Don't Force people to give you MONEY!

trouble with them - you try to be nice, they abused it.
Philippines
March 3, 2011 2:15am CST
So pathetic really, beggars are becoming more aggressive lately. It seems that some decided to forget their Spiel (can you give me some spare credits, or alms). frankly, they didn't look like poor enough to me. I am fully aware that part of this area of our subdivision has almost been commercialized. What once a quiet neighborhood has now become busy small enterprise zone! not only with annoying street children, also sales person, crooks of all kind, lastly beggars. This happened to me twice. first, a lady with a Wood asking me for 5Php, I said NO. then today, when i was buying a food suppliment, some idiot guy kept asking me for 5Php, i just gave a signal that i refused, i think he didn't understand it, then i gave a very "TSK" aggressive signal and he went off.. I gotta be careful with my money as i go outside. some are using it as plain business.i don't want to sound like selfish but we aren't so much rich either. Have a nice day.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Mar 11
Hi sweetie. Here the beggars are worse than the criminals. I have learned to never go out with cash. If he wants my card, sure enjoy yourself. He cannot do anything with it, though. I normally ignore them as the temper gets me into trouble now and then. Just keep your eyes open when going out. TATA.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Hello Saphie, I do keep my eyes on people roaming around and my wallet so it would be easy for me which is which to protect. Well, some beggars I think some knowledge on how to use it unless he's a hacker or something.but I wouldn't want them to use my card either since I think it cost a lot replacing them. Have a nice day to you.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
Oh yeah!! i remember again this child who asked for a money from me while i was crossing the street to work. I even asked the kid not to cross the street with me because its dangerous and he was not looking at the street as he cross.. but i said no to him that i do not have anything to give him... i know at his age, he should not be working or asking people money... he should be studying and his parents working and not asking for alms!! well anyway.. so i got angry.. because i did not give him money, this child who is only about 7 or 8... he shouted and said some bad words to me! he cursed me in public!! damn i was soo angry i told the child to scold his parents for putting him through that asking people for money and i have no obligation to give him anything!! hehe i just got angry that just because i did not give him anything, his attitude was over the top!! its unforgivable for me. hmp...
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@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 11
For all you know these beggars are silent millionaires. They are great pretenders. The only tools they use to dupe people into believing how pathetic they are is their shabby and haggard dressing to con unsuspecting public. At the end of the day they will be laughing their way to the bank to deposit their no sweat money. We should never give to beggars who approach us as they are only a bunch of lazy people whose actions are no better than daylight robberies.
@anna18 (142)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
very true. I could remember back then, there were a group of beggars who came to our store everyday if not almost every week. They will bring a good number of coins to buy household merchandise. I didn't recognize them as beggars at first, I just wonder why suddenly it was so smelly then.. I told myself.. I took a bath today, the environment wasn't that humid but it really smells bad. after the group of beggars left, the smell was gone.. then I learned that they were beggars. they spent the whole day asking for money and at the end of the day.. they would buy stuff.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
For them begging is the only way to make money out of nothing and it is all tax free at the expense of those who have to work hard to make a living besides paying high income tax to the government. These beggars don't bother anymore about basic human cleanliness as they have to look messy to gain public sympathy.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Zandi458, I am not sure if some even know how to make a deposite of that in a bank, but I do know most of them are merely part of a huge syndicate. Unfortunately, even if my country (Philippines) would be a develop country, there would still be beggars. But I guess it's a lot bad because either some are aggressive or part of a syndicate. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
hello there! Here in my place, beggars have become high end beggars. They tend to produce envelopes and make use of church names and other organizations just to ask for money for their personnal advantage. I think they are so pathetic for doing that. I hate people who does like that, instead of asking for money why not work? I just can't help but scold them sometimes. I feel pity for those people who comes from the farm and generates small income yet they still give, mainly because they don't know that it is a scam. How i wish police officers will take them, and imprison those kind of people.
