Moving to a new home...for the nth time

@sweet_pea (3322)
Philippines
February 8, 2011 11:06pm CST
We will be moving to our new home in two months time. This is the third time we moved (and hopefully the last) in a span of 16 months since my family relocated here in the big city. We rented an apartment when we first went here but it's just so polluted that we moved to the suburbs after 6 months. For almost a year, I have been patiently traveling 5 hours a day to come and go to my office, and it's really taking its toll on me. Now we are moving again to a house we bought that is just an hour away from where I work and is very conducive to raise my little boy. Have you ever had to move from one house to another? How do you find the experience? Where you sad to leave? Or do you see this as another adventure?
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• United States
9 Feb 11
I am such a stable person and I can't imagine so much moving. However, if it means for the betterment of your family and child go for it as it can only get better. You just bought your house, Congrats, and I do hope this all works out for you and your family. Best of luck and many blessings with your new home.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hi hardworkinggurl! You're avatar seems to become a lot happier each day! I hope you are too! Oh it really was such an effort on my part to relocate to the big city. I've always been a small town girl. Though where I grew up is a city, that is nothing compared to the big city. It's like putting a scared little cat in the jungle. That's really what I feel. Never in my dreams did I thought that I would probably be living here. Well here I am. Sometimes, you do things for the sake of love.
• United States
9 Feb 11
sweet_pea best of luck as my boyfriend and I have been debating moving. I have been here all my life and am a full city girl. So moving to the country side I find would not please me. However, I do love him and while our love is worth it, I so agree for the sake of love I may just have to do so. I too would have to adapt and a giant leap for me since I live in the same place for so many years. Yes, my Wendy is quite happy these days, as I was without internet for 9 full days so I played with her until I made her over in several different versions. LOL
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Oh she had a make-over! Nice! She is better than the yelling girl she was before. And she looks homey, with her dress and coffee and is that bread in her hand? I guess she is ready to go to the country side. So the city girl goes to the countryside, while the countryside girl goes to the city. I have been in the same area for almost 20 years and this then stranger who happens to be my husband now took me away from home. The sacrifices you do for love. One thing I've learned from all of this moving is, you can't get attached to material things. What really is important is having your family with you and building good memories together.
@unme9090 (55)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 11
Sweet :) It's feel nice to finally get a move on in your life to a new place. I see this as another adventure where you can made a lot of new friends and everything. It's a great chance to meet someone you like :) happy mylotting!
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Thanks unme! Indeed, I'm really excited. I have so many future home improvement plans even if we are not yet through with the down payment! It's really an opportunity for us to meet new friends.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
I got to experience that once when I got married. We rented an apartment with a great view of a golf course. We weren't actually inside one of those posh villages. It just so happened that the apartment was just outside the wall of the golf course. So, when we look out our bedroom window, we're greeted with a nice, peaceful sight :) Well, we moved after two years when my son was born. We went back to my old house since only my parents live there. My other siblings have already moved out so there were lots of vacant rooms in the house. I chose my old room when I was single. In a sense, I like moving out. It gives you the opportunity to clean up your stuff. You have a reason to dispose some old ones and a reason to buy new ones :)
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hi beamer! You got me smiling there. Actually we moved so much that my mother's house in the province is almost like a storage room. We had lots of stuffs. Now that we are moving to our permanent home, I'm really looking forward buying new furniture.
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
We moved for 4 times.. all of this was within this city.. the first 3 was a rental that the reasons for moving was for a bigger space... Considering to buy a house & lot then was out of our mind because my husband don't want to settle in this town... it's just, the place of work is here and for 15 years we're still here ( *funny ). But in the process of 3 years, we realized that it's impractical to continue renting while we can owned a house that can be more beneficial to us. That's the reason of our 4th move. And for 7 years we are here. And now, we're in the process of finding to buy another property with requirements ( you knew it )... The 4 times we moved, it's not a sad story but thinking to move for the 5th time will surely make me sad in a way... but i know it will be a quick-fix co'z i'm open to improvements...
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
For me, it really is a waste spending money on rent when the amount of rent is almost the same as your monthly amortization for a house. I'm really looking forward moving to our permanent home. I am already surfing for home improvement ideas. I am more excited for my son as he can already go biking and go swimming in the clubhouse. Wish you the best in finding your dream home!
