I got issues! Who doesn’t?

stuck up on the rear end - issues that bother you
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
February 17, 2011 1:40pm CST
It has been pointed out to me recently that I got issues. That I must have something stuck up my you-know-what, because there are a few things that I don’t do well. At first thought, I was going to defend myself. To offer up an explanation why I do certain things the way I do. And then I realized I don’t have to. Yes, I’ve got issues, but so does everyone else. And these issues have made me the way I am right now. It's not perfect, and it may not even look good, but it is me. Can you admit to yourself that you got issues too? Or are you the type that doesn’t seem to have any issues at all? Or do you just hide it well?
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21 responses
• United States
20 Feb 11
Tell whomever to take a flying f@ck at a rolling donut! Yes you have issues and if they were a True friend or Truly concerned , they would ask about it , not demean you. I just want to smack them! Sorry. Anyone picks on my friends and I'll want to hit them, it is a reflex. Everything that has happened or will never happen to us molds who we are. If this person or people can't accept you the way you are , screw them! People who really care Will. Like me! true I wish you could be happy like me. True if I could I would snap my fingers and you Would be but I can't . But what I Can do is be here to listen and try to help anyway I can. One thing I Do know is that you are a damn good father. And that is priceless! So ignore the a$$holes and focus on those you care!
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• United States
21 Feb 11
Why do you ask, my language? Oops, I'm sorry , i swear when I'm angry. I take after my mom , a nice lady who swore like a sailor!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Thanks Sarah. Yes, they were not friends. And what I did was took the high road. Which was not to let their words affect me. To prove that I don't give a 'flying f@ck' about their opinions. I would rather have friends like you around me. Are you sure you weren't a soldier, or a gladiator in a previous life?
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Oh yeah! I should have known, a sailor! Har har har (or is 'har har har' only for pirates?)
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Have I got issues? Lordy bounce! I AM an issue! Sometimes I've even BEEN the issue, but not much lately. I pretty much don't try to explain or apologize, those who have a problem with it can just SUFFER! (or stick it up their you know whats...)
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Haha! I think that's interesting! That you're 'big' enough to admit that you yourself is the issue. I don't think a lot of people would admit to that. And you're right. It is you. If some people don't like it, then they could definitely stick it up! Thanks.
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• United States
20 Feb 11
Halleluiah!!! There's someone else in the world just like me...lol. Woohoo...lol
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I certainly do have issues but at to what extent I am willing to admit them might depend on who and why they were pointing them out I am ok with admitting issues and taking constructive critisism provided it is presented kindly. If I feel attacked...I might get defensive. Anyone might depending on presentation. If someone told me I must have something stuck up my rear..well...that's not really constructive in my opinion and might cause a bit of a rise. Now if they said I expect too much or that I am being too strict about certain things..well..I might hang my head in shame and say I was sorry.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
People are sometimes quick to assume that if somebody is dealing with some issues, which could be personal, that they could have something stuck in their you-know-what. Not realizing that if it were presented kindly, it would avoid any agitation. Or, even confrontation. Thanks.
• United States
17 Feb 11
Issues me, nawh.. loads of them sweets.. All day everyday and working through them. So I am not so perfect that I cannot be honest with me. I do and I work through and with them. Those who admit they do not and it does not exist are not totally really to voice it.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
I think it takes a great amount of talent to keep all these issues at bay. And function in the real world without letting these things take over. No, it doesn't make us perfect, but it makes as human. Thanks.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 11
No one of us is perfect that is why we all have issues. It is just a matter of how we handle ourselves despite this issues that other people tell us. And also, since we cannot please everybody, even though we deal with the issues that someone has told us, there will be another person that will have issues with us.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
It's funny how you say(wrote) it. But it is very true. That each of us are dealing with our own personal issues. And people around us usually would have 'issues' on how we deal with it. Such is life. Thanks for dropping by.
• United States
18 Feb 11
Everyone has some type of issue. Annoying isn't it?
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Hello sunbearmagic. Issues do come in different forms and types. And for some their issues are more annoying than others. Thanks and welcome to myLot.
@GardenGerty (157596)
• United States
21 Feb 11
Well, I do have issues, and so do most other people. I want to have things my way. I realized a long time ago that my past and my experiences make me exactly who I am. It is not perfect, but it is interesting.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
That's what I thought! All my experiences, even my aches and pains, has made me the way I am. Even though some of this historical experiences have grown to be issues within me, it is still me. And yeah it is not perfect, but could be interesting. Thanks.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Feb 11
I got no issues. This blatant lie brought to you by....
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
...by Cialis! Oops! Just kidding. No, seriously. I'm just kidding. I got no issues on that department.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Feb 11
... put a little spring in your thing...
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
18 Feb 11
Well we all have issues and we should not be ashamed of it because God has made us like this.If we would be just perfect ,we would be next to God. I have some issues and i truly admit them whenever the need and situation demands.I am very sensitive and just cannot easily forget somethings in my life.I just canno keep my emotions within me and anybody from my face can judge how i am feeling from within.That is me and i am not at all ashamed of it.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Thanks for the input bamrahkirti. I've never thought of it, but I think you're right that we shouldn't be ashamed of our issues. This does not make us perfect, but just makes us human. And the differences in how we deal with it also defines the differences in our personalities. Thanks.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Oh, I have issues...and sometimes I don't hide them too well. My father and my MIL are a big part of my 'issues'.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
...and that is what it is with my MIL-selective memory. A lot of people posted that maybe she is getting Alzheimers, but that is not the case....she has been this way for the 24 years that I have known her. SIGH. It is true, it is all in the way we decide to manage it.....I am supposed to be letting things go, but......
