me tell you how much of a nerd I was . The Only time I ditched a class , I got my mom's ok. The day my science class was going to dissect a frog , I went to the library and ditched the class. needless to say I was caught but it was ok . My Science teacher understood! Other than that I never ditched a class .
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Now that I think back I never really felt any kind of peer pressure during my high school days. I pretty much went at my own pace and did things my own way. To be honest I don't think I was part of any particular crowd. I was the quiet kid but I was on good terms with a majority of the crowds at school. I guess that is the result of growing up in a really small town where everyone knows each other and went to school with each other since kindergarten.
• United States
30 Dec 10
I agree. You All knew each other. I think if I had gone to a smaller , private school , I would have had your experience. Oh Well.
@SIMPLYD (72384)
• Philippines
30 Dec 10
In my high school days, i have a group of friends among my classmates but i also mingle with others too. In our class, almost all have their own group of friends but everybody mingles with anyone too. There is no peer pressure. Everybody is a friend to each one. I guess, i am just lucky or maybe i am really a kind but extroverted person so i am always in in any group. Joke . . joke
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• United States
30 Dec 10
I was painfully shy. I rather just blend into the background unless I was on stage in the orchestra. But I did have some good friends. Funny ,now I could be a better highschool student, lol!
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jan 11
Nope, pretty much not.
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@dodo19 (25635)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Jan 11
Looking back, I tried not to let it get to me. At times, it was difficult to do, but I tried to ignore it as much as possible. Sometimes, it's difficult to do. Or at least, somethings are. At times, peer pressure could be difficult to ignore.
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• India
30 Dec 10
ohh yes i always tried to overcome others but only sometime i succeeded to become a topper of our class.
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@maezee (23609)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Actually not really. I had quite a few friends in high school but none of which (maybe a couple) I was actually close with. Some of them were do-wrongers and some of them were do-gooders, but I don't remember ever feeling pressured to do anything with them outside of school OR in school. Of course, I was mostly the bad influence in my group of friends, so maybe I peer-pressured them.. Ha ha, I really can't remember.
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• India
30 Dec 10
I would prefer to stay alone other than friends. I like to be alone so many times but I have very limited friends. I move with the ones I feel comfortable with and whomever I am comfortable with, I get under their pressure. I enjoy.
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@calpro (933)
• India
30 Dec 10
Hi sarahruthbeth22, I never had experienced peer pressure when I was in school or even high school. We all five friends used to be a group and never none of us had such pressure. We were so close to each other. We used to play, jump, study and make fun of others. We used to make fun of each of us in the group too, but we never felt it as pressure. This is maybe because we all five friends are tightly bonded. We were three boys and 2 girls but we never had any boy & girl difference between us. I should say we enjoyed every moment of our high school life. We all still in touch with each other. Thanks for triggering my school memories. Happy Living and Happy New Year 2011 Calpro
• United States
30 Dec 10
I always tried to fit in and be in the "in" crowd. My older sister was the most popular girl at the school so when I showed up in high school, I was expected to be a miniature of her. I told some small lies back then to try and fit in, but today I would never do that. It is funny how as you grow, you realize that so many things that seemed important back then are not so important any more.
• India
30 Dec 10
I did not feel any pressure because it was my hometown and most of the classmates were known to me and we already knew who is taking what subject and started bonding well before our classes started. Sometimes I used to do things by own and go away with friends without telling them but most of the time I enjoyed study and fun in the group. Thank you for sharing.