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
My family just rent a house. We have a permanent home but it was in the province. I'm just 23 years old, and me and my family have moved houses 14 times. This Saturday, we'll be moving to a new house for the 15th time.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Oh dear that's a lot of moving out! People who usually work in the big city usually rents as cost of a house is quite expensive. Unless, you buy in the outskirts of the city where houses are more affordable.
@elena1969 (153)
9 Feb 11
I think that moving to a new home is a waste of time and effort.I think that you should buy a permanent house and that will settle Ito myself when I was young moved 2 times from a house to an apartment and then I decided that I should stop moving and find myself a new home.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Well dear, sometimes it really takes time and a lot of savings to buy at least a new home. Some just can't afford them. Glad that at your young age you were able to find yourself a home.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 11
I bought a little cottage when I was 19 years old. It was part of a Victorian Workhouse made into individual small cottages. I loved living there in that peaceful village. I hadn't learned to drive and had to cycle my bike a lot and put up with awful bus service. I liked it because it was so quiet there and although small I felt a sense of space. It was double aspect and at the back of me I had a quiet close. I let it out when I traveled around the world at age 20 to 21 years old. I left it again in my university days. In all I owned it for 14 years. My family was going to move because of my brother-in-laws work was moving. I was sad to leave my cottage but I was happy to be having a new adventure. I went for a house hunting trip. I looked at some cottages but they were far from where my sister and her family were living. I looked at a modern house in the same area and amazingly due to it having country views I wanted it. I put in an offer and it was accepted. I lived in that house for 5 years. I had my disabled son and baby daughter born there. I was sad to leave but was desperate to move to a bungalow. So I sold my house and bought my bungalow that makes caring for my disabled son much easier. It was quite an adventure buying a new kitchen, flooring, curtain rails, curtains light shades and an electric fire for my lounge. I am very happy in my bungalow which is situated in a quiet close away from passing traffic. I have more plans for it once I have saved up enough money like loft insulation and a storing area up in my loft. I am surprised that you managed at all well with 5 hours commuting time. I hope that you will be happier in your new house. It is lovely that it is only 1 hour to travel to work. Good luck with your move.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Oh it was really a sacrifice commuting that long. Although I usually catch up on sleep while traveling. I really lost a lot of pounds because of that. I also have plans of renovating our new home when we also have saved up, make it as homey as possible. I really hope we would settle here for a long time. It's really hard moving your family from one place to another specially if your kids are quite settled already.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Feb 11
hi sweetpea I hate moving and went through it from one apt to ano ther the past ten years, we were just settled when first I broke my shoulder and my son lost his job at the same time.but he got a new one a week later. we liked El Dorado gardens but the rent was much higher than we wre used to.at first we were okay as my son was making 41 thousand a year but three months later his boss told him he had to cut his wages down to 17 dollars an hour and then is when he should have got a new job. anyway long story short the new co. went bankrupt, economy dropped into the garbage can, we were evicted and are just now trying to pick up the pieces he is in gov. housing. As for me, I am in this dismal retirement center paid for out of most of my social security and SSI checks. My son now has a part time job not good but better than no job .
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Hi Hatley! We don't have many things with us since it is really difficult to transfer from one home to another with a lot of stuff. Let's just hope the economy gets better so your son can find a better job. Be strong Hatley!
@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
9 Feb 11
Oh my God! 5 hours a day to come and go to the office! And I thought the 40 minutes I am supposed to use for coming and going to work from the place where we're going to build our house were much! I think you must be so glad you're moving to the new house! Not only that's a place of your own, but it is also much more close to your work place. I can't say I was ever sad to leave the old living place when I moved. I was always glad, because each time I moved to a better place.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
What I learned with the moving out, is that you just can't get yourself attached to the house. What is important is that you are together with your family. I am close to looking like an anorexic with the traveling. I really had lose weight. I'll still bear with it for two months though.
