Friend disappeared

There are some that at instant I will miss but certainly will not dwell upon as what happened. Then there are several that if I had no further contact I would be sadden as they have somehow become a close friend that although we have not met we have shared enough together to consider ourselves to be friends. If I had no way of contacting the dear friends in the future I would be left with the wondering what ever happened and how could we somehow and or someday interact again.

Is their profile gone too or are they just not active any more?

Dear Thanks ! As I discussed many a times in the past on this forum that the members on Mylot are coming from almost all walks of life! Right from the youngsters who are students to the retired oldies , thy are here on this site! Similarly there are people from many professions and with varied jobs at their hands. I think almost all of them they are coming here just to have some good time, while making some cents on this site1 for most of them this site is just a place to relax! I think if one is really busy from any urgent work or if he/she is facing any problem in their lives then such people tend to remain absent from this site for a moment as such things normally don't come in any one's priorities! I would like to quote example of mine! I am one of the senior member of this forum. I am here on this forum right from its time of inception. If you look at my number of postings they are quite less for the duration I stayed on this forum! The reason for this is I was almost absent on this forum for more than two years. One year because of my brother in law who got his both the Kidneys failed. I had to get his Kidney transplanted and I was busy with that. Another year unfortunately I lost my father and I was not really feeling good to participate in this forum! So What I mean to say is as we have several types of people on this forum , the problems associated with each must be different and under the pressure of personal problems many a times many members can't do it! May be your friend may be one of such unfortunate one, facing some personal problems! Just have patience and keep on checking his/her profile to see he/she returns to the forum! Wish you all the best! Thanks !

hi thanks I would feel sad and wonder why he or she left as maybe someone hurt them here or maybe they were ill. When you get close to a mylot friend even if you do not get to met in person you build up a rapport that upsets you when they go missing. so yeas I would feel really sad and wonder just why they left.maybe your friend had family troubles and will return soon. I was off for 11 months while we were evicted and my son was laid off until we got me in here so I had a ;place to live beside the streets,not free I pay for it out of my SSi check and Social Security checks and get back one hundred twenty five dollars for personal use.My son got gov help for single men out of work so they could have an address to give while hunting for jobs.so my son kept my accounting going by signing in for me from the local library.

i do so wish i could figure a way to find out about my friend. i have pm'd him but if hes not coming here at all that does no good.

Hi Thanks, I am quite worried about one at MyLot and he is missing since many days now. He was at MyLot around New year but that was the last time we met... It was quite freezing temperatures at his place and I am really worried. And No we werent friends for long as I am only 13 months here I have planned out this to try to do my part for sure - 1. I am going to send out PMs to all those who are dear to me asking them for their email IDs or phone numbers or maybe both. I promise never to spam them or call them unless I think necessary. C'mon, It is Internet no doubt but these are real people at that end and we do have some fondness between us so if we just take one step ahead from both ends, we can turn this virtual friendship into reality. PS. I already sent my cell number to you

people at mylot come and go. you miss old ones but new ones come along. i miss a bunch of good and intelectual people but there are new ones to come. and i gained more as well. but some people here has communications already and some people here knows already other peoples personal emails. so if you are having quite good friends here already why not ask them their email accounts so you can communicate with them too out of mylot. in that way you wont miss them much.

I would be like....erm...where did he go? Haha!~Well, every one has their commitments & responsibilities in life so I wouldn't be too upset about it. I too just recently returned after....2 or 3 years being absent? But I think I did inform some of the people...erm..I hope I did...Hahaha!~

Hi friend.... There may have several reasons... first one he may have no time to access and been busy somewhere. Secondly, he may lost his interest and thirdly he may have banned.

hello thanks, If that mylotter is one of my close friend (online) and have constant/regular inter-actions with topic/discussion here in my lot ,i would surely feel sad about the absence. Until now i never forget one mylotter who deleted his account last year ,for whatever reason,it's not clear to me coz i never had the chance to know him well. He started good topics,and also good in commenting back (argue sometimes)so sad i never come to know him well and then his gone. There is nothing like "forever" but the word alone. People/friends come and go,constant changes in everything (people do change). Thu it really feels sad to know that someone you count as friend will disappear without any warning. Did you lost one?

maybe there computer went down and they cannot afford another one or something has happen in their lifes that they dont have time any more for my lot

Hi thanks: This has also happened with some of my friends here in Mylot. Some of them used to participate a lot and I really enjoy to respond their discussions and suddenly they stop participating on the site. I don't know what happened with them because I don't even know their names. Maybe they have problems, I don't know. That's the sad part of a relationship online I think. ALVARO

Hello thanks, I would feel sad especially if that friend is really a friend by heart and not just a cliche friends in the list. There are many factors to consider for being inactive or gone in here. We will be missing their ideas and views because as we read them everyday we seems to know them deeply though we never know them personally. In my case, though am yet 4 months old in here but i only have few to consider a friend and if ever they're gone for some reason then i will be lonely and felt left behind but this is life like in the real world. There was a time that i never come to mylot for a couple of days for some reasons but the most of it are the comments wherein we can read the comparison of mylotters before and at present.

You never know they might of just started getting too busy to do this anymore and maybe they will be back when they aren't so busy. You never know though different things happen to people.

I have had friend disappear too..they either quit or get the boot! Sometimes when they are sick we also don't hear from them for a while....hopefully all is well with them!

If I was very close to them, I'd be sad.. also, even if I wasn't close to them but still enjoyed their discussion, I would miss it too! I would feel sad.

i think as your reaction. iam very sad...sometimes i leave my message in his or he nbox, or his or her wall i ask why he never come here anymore...is him buzzy??

A lot of regular users have suddenly disappeared! If there isn't a monster eating them, there must be another explanation. Unfortunately there is a monster of sorts here. It's called "lacking quality". We have a huge amount of members but very few are actually active. I have had to wait over 15 minutes for a new discussion to appear on numerous occasions recently. Then what comes? Either a repeat topic that you just know will be deleted, or a bunch of dribble that doesn't make any sense. It is very rare that I find ten discussions to respond to in four hours or more! In short, mylot has become too time consuming with little return. So I fully understand why members get disillusioned and leave. I, myself, will consider this option very soon when I get my payout.

I feel sad, I have this kind of connections with my myLot friends and if one is missing, it seems the feeling is not complete. As if some part of me is missing too. Friends being absent also made me curious, ask myself,hey,what's happening? Any problem? I am worried ,too, and hope someday I will find them again, responding and being active again here with the group!

This just happened to me recently. He was a newbie and really was quite active and he really have interesting discussions. I have really good discussions with him. Then he just wasn't here anymore. It was really sad. But that's just part of life. People come and go here at Mylot because maybe they have something else to do in the real world. I myself haven't been here in two months. When friends just disappear, you always wonder what happened to them and hope you will able to meet them again here at Mylot.