@anna18 (142)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
In the country that I'm in, police do get a little percentage that it why they are never caught. There are bigger groups that would borrow children and make this children look so dirty so that people will give money. At the end of the day, they would remit such money to the syndicate that they are in. worst scenario is that they have a quota as to how much they have to collect.. too bad yet so true.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 11
i feel awkward too when i see a healthy, strong and young person being a beggar. they have still more energy to do something or work. they can offer me to clean my house or something if they don't have any skill. there i can appreciate them to give some of my money
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Ifa225, I can't speak for them but I think this is just part of life with these people. But in this country, opportunity is indeed scarce. With regards to your suggestion, I think that is even more dangerous because it would certainly their move to rob you and you're properties. Though they can work in the construction but only in LABOR. You can't just trust a beggar to do houese work since she might do more. Have a nice day.
• United States
4 Mar 11
We all have to be careful because sometimes the beggars are not actually beggars. There was this one time that I was sitting in my car and a man tapped on my window. He appeared really dirty and he was asking for money. I spoke to him with my window up and he kept signaling me to open my window. I could hear him asking for money and I said I did not have any to give him. He began to pound on my glass for me to open it and I yelled that he needed to go away or I was going to drive off. He pounded harder and I kept saying to stop and as I started to drive off he began to kick at my car. I wonder if he thought that by scaring me he would get me to give him money. Who knows what his intentions were but I am thinking that if you ask and someone like replies nicely back that they do not have any then why get so aggressive.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Hardworkinggurl, I don't think he's qualified to be a beggar, maybe he's an addict for some reason and the he pretended to be a beggar. Too bad I don't think that's the ATTITUDE to be a beggar at all, it's a good thing you were able to get out of the situation. I would have hit him for sure if I was that person. Be careful and have a nice day.
• Singapore
3 Mar 11
Well I must admit, some beggers are annoying. But I do give money to some of them, the ones that I think is pitiful enough. Usually the beggars sitting at the side of the road near the traffic light without both legs, I gave them some small change when the traffic light was red. Some kids were really pitiful though, there was once, it was raining and i was inside my car, and those kids just wrap the newspaper they sell in a plastic and try to sell people inside the car some newspaper when the traffic light was red. And when the light turned green and cars started moving, they wrap the newspaper in the plastic again and hide under the tree. It really pained me to know that such young kids were so pitiful I just gave them money. But some annoying ones were the liar type ones. It happened to me once. One day I was in my car when the traffic light was red, I saw a couple of husband and wife, where the wife was blind and the husband held her hand walking around cars begging for money. Then the next day I drove around the same road, it was to surprise that, suddenly the husband was the blind one and the wife was the one who held his hand and walked around cars begging for money. It angered me, it's like they're taking people's kindness for granted.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello sameves, Well, I do gave to some of them when I am in the mood but if they have attitude then they can just forget about it.I remember it was raining here too and we were inside a Public Utility Jeep when a wet kids started singing and wiping our feet, which was annoying because I was using sandals.have a nice day..
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
hello LK, I don't give money to beggars. We are supporting few orphanages ,so,i am giving my donations there. I just ignore those people (beggar). What makes me mad sometimes are those ones holding babies ,and looking those baby that looks pale,too thin and almost not breathing ,i want to strangle the person who is holding the baby. Hold me,or i can kill someone
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Jaiho, That's good to know my friend, it's better to support orphanage rather than giving people on the streets. I know some kids are already on DSWD but some kept going out in order to being a beggar. As for some students whom of my mom's use to be a beggar when they are not in school so that they can earn something. Have a nice day to you.
@toniganzon (42734)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
I hate it when street children would tug my shirt while walking on the street begging for money. Sometimes i would give because i am so annoyed at that! Even though i know i shouldn't but i can't just shoo them away. One time i was driving my car and traffic stopped. I forgot to lock my door and then one kid suddenly opened it and begged me for money, i pulled my door closed but he was pulling it open too. That was really scary actually.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Toni, You should have kicked that KID! That is so unfair, and so selfish of that creep. If they can do that I suggest you locked the door when ever there's a chance some one could really do that. I can't believe they would have guts to open the door if by chance they want money at all cost. Well, be careful out there have a nice day.
• Bangalore, India
3 Mar 11
that is right there are a lot of things to be noted for the easy life and there are a lot of place that money should not be forced..that is all..