@angelic123 (1108)
• United States
10 Feb 11
It is another adventure for me. A new place to stay, new arrangement of furnitures and decorations... As long as the neighborhood is safe I am fine with moving.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Yes, it is really exciting to arrange the furniture and arranging the place to your taste. I've actually surfing for home improvement ideas, although I think it'll take me years before we can actually do it.
• United States
11 Feb 11
You can start with one room at a time.For example you can start decorating and arranging your bedroom, then the next room, the kitchen until you are through with decorating and arranging.Enjoy and I do hope it will satisfy your taste.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
Thanks dear for your suggestion! However, we really need to save up for that major improvement as we will be building the foundations for our second floor plan. Currently, we just have a bungalow house. After we have built the structure, maybe we can do as what you suggested to furnish the rooms one-by-one as available funds would come.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Yes, we have experienced that too. In a span of 1 year we have moved to 2 different apartments. It was in the same area though. We transferred because the vacated apartment offers a bigger space. We weren't that close to our neighbors though, because most of us are all working and gets to be home on evenings and early morning, Saturdays and Sundays.
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@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
I too don't have time to interact with our neighbors as we also go home on evenings and weekends are spent bonding with my family. Sometimes, I just smile or say hello to them. We sometimes share our food to them on special occasions and they also do the same.
@doggydimon (1369)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Fortunately, our home when I was born is still our home today. That is a relief. hehehe... No need to adjust from one place to another. But if I were alone, I wouldn't care if I move from one place to another place because it seems I was born a nomad. hahaha... However if I have a family like you, I will think twice or thrice before I change home especially if you have toddlers. Somehow it will have an effect on them emotionally. Always to have them say good bye to their friends all the time at their age. That I think may affect their social skills.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hi, I tried moving from one house to another for two times. First is when I find my self independent enough to leave my immediate family and leave alone. I find it adventurous as Ive learned a lot of things, especially being responsible and saving enough money for rents and utilities. The second one was, when I got married. My husband and I finally bought a house of our own and we were really happy because this is where we started a family. And it is worth our investment, esp when the kids grow up they will have something to call their own.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Wow Staria! I'm happy for you. Things are going well for you. I too had lived alone for 6 months because of work. And it really feels good to be independent and self-sufficient. Wish you the best with your family!
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
7 Mar 11
I don't like moving, not even a bit I haven't moved much though, just a couple times. I loved the house i grew up in. I had all my memories and friends there. I really didn't wanna leave but we had to and i had to leave all my friends behind. It was sad. I knew everyone living in the whole society there but after we moved I never knew who my neighbors were and i still don't. Whenever I'm home i just stay inside the house. The house I'm living is alright though but I miss my old house.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
8 Mar 11
There is nothing in this world that is permanent except change. People at some point experience change in their lives and there is nothing we could do but adapt to it. It is really sad to leave your friends behind but I'm sure there will be more you will meet along the way.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Feb 11
Since I moved out of my parents' house I've moved to two apartments, and three houses. Only the last house was far from the other ones. i still get homesick...
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
When you leave a house that has been witness to good memories you have in your life, somehow a part of you is left behind.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
12 Feb 11
I read a survey sometime ago, that the most stressful thing to do is moving. I've only moved a couple times as a grown up. The first was when I moved my family half way around the world. The stress from that move was not so much the move itself, but more on the adventure of moving to an unfamiliar place. The second move was similar to yours. From the big city with all its pollution to the suburb for our own house. Goodluck with the move!
• Philippines
9 Feb 11
Hi Sweet_pea, We've been moving from one place to another since I was a kid. Thinking now, I guess we moved for 4x now and I'm still planning to move to a new place maybe by the end of this year. My parents weren't able to invest on putting up a house which is sad because renting a house right now is a bit expensive specially I chose to be closer to my work place. I'm just 5mins away from my work. Our apartment right now is OK but I wanted to look for a place which has space for my dogs to roam around outside. Our apartment right now is located along the main road side so its a bit noisy and my dogs can't roam outside since there are vehicles passing by. My older dog got ran over the last december which is a bit my fault because we were playing and he ran towards the road and got hit by a vehicle. Luckly, he's alright now. Our old place is a lot bigger and with parking space too. My dogs would have love that kind of place. Right now, I've been wanting to get a house and I will pursue it.