Getting in Touch with Old Friends

@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
February 1, 2011 6:20pm CST
So, about a month ago I started talking to a friend of mine from when I was in college on the computer. I also told her to give me a call sometime and gave her my phone number. She finally called me on Sunday and it has been very nice getting back in touch with her. The last time that I saw her was about eight years ago when my daughter was a baby. Well, her brother is also my ex, but my husband doesn't care that she put me on conference call with D the other day and isn't opposed to us all building a friendship now from a different place in our lives. My questions are have you ever rebuilt a friendship with someone from your past? How did you end up getting back into contact with that person.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Feb 11
i sure do wish i could. but no one from my past lives in az and none of my relatives in ohio seem to want to see if they can find anyone. so i guess it'll never happen. so glad its happened for you. it must be a lot of fun to talk to her about remember when, etc.... the only ones i get to do that with is my kids when they arent busy.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
When we were talking yesterday, it really was a lot of fun talking about remember when. It was about a night that we were partying and I was drinking a little bit too much. She had me laughing so hard about that night that I've thought about a lot of times since it happened. Funny to think that so many of the things I used to do then are things that I don't do now.
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@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
I have so many friends back in high school and college that I missed and want to be connected again but unfortunately none of them are responding and I don't know where they are now. It would be nice to get back talking to them to reminisce the good memories.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I'm so sorry that you haven't had the opportunity to reconnect with some of those people. It really is nice to be able to get back in touch with people that I knew years ago. I just hope that our newfound relationship will be able to go deeper.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Well thanks to Facebook, I have become back in touch with some of my Childhood friends who some I have not seen in over 30 yrs. I also have been back in contact with some people I graduated with almost 29 yrs. ago I have not really seen much since, and it is an interesting experience. Not talked with any of them on the phone yet, but keep in touch via Facebook at least once a week. Personally I think this is the Beauty of the internet these days is being able to find people you used to know and be Good friends with and having contact with them again, and then maybe one day even meeting again somewhere. Helps bring life back into more perspective for sure.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I do think that is one of the beautiful things about the internet. I also think that it is very important to keep in touch with both our past and also those things that will happen as our lives go on.
@dfollin (24306)
• United States
2 Feb 11
During my life I have seen and talked to many people from my past and made many new friends.I had a hard time finding some people.But,when I got onto Facebook I got reconnected with a lot of old friends,family members that live away from me as well as new friends. Facebook is the best site to find and converse with old friends.I love it I am so glad that Mark Zuckerberg the knowledge and courage to create such a working social network. Good luck.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I too am very thankful for the invention of facebook. I remember back when facebook was only available to people that were in school and my brother would talk about staying in touch with people that he went to high school with and I would be so jealous of him because of the fact that I had no way to get back into contact with those people in my life.
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@laken02 (3065)
• United States
2 Feb 11
i have rebuilt many friendships thur facebook. i am constantly meeting people on there from my past.. and it is really nice when you use to be best friends with them and then all of a sudden there in your life again... becasue you had lost contact with them for so long... its nice when you find out you live close enough to reconnect in person... i have a good freind i have been meaning to meet up with we were best friends and i had missed her alot... facebook is great for that...
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@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
2 Feb 11
I suppose this is one of the greatest advantages of using facebook or other social sites;I also got reconnected with former high school classmates from whom I hadn't heard anything for years,and such a thing wouldn't have been possible a few decades ago.Indeed,it's a pleasant feeling to discuss with those people again and know what's happening in their lives.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I agree that this is one of the greatest advantages of facebook. It was through facebook that I was able to get back in touch with her. This wasn't the first time that I've tried to look her up, however it was the first time that I was successful in my search.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
I have not. Currently, I actually have a couple of friend requests in Facebook from a couple of exes. I am still thinking about whether I accept it or not. No matter how I want to accept it to remember the good times, something at the back of my head keep telling me that I would regret it if I did. So, it is still there, waiting confirmation from me.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
Now the exes thing would be a very sticky situation for me as well. In fact, I've had friend requests from a couple of different people that I knew in the past that I really didn't know what to do with them.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
2 Feb 11
Facebook is a wonder. I've re-built a few of my friendships from this site and its so nice to be able to talk to them again. My husband has gotten back in touch with his family and a few of his high school friends. My daughter ahs even gotten back in touch with a few of her friends that she misses from middle and high school. This is the site to join if you want to get back in touch with friends and family. My daughter's husband even got back in touch with a few of his friends and family members.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
You are right. It is facebook that I've used to get back into contact with her. My husband often wonders about some of his friends from high school and I've told him that he should get a facebook account, but for whatever reason, he just won't do it.
