Finally, We're over!
By daiweian06
@daiweian06 (1405)
March 6, 2011 2:18am CST
It's been 2 weeks the last time we see each other and have a good relationship and treatment with each other. After a day he decided to make a cool off with me. We really don't talk to each other but since I was so shocked I always wanted to talk to him and do the first move. because I wanted to know how it happens?
After a week I decided to visit him just to saw him. And we talked and both cries. That's the only day that we really talked serious about our relationship. That I think would help us but it's not.
After a week its our 23rd monthsary. But I can't believe that this day will be the last day of our relationship. Instead of making things up to me and talk about what's happening to us He decided to attend in our Alumni Homecoming with some of his friends (our College classmates).
I texted Him again and ask if what is the real score and finally He said " I don't love you that much, and I need time to heal the wound, Sorry".
At that point I cries a lot and think that its all over. Its already the end of our story. I don't want to see him anymore. It really hurts because I spent so much time with him. Do my works with him and we really had fun together.
Do you think whats the reason that he suddenly decided to turn me down after 22 months? It is really about his career, he has new someone, tired of us? We really don't fight before this happened.
Thanks..=)
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18 responses
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
There are so many reason there, but you do not have to find them out anymore. It could be another girl. It could be another boy. It could be he is looking for some excitement, etc. The possibilities are endless. However, the point of the matter is, he is gone. This is the time for you to reassess about your own personality and change for the better in any thing you see that needs improving. Other than that, and if you can do that, then it is his loss, not yours. So, cheers and be happy....
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@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
This is what I don't want to happen but it does. While he is sleeping Im thinking what if one day were over. I don't think if I do really attract it but all happened. Now, finally he is gone and were over.
I am now trying to find myself again. To do what I want to do. And to have a good time with friends and have much money to fulfill myself.
Your right! I must improve myself in all ways. And don't stop to seek some time that makes me feel good and happy. I have to move on and do my best to be more closed to my family and friends.
Good day!
God bless!
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 11
Well, it is hard for us outsiders to determine what was the reason that your boyfriend ended the relationship without knowing all the facts. There can be many reasons and only you know the truth. It may be because of someone else, it may be because of boredom, it may be because just like he said he did not love you enough and want to be independence so he can start loving someone he really loves. I know it hurts to know the truth, but I always say than knowing the truth is the best thing for you to let go and move on.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 11
Yes time is the best healer in the world. Just as I wrote in the other discussion that we cannot erase the feeling of love. We can only change it into a love between human being or time will dull it. Everyone will feel tired and weak after a relationship is over, so you are not alone. Everyone feels it at one time in their life.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
I really don't know what is the truth and the best answer of all. May be it just happen like fallen out of love. But behind it there must be a reason. Whatever it is I don't think I will accept it since it all about his feelings and not mine.
I started to make myself happy. I am now free and I can do now whatever I want. Even if all of this happen I realized many things. Ive learn much more lessons.
People around me shows their love and concern especially my family. Im just so lucky that I still have them on my side. Planning to pursue the things that I really want in life.
Good day!
God bless!
@daiweian06 (1405)
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11 Mar 11
Sometimes Im strong enough but still there comes a time that I feel weak and tired. I do my best to have a perfect and good relationship then he just realized that he don't love me and were over. So what I can do is just to accept his offer.
I am now trying to be strong. Stronger than before. And I wont forget everything but I know the pain will heal by itself.
Soon there's is a good answer. I will just wait for the right time. Whatever it takes Im good.
Good day!
God bless!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Mar 11
This is something that hurts to say, but I do think that there are times that people realize that the way that things are going is not the way that they want them to go in their lives. I know that when I was younger I had been in a relationship with a guy for 13 months and then suddenly one day he called me just before I was going to go down to his house and let me know that we were done and I didn't need to come down there. It hurt and it hurt me for a long time, but it was something that I was eventually able to get over.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
It feels so hurt and feel bad to be dump. I don't think what is the real meaning why this all happening. All I know now that were over. I can't imagine that he can do this to me because ever since he keep on telling me not leave him alone. That he will fight for our love. But when is He now??!
He is not deserving on the love I gave to him. I tried my best to keep our relationship going stronger and better and almost trying to be perfect but he really don't appreciate it. And now He must suffer all the consequences he made.
