What is your motivation?

@mommyboo (13174)
United States
January 18, 2011 12:52pm CST
Do you do things because people say you CAN or because nobody says you CAN'T? For my friends from other places, yes you did see this already but I figured I'd share it here too lol. BOTH motivate me, but I reserve a special place in my heart for number two. Many a sweet goal has been accomplished or met in my life simply because some person of little faith and no perseverence told me something wasn't possible - or simply because I thought of something.... and nobody said I couldn't. I have a little story I may have told before, about 3 small boys and a cat. The boys were supposed to make sure to feed the cat, it was one of their chores. Two of the boys started discussing whether they thought it might be a good idea to put the cat in the fridge since there was plenty of food in there. Both of them thought it might be okay... but probably not, since mom didn't tell them they could. The third boy, having stayed out of the discussion for awhile finally said 'yeah okay but she didn't say we couldn't.' The boys put the cat in the fridge.... I know it wasn't really the right thing to do, but the possibilities in life are so much more interesting when you live that way!
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@kkbhanot (64)
• Spain
18 Jan 11
Motivation come from the almighty it shouldnt be coming from people. My motivation is my breath when I inhale and exhale. What could be more motivational than the way we all humans are waliking on this beautiful planet earth. I think we all are too busy about our carrier and and looking at others that he is successfull but not me and in the mean time we have totally forgot about that who make us breath and who are we?
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
19 Jan 11
LOL! You're right, it shouldn't come from people. Most of mine comes from myself, but also IN SPITE of people. There are those who think that I live in bubble, that I get support everywhere I go, those people are wrong and I don't. I think it is making the best of a bad situation to use others' NON-faith in our own abilities to prove them wrong! Too many people simply BELIEVE when other people say you can't, that they actually CAN'T. What a disservice, and not what life is about! We should ONLY believe other people when we think we can't and they think we CAN. We should ONLY believe ourselves when we think we can and other people think we CAN'T!
• Spain
19 Jan 11
believe in yourself pretty nice but after infinite. This is so nice my friend you mean what can and what cant. Why we think of other before thinking about our own self. I will think about others what they say and what they do and what motivate them only if I am perfect on this planet earth. Only God is perfect and he has planned all for us. we are lost in this world and doing the same according to, what surrounds us but have you ever think before lol who makes you breath . Is there someone intelligent than us controlling us. Now NASA scientist admits we should not look for motivation of each other but look inside who is residing in our heart. thank you
• Spain
19 Jan 11
go youtube and type 'Spiritual experience of NASA scientist' its the first video. god bless
@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I do things because i know i can do them. I do them because i am touched and know that i have to get things done. i never give anyone power of my choices. however it does feel good to give them a big fat FU when folks think you can't do something and you show them that Ha... no matter what you think i am doing it and making my life better!!
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I really can't believe there are so many unmotivated people in this world, but I guess there are. Also, I see nothing wrong with giving em the bird because so many people who don't think THEY can do things also get overly jealous of those of us who CAN, and rather than use their energy to try, they use their energy to make us stumble lol.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Jan 11
When people say 'how can you DO that?' I say 'how can you NOT?' lol.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
18 Jan 11
LOL i love it!
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
I'll take BOTH, for it means the same to me...CHALLENGE. If someone says I can't, I always find ways to prove to him that I am capable of doing so, for me...if others can, what could there be to hold me back? If they say I can...just the same, i'll find ways to prove, but this time, to prove to myself that I can. If others trust in my capabiities, much more I should trust my own capabilities. Besides, we are the one to benefit the outcome of that challenge. And there's no great motivator but self satisfaction.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
20 Jan 11
I really really like this.... for you hit the nail on the head. Challenge mixed with desire, potent indeed. Game on Anything you can do.. I can do better? LOL! And you're right! There is nothing but benefit to be gained by doing things people claim we cannot, or things we know we can!
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
19 Jan 11
I am a rebel and a little like you, i attempt things people tell me i cannot do or don't say i cannot do it and sure enough most of the time i succeed. Cute story.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Hehe....some people know better than to challenge. Some of my good friends simply poke at me about it, they know and I know, so it's all good. Most of the issues I get from people who don't even know me, who assume all sorts of dumb things based on how I look or appear, not based on any truthful or factual information, or based upon the experience of knowing me over time Oh well. It's on them for assuming, which we all know is mistake number one!
• India
19 Jan 11
My only motivation in life is to work and make money to provide a better future for my wife and kid because i love them a lot
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
20 Jan 11
I admire your motivation, very worthy cause! However, I am sure from time to time you also have personal reasons for choices you make.