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• United States
2 Feb 11
I've built a few back up as others have said thru FB & e-mails. Though, other than e-mails and FB that's usually the extent of things on knowing how everyone is doing. I rarely call anyone as a friend or two I have a grudge to bear even if it was years ago, I still take that into consideration. But I'm not expecting things to be as they were when we were teenagers-young adults... so much has changed that to me just saying Hi how's it going is sufficient.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I definitely don't expect things to be the same as they were when we were teenagers and young adults. However, her family had such an impact on the person that I am today and that is the reason that I want to have a relationship with her at this point in time with my life.
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@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
2 Feb 11
I had a pretty close friend in high school. Because I'm from different country, I had to go back & fulfill my military duty. By the time I came back & graduated high school, I was 20. Little over a year ago, me & my girl friend were having dinner at a restaurant, this guy kept looking at me as he walked up from the basement bar of the restaurant. He finally came up & said, "hey, I thought it was you..." It was a buddy of mine from high school. I haven't seen him for close to 20 years. Apparently his friend got him into playing poker at this restaurant. I've been playing poker there twice a week ever since.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
That is really cool that you've been able to spend time with that friend of yours ever since. I had something kind of similar happen on evening when I went to do some grocery shopping. I ran into a girl that I knew from high school. I knew that she looked familiar, but I thought that she was someone else (ironically the friend of mine that I am now in contact with). We caught up a little bit at the store and are now friends on facebook.
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@much2say (53940)
• Los Angeles, California
2 Feb 11
Thanks to Facebook, I've been able to reconnect with so many people from the past. Now, reconnecting is different from rebuilding a friendship . . . but yes, there are a few with whom I've been having a decent amount of communication with - so I guess that's sort of rebuilding a friendship. I think of one friend from junior high. My best friend and I were so mean and gave this friend a note saying that we were sick of her talking about this guy whom she thought was so cute and that he'd never go for her . . . and that ended our friendship. I saw her at a high school football game, and she was still miffed at the time. But last year SHE was the one who contacted me - which surprised me - and we've been "friends" ever since. The stupid junior high incident never came up. I remember why the friendship ended - and maybe she does too (or not) - but who cares - we are civil and can relate very much as moms now.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
In this case the reason that I say it is a friendship and not just a reconnection is because of the fact that we are planning to get together in person very soon and see if we still really get along with each other in person. In addition to that, we have kids that are similar in age and we would like to get them together sometime as well.
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• United States
3 Feb 11
I have and they are all ole high school & grammer school friends. Amazing how the ole wonderful feelings come forth and we recall so many wonderful moments we had as kids. It certainly for me was a wonderful feeling and all done through email contacts. Best part is although we do not live in the same states, some in other countries now is that we do arrange 1 -2 times a year to get together so it gives us something to plan and look forward to each time.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I do have some friends in other states that I don't have the opportunity to see on a regular basis. However, when I do have the opportunity to visit with them, it really is a great thing. What is wonderful in this situation is that she still lives in the same area that she did when we were friends before and that means that it will be possible for us to visit with each other from time to time.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hello dorannmwim, I had a very memorable first meeting with my old friend. It was unexpected one,i bumped her in the street nearby my office. Shes the sweetest ex-gf of my elder brother.Because of that incident she got the chance to invite me for her organization where i became a leader at present. Now, i have a great responsibilities and luck ( i must say) under my shoulder now.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I do believe that it would be even odder to run into someone on the street that I used to be friends with. But, since I don't get out all that often, I don't think that is something that will happen in my life.
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@wallacej (15)
2 Feb 11
Hello, as a matter of fact, I rebuilt a friendship with a friend I knew from secondary school back home in the West Indies. I joined facebook sometime last year and I just thought to myself let me see if this person is on facebook. I put in the person's name in the search box and to my surprise there was my friend whom I haven't seen for over 15 years. I couldn't believe my eyes. I always wondered what happen to this person. The strange thing was she looks the same. She did not change much at all. We got back together briefly by me sending messages to her and within a few days we were sending messages to each other.
• Colombia
2 Feb 11
Well, it's never too late to start again a friendship. It's good that your husband is not jealous about it. You can always try Facebook. It's good to get in touch with new and people from your past.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Facebook is what I've used to get back in touch with the majority of people that I've been able to get in touch with. It really is a great creation in my opinion.
@JewelLong (108)
• China
2 Feb 11
i've been lost touch with my childish friends for over ten years,sometimes i miss them much,but i have no idea how to touch them,so sad.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Honestly, I have to say that facebook is an awesome place to start with trying to get back in touch with people. That is how I've been able to do the majority of getting back in touch with people.