Good day!
God bless!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Mar 11
I think it takes two people to make a relationship work. If one does not want to work at it anymore, then I'd think that there was something lacking in the relationship.
The only sad part about this is that it took you both 22 months to realize that it isn't going to work.
But like some people here said, you're still young. 22 months is not even two years. In the grand scheme of things, this was just a blink.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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11 Mar 11
The relationship must be bounded by love and actions. It will work if the two of us are both working with the same thought and feelings. We are good as I think it is. Our relationship is smooth and we are taking good care of it.
And in just 1 day he feels like he want space and time for himself. I cries so much. And even if were over for 6 days it feels like someone my heart and dump it into the garbage.
Good day!
God bless!
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
I don't want to think that he has found someone better or maybe he already gets tired of the relationship and maybe he is correct when he said he hadn't love you as much. But what can we do, he had made a decision already, you just have to let go. Just take your time, you will be able to forget him. He is not worthy of your love. God has other plans for you and I hope that when you found the next one he will be the right one for you. Cheers!
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
Cheers!
In every situation there's a positive and negative that will come up. Whatever it is you just have to handle all those things and never give up. If this would be a test, challenge why he gave up very quick.
What I want right now is to enjoy my life. Even I missed him so much and I don'twant him to go but I need to let him go.
It is not easy to find someone. For now I will just enjoy the time that we are not together. We never know what gonna happen in the future.
Good day!
God bless!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Hi daiweian
I am really sorry you are sadden. Sometimes relationship outgrow one another. Time will be the best healer and or another interest. It will take time for your heart to heal and mend. I do hope that you continue to keep yourself busy and with time you will recover.
It is hard to say why, because it could be several reasons and one could be no longer interested. But know that you are young and have a full life ahead of you. Best of luck and I wish you well.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
I am now working on it. Planning to do something better for me and for family as well. trying to be good and to be fine but its really hurt. The pain still in here on my heart and can't stop thinking about it. I'm just so happy now that my family is with me. They showed their love and support. Even my friends they approached me like they feel the pain.
As time goes by I know that it would heal as what it gonna be. I will just wait for my better future. And keep myself feel happy.
Good day!
God bless!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
hello,
Love will lead him back to you if you really are meant for each other.
Don't be sad and do not show that you most affected.
You are still young,you must be thankful that after short time 22 months,you've known him.
What if you've married him and after few months he left you saying the same words he told you just now? wouldn't it much worst?
So...smile gurl...he doesn't deserve your love.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
I don't think after all those things it is really a good choice to let him back. But my heart sounds like its all fine but to let him back again. That's what I am doing now to show and try to feel good again.
Just like what my sister always telling me that it enough. And now I finally know him better. 22 months is a good time to know him before you get married but luckily it will never happen. Because of all things that happened.
Yeah, your good. If he did it to me. Of course, he still can do the same thing. Before I thought he was the best I've ever known but now he is the worst.
Love will fade away. And I am working it out now. Trying to accept all those things. And letting him go. He is really not deserving!
Good day!
God bless!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Love isn't at all a bed of roses. It has its ups and downs.
I guess, in your case , he has what we call a period where his love is already waning. Only the both of you could find a solution to it and what could really be the problem.
Give him his freedom. If he comes back, then you're really meant for each other.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
I hope so. If ever he decided to come back I don't even know if I will accept him after all those things had happen. I don't even recognize that his love are already waning because we see each other everyday and I don't feel any space or difference on him. Except this on day when he decided to cool off and after 2 weeks we broke up.
I think now he is finally decided on what he did. And what I must do now is not just to wait and be crazy about him but to live alone and find myself again. Even if he is not around I'm so lucky and finally people express their support and love on me.
Good day!
God bless!
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
6 Mar 11
I know it hurts, I have been through a long 17 year marriage and it broke up. My wife left and took the kids. Believe me it hurts. You are young and vibrant, do not give up on love, there are many guys out there that would appreciate a beautiful and sensitive girl like you. Keep your head high and don't look back, good things happen to good people. Cheer up. The sun will shine again, everyone that goes through this has to go through a grieving period, this will pass and you will feel brand new.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
17 years of marriage and didn't work out? Very sad situation. You have kids and you don't need to do that. Here in our country they don't allowed annulment and other legal separations.