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
I think when you reach a cerain limit, hiding these issues do become a problem. And then it is matter of managing it. Not sure about your father, but I think I know your issues with your mother in law. Her selective memory!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
A pleasant day Bounce58, With reference to your main topic, for me, everybody has its own issue. An issue that they just keep inside themselves. For the reason, perhaps they dont want to divulge it or they want to keep it secret, or maybe they just want to deal with it on their own. However, dont dwell on the issue that much. Perhaps, it is just a type of trial that just come across your life. And, maybe, that issue will somehow help you to be more stronger in dealing with your day to day living. I know it is hard when you have an issue, but, as long as you keep on praying, issues will disappear and sooner will be solve. Have a nice day to you.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Hello airasheila. I guess you're right. Prayer would be a good way to deal with issues. Either to control it, or making it disappear. Thanks for the response.
@dadindine (230)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
You are not normal if you don't have issues. :D Besides, our issues are what make us uniquely who we are. I got issues too, of course but as much as I try to hide them, they come out naturally and whether the people around me like it or not, they got to deal with my personality issues same as how I deal with their's. (:
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Hello dadindine. I think that's how you appreciate the people around you. Including your friends. If they take you as you are. Issues and all. Thanks for the response.
• United States
18 Feb 11
yes, I tend to admit if I have issues. There are plenty of things that I'm just different about and I don't think their issues and people such as my parents loosely call them issues but they just make me who I am. Their not harming anybody, like that I don't like to go out much, I prefer to stay at home and hang out with my family or watch Television.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
I think that's one way of looking at it. Some of these things that other people call 'issues', is actually just characteristics that make up your personality. And if it doesn't anybody, I think they shouldn't be called issues too. Thanks for the response.
• United States
20 Feb 11
Oh yes I have issues! While I'm not perfect by any means and don't plan on being perfect, I am a perfectionist....if THAT makes any sense. Things around me need to be perfect. For instance just to mention one of my particular issues, I have a round table cloth on my dining table....if that table cloth is even just slightly hanging lower on one side I have to make it even. People have taken bets on me just to see how long before I fix something like that even in their homes.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Hello outlawgirl3464. I've never met anyone like you. Although I've seen characters in movies and TV shoes who exhibit traits just like your example, I never seen one personally. I think it is interesting. And I'm glad to have met you, even if it is just on myLot. Thanks for the response.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
17 Feb 11
Of course we all have issues, and you're right, they tend to work well for us. My issue is that I can be controlling.. I'm also sensative and insecure. Well, being sensative and insecure makes me more aware of how I present myself to the world, I look at different ways I may be percieved by others and do my best not to come off that way. It also makes me more careful of who I surround myself with and stay away from people who may use or hurt me. My controlling nature is also helpful sometimes.. and actually it works really well with hubby. He doesn't have a controlling bone in his body. He's so go with the flow, nothing ever ruffles his feathers. So we tend to balance each other out. I can control as much as I want in our lives, and he's fine with that because he really has no preference one way or the other.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Except for the hubby-part of your response, I could have sworn that you were describing me. On how I could also be controlling, sensitive, and insecure. At different parts of the day, or at different times of my life, one of these not-so-good traits comes to the surface and affects how I deal with people. And most of the time, the effect isn't good.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
17 Feb 11
Yes I got issues, it was hard to recognize it, but finally I had to accept it. I was the type of all perfect gurl... all perfect daughter, all perfect student, all perfect girlfriend, all perfect mom, all perfect wife, all perfect sportive, all perfect neighbor... uff! And that was causing me problems, because I was trying to please everybody with my behavior, and trying to hide my issues. And I was letting to many, to point my issues as they wanted. I felt relief admiting them. And I try to be the best I can, but I try to love me too. Blessings Bounce58!... Dainy
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Hi dainy1313. I think in some small way, I was just like you when I was young. I tried to be the perfect person, perfect son, perfect student, etc... Luckily, I also experienced reality early. I experienced failure and heartaches. This made me insecure. Which is what I consider as one of my biggest 'issue'. Thanks for the response.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
18 Feb 11
No way, I don't deny my issues at all. And I have enough that keeps me busy. I think everyone has issues, and like you said, some people just don't want to admit it or hide it so well that they don't even notice themselves. Issues should be acknowledged to have solutions!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
I'm sure all issues have solutions. The difficult things are admitting them. Specially if all the people around you is already pointing it out to you. Me, I up the ante. I hide it even better! Thanks.
• United States
17 Feb 11
Everyone has issues but there is a time and a place to deal with them. I work in an office and it seems like a lot of people put their business out there. I have a manager who begs for advances because he can't pay his rent and fix his car and I don't think that needs to be broadcast. Some people like the pity I think and want the attention.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
You're right that issues have a time and place. I'm not quite sure, but I don't think that the workplace is the best time to let them out. And like you said, some people just enjoy the pity and attention too much. It's quite a bit sad, actually.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
18 Feb 11
No one will have no issue at all, either it is a big or small issues, it is consider a issue. I believe even God will also have his own issue, why not? But what so big deal to have a issue, take it easy....be happy...!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Feb 11
Not really sure if God would have issues... But I think you're right that everybody(here on the planet) have issues. And if everybody has one, big or small, then I also think that it becomes not a big deal. It is just a matter of dealing with it. Thanks.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Like you, i got issues too. Sometimes i would defend myself, sometimes i do not anymore. They have to take me for what i am. For me, i am okay already, so i think i must be okay with you also - that's one of my motto in life.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
I think when you don't defend yourself anymore, it is already an admittance of whatever issues that you have. And I think that's when you really learn about your friends. When they take you as you are. Thanks.