• United States
19 Jan 11
Hmmm...I do things regardless of what someone might or might not say to me. If I feel in my self it is what I need to do I do it! If someone says I can't, it doesn't matter to me....they may be right...LOL! I know there are things I can do and things I can't do. It is up to me to figure that out, not anybody else.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
20 Jan 11
There are just a few things I would agree with if someone said I couldn't do it... one might be to bench press 300 lbs.... I have tried, I know I can't, fix a car, etc. However, there are a lot of gray area things, where if I had the tools and knowledge at my disposal, I would definitely be able to, even if I didn't have those at my disposal AT THIS MOMENT.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jan 11
hi mommyboo Yesa indeed the possibilities in life can be fun,. I will never forget when I needed a long gown white but pretty for our district meeting of the Royal Neighbors of America. I was 18 and was a Grace so was supposed to have a very lacy pretty gown. We looked for long gowns ball room type and could not find my size as I was a bit hippy for my size but my mom a nd I saw the prettiest night gown I have ever seen.long to your ankles with lots of lace and it looked as pretty as some of the ball gowns I had tried on. the nightgown was really for brides and it was gorgous and a bit pricey for the prices of that day.I wore it for the threer nights of our meeting. I received compliments from older people from other branches I had not known and went back home with my mom a happy camper. Nobody ever knew my ball gown that was so pretty was actually the wedding night special nightie for a bride to be. You have to look for things outside the box at times and that makes life really fun. I really enjoyed all three nights and was probably the youngest Royal Neighbor there but I did not really care as i was so happy as everyone said how pretty my gown was and how pretty I looked. this was a new one to me as nobody in my family ever called me pretty. hippy,fatso, plain etc but never pretty. My husband called me pretty too and now my son says you look pretty for an elderly lady. well for a computer programmer nerd thats the highest praise you can get from him. lol lol.
• United States
18 Jan 11
Well, as I cannot be as short and sweet on here as I can on Facebook, I'll state the first part that it depends upon the situation. What I mean by that, in detail , is that there are many things that motivate me and it depends upon what sort of situation I am in at the time of the decision and motivation. So, let's run through a few scenarios. At times I am motivated because of my family. I may not like having to do the laundry but the children need clothes to wear so I am motivated by them to get it done. At times I'm motivated simply by my own needs or desires. I may do something, or say something simply because I feel like it. In these situations I don't really care what other people think. It's a bit like writing here on Mylot. If I have an opinion and it is asked of I will share it like or not. It is a bit like my weight loss. I'm not doing it for my hubby, another guy/girl, or even my children. I am doing it because it makes me feel good about myself. It is my own challenge of beating my own self-will. So far it's been a breeze now that I've found the right diet, but again it is a motivation of purely my own, so that I feel good. I think with things like this is better to be doing it out of your own personal motivation because that way nothing anyone says will ever deter you. Now, one thing that is a huge motivator in my life is the "truth". I really have an issue with those who spread false information about any given subject. I'm motivated by a sense of "right" to put up the truth or say the truth and I do so. At times it does make one the "outsider" but to me it is best if the information is out there. It's a bit like the thread I did on the new lightsabers. Totally not safe, with serious issues. On another forum I took a lot of heat over it because I stated it was NOT safe to do "lightsaber" demonstrations with these swords in public because of their safety issues. Namaste-Anora
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
19 Jan 11
I guess I needed to elaborate a little more than I did at first. I guess what I'm really getting at is whether people come from a 'this is what I know' approach, the whole 'someone said I can, someone said I should, this is the way everybody does it', OR whether people come from a 'now for something completely different' approach, where there's no guidebook, no cheat sheet, no 'i've been there done that before' scenario, maybe even 'nobody's been there, done that' scenario. It can be very spur of the moment, OR it can be very methodical, doesn't matter, it's more how you approach life, like the glass half full or glass half empty conundrum. I'm trying to get at the first thing people actually think in any situation, no matter what it is, their 'base thought process', which of course is a big part of why things turn out the way they do. I'm very goal oriented - if I HAVE a goal, and I very rarely let anything or anybody get in the way or interfere with my goal. There have been times when I have had a lot of people mad at me, but I don't really care, my goal is never about pleasing everybody, although that can be a secondary goal if it helps accomplish my first goal. If it won't enhance my first goal at all, then it's not worth the effort and I don't worry about it. I think it's insane whenever I hear or find out about somebody who did something FOR someone else, and not because THEY really wanted to, like weight loss, or dressing up to look good, or working out... or going back to school, getting a job, buying a home, having a child. It's completely worthless if you do it for anybody but YOU.... obviously it can be a SHARED commitment or goal, but you never want to undertake anything if you yourself are not invested in it at all.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
18 Jan 11
I think the attempts that I make towards new things really do motivate me. It is the experience that really does get me going in the day. There are a lot of times where I might fail and I will fall right on my face for a lot of things. Still the fact that are going to give me a lot of motivation to do things is the experience of doing them, whether they would be good, bad, or in different. I think that in the end, I'm going to have a fulfilled life by making the attempts at doing things in life. That is the thing that really does motivate me. It is really the experience of everything that I am doing and is going to lead me to accomplish some of the greatest things in life. Just to get out there and seize the moment. You never know when the next one might come after all. That is what motivates me.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
19 Jan 11
That's good, it sounds like you have a real can-do attitude and you like experiencing new things. Successful people are not those who never fail, successful people are those who keep trying after they fail instead of giving up
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
19 Jan 11
I have trouble with people who say I CAN do it! How do they really know? The other one I have trouble with is I can't believe you can't do that. The one I don't have trouble with is I don't think you can do it. I rise to the occasion and prove them wrong. Been doing that my whole life. I love it when I prove them wrong.
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@lasitck (40)
19 Jan 11
everything is possible in life .But nature has given every person some limitations.Any how we have to add here those.Otherwise every one will succeed and all could be like Bill Gates.But donot get demotivated try and try you might get suceeded or not
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@czylove (33)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
it is easier to show motivation in connection with a subject that is dear to you. If you desire something, but you don't feel motivated enough to act, this means that the desire is not important enough. To be motivated to take action and do something in respect to your desire, you need to possess a really strong desire.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
20 Jan 11
So... does that mean you only consider things that are important to you, and not a lack of faith in your abilities that others may display? Or.. simply the fact that nobody tried to block your path? Consider those other aspects sometime