Do you let your baby cry out loud?

@mermaidivy (15395)
United States
February 23, 2011 11:51am CST
I know some parents do that to their children when they won't go to sleep on their own; when they want to be picked up and stuff... But I couldn't do that, it is very hard for me to just listen to his crying but not do anything with it. Sometimes when I put him down from holding him for a while, he would get upset and yells, I don't pick him back up immediately, I just let me cry a little bit as long as he is not screaming like crazy. He is not sleeping through the nights, some people said I should try this method... but I don't think so... What do you think? Have you ever tried and did it work?
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11 responses
• China
23 Feb 11
No i will not let cry loud to my baby. I believe when a child cry then there is some reason and we should find out the reason and solve it then baby don't cry.When my younger sister was baby then at night she cried sometime but i never allow her to cry i always did the things what made her stop crying. So it's work.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I can't hear my baby cries either...
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I was never big on the crying it out thing. If it was daytime and they were crying just to be held or for attention then I was able to let them go. But for nighttime for bed I didn't do it. I envied the parents that could just take their children to bed, lay them down and walk out and the kids went to sleep. My kids were all around 2 before I was able to do that with them. They slept through the night though. I think my son took the longest to sleep all the way through the night, but he usually only woke up once till he was around a year old. To get them to sleep at night I would sit with them and hold them till they fell asleep then take them up and lay them in bed. It usually didn't take long, they knew it was time to go to sleep when we curled up on the couch. Then once they were old enough to understand we started a bedtime routine. We'd go upstairs get bathed, brush teeth and then I'd read them a story and tuck them in and I'd go down stairs. My oldest just naturally took to the routine. My middle one is my stubborn one. The first 2 nights she cried and wanted to come back downstairs but then she gave in to it. My son likes to be like his sisters so he took to it pretty well also.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I hear you... I wish I could just put my son on the bed and he will fall asleep on his own... Even though I don't let it cry it out at night, I wold never hold him to sleep because I know once I start that... it would be difficult to get away with that one... He wakes up at least 2 times at night and he has hard time going back to sleep after I feed him, I just look st him and gently pat hm to sleep. People says when they turn one year old, they will sleep on their own and sleep through the nights, but the more experiences I hear from other mom, I realized that it is NOT true... am I correct?
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
24 Feb 11
My daughter used to do this all the time. It used to irratate me to no end. Especially when she was staying with me. I never did let my babies just cry themselves to see like that. I do not know where she got that idea from. Not me Thats for sure.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Ive always told my daughter there a reason why they are crying. Even if they are just tired if you cuddle them a few minutes they fall asleep faster than just leaving them to cry.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 11
True. what baby don't liek to be held
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 11
It bothers me so I don't let him cry like crazy.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
24 Feb 11
Hi mermaidivy, Just tell me why a baby cries soon after it is born? This is natural. If it does not cry doctors and elderly people force the baby t cry. Actually the scientific reason is that when a baby cries loud his lungs gets expended and more oxygen gets in and if a baby does not have a normal lungs it could have problem later on. So do not bother about a baby's crying once or twice a day.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I undersatnd that but it is not what I was talking about.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 11
Hi, For me, I can't stand kid keep crying and crying.And it is good to spent time with our kids at night before they sleep. Read them story books or sing a song for them and not to forget to set timetable for them to get a night sleep every night.It has to be a routine for them to sleep at certain hours and don't keep them playing till too late,then it will be a habit for them. When the kids are crying, it means they need an attention and how can I resist to ignore them and let them crying always. So what I will do is to hug them and ask them what they want. Have a chat with them and getting closer with them will definitely give them a warmth feeling and feel secure.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing!
@vasugi (143)
• India
23 Feb 11
Hi, I have 2 siblings, who has 2 kids each. Its a common problem kids not sleeping in the night. May be you can try avoiding things like letting the kid sleep late evening and by keeping occupied. i,e start playing his fav games and when mom is along side playing the kids will enjoy than they normally do. Even if you are cooking of doing some work keep him close to you and keep talking to him and have him do some activity. Once the kids involve themselves in playing then that becums a habit and they will fall sleep easily in the nights. Follow a proper food and sleeping habit so that the kid get used to it. Making baby cry out loud is not a good habit and not good for the child, cuz when your child cries out loud his/her throat tends to dry causing more dry coughs and other problems.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I think it is better to let your child to know you are there when he wants to so he will trust you. I don't think letting him to cry out loud is a good idea either.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Babies cry for just a few reasons, either they are hungry, they are wet or dirty, they have gas or they are overly tired. Before trying to let any of my kids cry it out, I would always see if they were hungry or if they needed to be changed. They would usually go back to sleep after those things were taken care of, if not it usually meant that they were gassy so I would try to burp them or rub their back for a little while. They need and want the warmth and comfort of our bodes, so I usually found it easier to get my kids to sleep while cuddling them. If you have tried everything else and they are still crying and fight sleep let them cry it out for about 15 minutes and see what happens. I never let my kids cry it our for more than 15 minutes.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I don't think I ever let him cry for even 15 minutes.. maybe 5 minutes... Yes they do cry for reasons but when he wants to sleep, he just fights and fights and fights...
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Well, My son had colic so he cried and cried all the time for three months. More on then off and I got so sleepy from lack of sleep. That my mom took him for a night. And then one night he just went to sleep and slept though the night. I kept getting up and checking to see if he was breathing. So I let him cry at times and then others no.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
yea... colic baby is no fun that I have heard, is it about stomach problem right?
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@srikool (936)
• India
24 Feb 11
i dont have baby now..if i have i wont allow them to cry like this..i will try to manaje them with out loud cryings..eventhough its not good for their health too..they may have problems in breathing...better avoid this...i will try to keep in my control..i wont stop from their noraml joys..but if they ask to take any dangerous things..i will not allow at the same time ill try to change their mind ...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 11
You will be a good mama
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
24 Feb 11
hello friend! No dear friend i will never let my baby cry out loud.i do not like sound of crying.it makes me so sad.that time i really want to know the reason for crying and like to solved out that as soon as possible.car is not good for health it create an effect on mind and head. i want to make my baby so happy.i also do not think that i will try this method. thanks a lot.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I understand, it does make me sad when I hear him cry.
• Canada
23 Feb 11
When I was on the plane it was my little brothers first time and it was an 11 hr flight and each time we hit turbulence my brother would just wail and I couldn't get any sleep at all