Yeah, I must sink that on my mind. To keep on moving on and b=never look back. He did lots of things just to make me anger or what. May be he really feels nothing on me so he don't know about it.
Were now over. I must work it out also and remind to my self to stop crying because like other says he don't deserve my tears.
Good day!
God bless!
@Liliac26 (557)
• Romania
6 Mar 11
This isn't a nice way to break up with somebody, through a text message. Your ex doesn't sound like a considerate person to me. Of course, I don't know him, but it seems to me you're better off without him. These things hurt very much, I know that, but I'm sure you'll soon be able to find someone more deserving of you.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
I do know him before we get started. What I loved about him most is that he is so kind and thoughtful. But all of this changed when he decided to cool off and now to really stop our commitment. It feels like I don't know him now. He is not a man what I have known for many months.
He want to fixed things up formally in person but I can't. I don't want him to see me crying and asking him to give us some chance. Since I swallowed all my pride on the last few days of our relationship. I think it's really over. Nothing to talk about in person.
It really hurts and still on a process on accepting all those things since its all just happen in 2 weeks time.
Good day!
God bless!
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
6 Mar 11
Daiweian, really, as much as it hurts you, you know that whatever the reason he has to leave you won't matter. It won't be a right reason for you no matter what. Two years is a long time to you now, but with age, maybe what turns out might be for the better. A more deserving man might appear to you in future. Don't try to understand MAN, just as MAN cannot fully understand WOMEN. Treasure the good times and look back when you are older and smile although there may be tears only now.
Take care. As I always quoted in here "Life in the short run is a misery, in the long run a comedy." I am not making fun of you, I have been through the road before when I was young. The girl told me after a four year relationship that she nows sees me more like a brother. So I know it hurts, but your hurt may be more for you since it is NOW and YOURS. Trust me, time will heal even if you won't forget.
Take care.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
Yeah, All of his reasons, excuses and alibi are not just enough for me to believe that its all a good ground to be in this situation. I still have lots of questions but like what they say It doesn't matter and it will not be a good reason for me since I still do love him. And he feels nothing at all. Its hard to hold on when nothings to hold on to.
2 years of love and commitment is really hard to accept and let go. But I have no choice but to accept all of this. I want him back and be whole again but its over.
I don't even know if I still want to loved somebody in the future but not closing my door on it. Life must go on. I just need to move on.
Good day!
God bless!
@cryingjoker (47)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
Maybe he got used to with your relationship.He find it too boring and he wanted something more interesting,something different. Accept the fact that he doesn't love you at all besides you're still young to meet new guy. Maybe you both are not compatible and the "fun" you shared for 22 months is not that memorable as it is easy for him to move on. I think the relationship you had is a one-sided wherein it is "only you" who enjoyed much while he was just pretending to be. I suggest that instead of making yourself miserable, you better stand, chin up,wear your sweetest smile and act like nothing happened..in short, MOVE ON...I know it is hurting that you lost the one you love but it is more hurting when you stay in the position of being left upon. You have friends and family who will never forsake you and you better stay strong for it is only you who can help yourself. Its time for you to close the chapter and begin a new one.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
May be your right. In this few months before we broke up is like he don't enjoyed everything just like what I feel. He don't feel the same as much as I feel. He leave so much pain on me. Plus the posts on his Facebook accounts. He said that the only thing left but not our love and commitment and thoughts. He wants me to find someone who is much deserving than him. It means that he feels nothing at all.
I have no choice but to move on. Find myself again. To keep myself busy and finally trying to accept all of this since it just happened in few days, and few weeks for cool off. Still very fresh and I still on a stage of hurting much.
Good day!
God bless!
@xien2xien (1382)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
there are many reasons why lovers broke up.
-maybe she find another girl that he thing he loves much more than you
-maybe he just lost affection or love with you
-maybe he is just busy with his career and can't deal with you and his work together
-maybe he just can't find enough time to spent with you anymore
-maybe he doesn't feel your love and passion like the way u used to before
-maybe you did something he really hated
and a lot lot more reason. but we all don't know what exactly it is. what matters most is that you have to look for a brighter tomorrow set him free if that's what he want always remember it's not your lost, but it is his lost. damn those guys who just dump a girl with no enough reasons.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
Some of my friends says that "boys would always be boys". He gave me so much reasons on why he want us to live apart. But all of it is not enough for me. I f he really loves me no matter what all negative or those reason will be but he will never leave me but he did.
