do you hug or say ‘i love you’ to your parents

@SIMPLYD (78118)
Philippines
February 7, 2011 9:03pm CST
We weren’t brought up to be a hugging , kissing and vocal with our feelings type of family. We only kiss our parents hands to pay our respect but we don’t kiss them on the cheeks. We also never get to say “I love you” to our parents. But I am now proud to say that , now our parents are older we get to hug, kiss and say “I love you” to them already!
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15 responses
• United States
8 Feb 11
I do it all the time ... well, I do not live close to my parents any more, but when I see them I do it all the time. We also tell each other "I love you" before ending a phone conversation. In fact, that definitely comforts me when I am sad about losing my sister - I know that she knew how much I loved her (and vice versa), because we told each other all the time and hugged and kissed every time we saw each other. I don't think that you can say "I love you" too much or show too much affection, because you never know when you might lose someone you love and you can't make up for it once they are gone.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Yes, while our parents are still alive, we should always take the time to kiss, hug and say "ilove you" to them.
• United States
9 Feb 11
That was exactly my point. I am very glad that you came back here and commented on my response, because I thought that I had offended you in some way when I noticed that I was the only one that had not gotten a comment. I am very glad that was not the case, because that was definitely not my intention.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Sorry for not commenting back at your expected time. I was just busy answering all my started discussions. But luckily, i saw the notification on my email about your comment, hence my answer.
• United States
8 Feb 11
I'm a hugger. I'm not quite sure where I got it but I know it didn't come from my parents because I had to condition them into being huggers. I hug my parents and my sister all the time. I'll give greeting hugs and goodbye hugs and thank you hugs and just cause hugs. I say "I love you" to each of them pretty much everyday. Kisses, not so much. My Mom used to kiss us on the forehead when we were little but she's since stopped.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
Good for you because kissing, hugging and saying i love you comes naturally to you even at a young age. How lucky for your parents to have you!
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• United States
9 Feb 11
I'm very happy that I have such a loving and supportive family. I only hope that I can live up to their example when I start my own family. They've been a huge blessing in my life, and I'm glad to hug and say I love you to them as often as I can.
• India
27 Aug 11
i do agree with you .. hug is important in life .. but still i cant do that .. may be due to communication gap anyway hug makes a lot of difference to the personal life if we are sad or we feel lonely the hug make a lot of difference i have felt these difference saying i love you bring a lots of difference when u are in relationship ..these sentence should be used frequently while talking or while sms to your love ones
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Saying i love you to your special someone seems ordinary. But to our parents, it's something that others are shy to do. They would rather do it in action.
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
27 Aug 11
I always hug and kiss my parents on the cheeks, but I rarely say that I love them. I don't know, sometimes, sounds weird and I know that they know that I love them and they are the most important persons to me.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
I too, rarely say i "i love you" to my parents. I find it so cheezy. I would rather hug or kiss them whenever i greet or bade them goodbye.
@balasri (26554)
• India
1 Jul 11
I very much wish to do that.But the both are no more.
• United States
1 Jul 11
as cheesy or some people may think its lame. but yes I do hug and say "i love you" to my parents. most people think that you shouldnt get along with your parents, or you shouldnt see them as a friend kind of way, where you can come talk to them.. but its not like that with mine. i love them, there always there supporting me, listening to me and they dont judge, them give their opinions and i give mine, and we just have this good communication between us.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Sometimes, a hug is enough to convey our affection to our parents. Though we also have to say "i love you" to them also , to reiterate that we do feel it for them. But you know, i don't completely say it, i just say "love you" and hug them.
• United States
26 Feb 11
you didnt get to hug/kiss/or say "i love you" to your parents???? where are you from??.. because ive never met anyone like this..im not offending you or anything its just pretty new to me, and i think if i went through that,, i would be really sad.. idk.. i've just been so use to hugging/kissing/say i love yu to my parents. ever since i was little.. but i never thought abt this...
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
That was during my parents younger years. They brough us up that way. As Filipinos, we show our respect to them by kissing their hands . We acquired the kissing on the cheeks, i think from the West, which was when we are already growing up. So we are not used to that before. But now that they are older, we kiss and hug them and say "i love you" and they are glad for it.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
We were the same. We didn't hug or say love to our parents. We were just brought up that way. But I am trying to change it with my kids. Although they are still young, I've been trying to show them otherwise. My boys are 10 and 4, and they always kiss and hug, and say 'I love you'.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
We should try to change some ways in our younger years which we think should not be, so we have to implement such change to our kids.
• China
10 Feb 11
I used to all the time, but then it dawned on me they were expecting me to hug them and tell them " I love you" but they never hugged back or said I love you in return so I stopped doing it I believe just because they are my parents I am not obligated to show them affection and get nothing in return. Life is a two way street to me of give and take.They live on a one way street of take take take Now my friends I hug all the time, even my students. At first they felt uncomfortable with it but now they like it a lot. It is funny. I give and recieve more hugs from my students than they give or recieve from their parents. Same thing with my friends.I give and recieve m ore hugs from them than they give or recieve from their relatives
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Just continue doing that to your parents. Maybe because they are ashamed of showing you their affection too. But in time , they will do the same.
@mamibevs (28)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
My parents so loving personality. I admit i'm not vocal to say " I love you to them but I e-mail my Mom and my Papa write a note to say how much i love him. During weekend we see each other because i separate them because i have my own home.Everytime we see each other we going to mall and hung outs,that was the most perfect day when we see each other.It's the different feeling when your family being with.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Even if you are not vocal to say "i love you", your actions conveys so. Your effort of being with them every weekend tells them so. But you know,there is really a need sometimes to make vocal the "i love you" to them. Who knows, maybe by doing that always , they may imitate you too and get to say them to you themselves. Have a nice day!
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Of I think we're the kissest and huggiest family in the world. We hug each other normally. We kiss normally. We say I love normally. I think it's a normal thing in us. We're only three in the family and I think this makes us more aware of each other, imagine only three in the house, not speaking, whoa, what a lonely world it would be for us. One more thing, we're all liberal thinking,and love to be happy always!
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Wow, that's really nice to hear.
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
I wasn't used to always hugging and saying I love you to my parents too. But it's weir, since my parents openly say those words to me, "I love you", and always show affection too. I hope I can be like them.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Really, they are that affectionate? Lucky for you. So learn how to be like that too. They will appreciate it more.
@pokumon (647)
• United States
9 Feb 11
Rarely do we hug or kiss. I have kissed my mom on the cheek before but apparently one time I actually bit her. I say I love you to my mom more than my dad. I say it sometimes when she says it to me or when saying goodbye. We are not that affectionate a family.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Like you we grew up not showy of our affections. But as we all grew older, we learned to hug , kiss and say "i love you" to our parents. It's never too late to show our parents we love them.
• United States
8 Feb 11
I tell my parents I love them and hug them when I say goodbye but that's about it. We aren't very affectionate twords each other.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
At least, you get to hug and say you love them .
• Indonesia
8 Feb 11
i do love with my parents is not with this . i was doing something with my actions that can be pleasing to them and always love them by praying to god that they are always healthy and have a better life
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
8 Feb 11
I guess men are generally not showy with their affections.