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Vishnumuthu, Well, I also know that they don't have an easy life but they shouldn't treat people that way knowing that they are earning really hard on that money from their work and just to give it away to people who just part of the syndicate nor some person who wants to satisfy their hunger on a day. I think there are home shelters that they should go to. Have a nice day.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
a little annoying every time you have seen such people in the street. may be in first time I can give alms to them but everyday in the same steet with the same people it is another story... see you around
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Hello Visavis, There was this story about a man who gave a money for the fare of this old lady because he thought she was asking alms for her to go home. But after a few weeks he went there again, she still saw that lady. Of course, she alibied, and proved that she lied from the start. As of that, I realized that not all of them are telling the truth. Have a nice day.
@zralte (4186)
• India
3 Mar 11
For my part, I don't mind giving as long as I can see clearly that they cannot do a job to make a living, like old person or physically handicapped. It is also my policy to never give money to child beggars. In India, it is all common to see someone begging using religious things as excuse. I hated that. There are transexual people who goes around begging. They can be very aggressive. One time, they tried to force their way into my house and my factory. Apparently people are scared of them because of the belief that they can do black magic. What a load of bullocks...
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Hello Zralte, I think they have no manners to begin with, pity shouldn't be an excuse though we should help the poor, they (poor) are using it as an advantage to gain more from us. Sometimes, we can blame it on poor family planning and corruption in the government, but some poor had done smart to gain their way into education and not these group of people.
• Calgary, Alberta
3 Mar 11
You know a lot of them were controlled by corrupted syndicates. if give them food instead. I think helping charities makes more sense because you know your money is in good hands, I dont want syndicates abnd mafias to be rich. I symphatize to those people but I know directly giving them money wont help
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
Hello Captain-Albert, That is so true and we are not helping them, actually we are helping the crooks.You're right maybe we should just give them food instead. I have done this before when ever I see people at night sleeping at the side walks, so they would leave in the morning with some food. Of course, my mom doesnt know or I would have been scolded.
@mythociate (14172)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
22 Apr 11
I would have wished him luck, and then pretended he had left
@SIMPLYD (75759)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Me, i choose the beggars i have to give alms to. If they are strong enough to work, then i don't give them. As to those street children, i definitely don't give them because if you give to one , the others will follow and pester you to give them also. Better not give at all. However, if i have a biscuit or any handy food with me, i will give to a beggar i perceived to be really so needy and hungry.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hey LetranKnight25! It's funny that you mentioned how beggars are becoming more aggressive lately. I for one have also experienced this, especially in Faura where the beggars are flourishing and continuously reproducing. Anyway, beggars are not only becoming aggressive but are also becoming choosy. There was a time when I ate at chowking, and there was a beggar that was pointing outside at something, maybe water or softdrinks. So when a man who just ate in chowking gave her halo-halo, she refused it. JUST LIKE THAT. Imagine a beggar like this and it would really make you laugh at the irony of it.
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hey LetranKnight25! It's funny that you mentioned how beggars are becoming more aggressive lately. I for one have also experienced this, especially in Faura where the beggars are flourishing and continuously reproducing. Anyway, beggars are not only becoming aggressive but are also becoming choosy. There was a time when I ate at chowking, and there was a beggar that was pointing outside at something, maybe water or softdrinks. So when a man who just ate in chowking gave her halo-halo, she refused it. JUST LIKE THAT. Imagine a beggar like this and it would really make you laugh at the irony of it.
@hvedra (1623)
16 Mar 11
I don't give money to beggars either because you don't know if they are for real or just scamming. I will buy "The Big Issue" which is a weekly newspaper that homeless people sell. That's different because they are working and the Big Issue will help them with getting into shelters and back onto their feet.
@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
7 Mar 11
i usually do not give money to beggars easily. not because i don't want to but most of the time i don't have something to give away. i am as poor as they are though i am luckier than them as i have more decent job. besides, more beggars nowadays turned to be business. and if i give away money to beggars, i make sure they deserve it.
@andy77e (5170)
• United States
6 Mar 11
And here I thought beggars in the US were bad. That's ridiculous.