What I really hate about him now is that he knows that it will be painful for me but he really don't care. He just leave me behind.
I never expect that he can do this to me.
Good day!
God bless!
@CharlieFenix (46)
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6 Mar 11
Sometimes you just need to accept that a relationship is over and walk away before either of you do something stupid or regrettable. You're still young from what I can gather, so there's no need to rush things. I'm sure there are "plenty more fish in the sea".
@daiweian06 (1405)
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9 Mar 11
Before on the first week when he decided to cool off it feels like Im going to be crazy. Thinking of the best craziest things I must do. But I realized that its not all worth it. Im just making myself stupid if I will do that. And besides he don't anything about me so I will just hurt myself while he is celebrating his life now.
I will just wait for the right time and see what will gonna happen in the future. Its not yet end of the world and I don't feel bad about it because I don't see any reason that I made wrong about our relationship.
Good day!
God bless!
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
Right now its hard for me to let him go. We still have time to fix this but unfortunately he doesn't want it to do. He already giving me a hard time to it. He posted a lot of hurting quotes. He taken me for granted. And pushing me away.
In that matter each other I realized that its time to move on. Even we only broke up last days. I can't even hold on if nothing to hold on to. He wasted me in just a blink of an eye.
So it means that he feels nothing at me. And in the future if we can fix things up he can still do the same. Mixed emotions. I don't know what to do. I am now healing myself and step by step accepting all of this.
Good day!
God bless!
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
i could imagine how difficult it is for you, and for him too. break-up is always hard to get by. it will take some time. for now, pour your heart out to what you have; family, friends, work, pet, and other things that you love doing. travel if you can. do what you miss doing. in this way, you start to build and create a new system in you. i wish you the best.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
I don't even know if its really hurts for him to let me go. Since he is the one who do the first move on having a cool off and the last time I asked him about his feelings He said that "He don't love me just like before". He is tired of loving me.
He made me so much pain. It hurts plus his posts on Facebook about me. On letting me go and want me to find someone else. Much deserving and worth than him. And our ring is the only thing left without any love and commitment and even thoughts.
He's love all fade away. And I don't believe that it will happen. Still realizing and accepting the fact that its all over to us. I must have to accept those things. I have no choice but to move on.
Good day!
God bless!
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
6 Mar 11
You're still young and maybe he doesn't feel the same way he used to. Men may have some other reasons that women can't comprehend when they break up with us and all we need to do is accept it and move on. Besides, there are many more other guys who could be deserving of your love. If he just gave up just like that, it means he is not worth fighting for and he doesn't deserve someone like you. Just cheer up and find some comfort with your friends and family. It's also good to concentrate on your career and in making yourself a better person.
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
Right now Im still on shocked and I don't even know how to get started. I still have lots of questions and not even answered by Him even I constantly asked him fro many times. I can't believe that this will happen.
I do love him with all my heart. Trying to have a perfect relationship with him. We don't even fight much because we are both contented with each other and we both like what we are doing.
But not now a days. I am now trying to find myself busy. I dont want to see him, but I really missed him. I dont want to talk to him but I like to received messages from him. Still figuring out how to move on. I want to have a job to keep myself busy and have my own money to prepare my future alone.
Good day!
God bless!
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
6 Mar 11
No matter what have happened and what will happen,he has told you that he never loved you,then the best choice for you just is leaving him!Just find you another love!Find another love like gold,it never changes a litle.Cheer up,lady!
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Mar 11
Yeah, Since He said that he don't love me just like before it means that all of this things are based on what he want to happen. He wants to let go and be free, away from me. But I can't do those things very quick. I'm still on a stage on shocked. All of this are very fresh it just happen in few days.
I have no choice but to let him go and move on. It's so hard for me to think and believe about those things. But I'm trying my best to move on.
Planning to have a job or to leave the country as what I want before we started. Wish me luck. And I hope that everything will be fine soon.
Good day!
God bless!
