She Finally Said "YES" to Him...

She needs to clear thing between her and her husband first before she ever jumps into another serious relationship. We can not blame her,she has all the rights for her happiness. But there are things that she has to do..legally,in order for her to have freedom and decide what's best for her. Only a lawyer can give her legal advice and can give her better solution on this matter.

Hi sweetie. Love don't ask questions, but we need to think what is good or bad for us. She just have to let go. he cannot have both and cannot hurt both. What was she thinking?

ohh, so right now she is still legally married to her husband. She is in a big trouble now unless her ex husband has already move on and have a new family. As a friend you can talk to her and advise her to end her marriage to his husband so she can legally married again to the man that she seeing right now and to resolve also the conflict. Since she already move on with her life away from her husband and her kid, she should also start doing the right thing in terms of her relationship with her ex hubby and the kid. Just talk to her and advise her, i think she will listen to you cause she is your friend. Goodluck!

Well, all the insights are a bit late at this point if I'm understanding this right. She has already hooked up with this other guy? I think in all fairness that her husband should have been informed of her decision before all the people on facebook and now here on Mylot. I would think that coming back home and connecting with her son would be a top priority. Also, her husband deserves to know so that he too can move on with his life. Is she at least financially supporting her son? My own thinking is so different than this woman's that I really can't relate and I don't want to judge her.

i can only suggest to her to limit her updates about her new found relationship. what i don't want to happen is for them to settle in court with criminal liabilities involved. she should really finish first what she had left for we never know, justice has wheels now.

Even if her old relationship is in the past, the mere fact that it isn't done or tidy'd up, I think she shouldn't be jumping into this new relationship. There may be no feelings anymore, but things like these could certainly haunt her in the future. Maybe she should finalize a divorce first, before moving on.

so you mean the way they both parted, her and first husband was not good? well if she does not want any trouble then she must talk fisrt with the first husband and clear thigns so as to avoid any problems.

wow. its though. girls, woman, we are more in emotion. we need to feel loved, cared, mentally and physically. which is why long distance relationship like hers and her husband is really difficult. she has to go back to her husband and child. if she still love him (the husband), she needs to stay with him. or just meet up with the husband first. discuss bout everything. consider what the husband feel too. even if in the end they cant stay together, atleast its clear after the discussion. then both of them can continue with their life.

Hi eurekafemme, First of all you didnt tell about her relationship with her husband, you did say the love waned with time but did they officially seprate or not. If not then ofcourse what she is doing is totally wrong as she can not be married to one guy and yet have relationship with other guy. So either she take divorce from her husband or leave the second man. As far as i think, i think the girl is materlistic which the new guy has recognised and he is giving her all materialistic things, just to get in to her pants, and dont love her much.

Hi eureka.. As far i have understood the matter... i think she needs some support and perhaps she is gaining all these from that guy. But i am not sure is he concerned about her past life totally. I mean he is married but not divorced. If it is so, and she has no plan to live with her husband again.. then i think there is nothing wrong in this relationship. But she should study the guy before taking some steps so that not to get hurt again. Have a nice day.

hello eurekafemme, Sometimes we think we are in love to someone else because we of the lack of love and happiness to our partner,is she really love this persistent suitor then she need to be legally separated with her husband but consider her child reaction regarding this matter especially if her child is still young. Hope she will come out with a good decision later on that she will not regret at the end. happy mylotting

ya she has married she loves so much becuase lot of factors the love goes to time pass

She should talk to her husband and try to talk about the situation. She should think about her son too. There is a child involved so I guess they need to consider their son's future.

i think she is trying to make him jealous and going back to love her

I just do not know if the marriage when she left is already on the rocks. I am saddened to know that she has fallen into a forbidden love affair of some sorts. I guess if she is happy where she is right now then I guess it is safe to stay there for as long as she knows she is safe there. I also am concerned about what her husband might do in case he knows about this. I think she should as much as she could make amicable settlement with the husband as much as he could.

Hi Eureka! You did not mention how the person called 'she' in the post is connected with you?. I think what is doing is inappropirate and unfair to her husband and son. She apparently landing herself in deep trouble, however, it is difficult for me to guess what 'her' husband thinks about her affair with another guy at a new place. Most probably her husband is not likely to approve her extra maritial affair and the way she got attracted to other guy will make her more unreliable and unfaithful and her husband may leave her one day. It is also possible that the new guy may also ditch her saying that - "if you cannot be loyal and faithful to your husband', one day you may cheat 'me' too" and the new guy may also leave her one day. I believe that if one's character gets a stain then that stain can not be washed away easily. May God her give her some sense of 'right' and 'wrong', this is what could be prayed.

what does barely saw him... means. does the father visits his son, does your friend and her husband has no communications? there are things that needs some clarifications here. my suggestion is your friend needs to make sure what is happening with her husband. if the husband has moved on already and has his own life then its okay for her to start his life as well. but if her husband is still waiting then this is not a good move. if the guys move using the law or filling a case on her then she will have a head ache on this one. specially that she is posting it on her FB account. this is one way of proving things that she has a relationship even she is still married with the father of his son. this is complicated and it gets more complicated if your friend does not plan. sometimes people say i dont care anymore, because they are inlove... but when reality sets in, problems will file up and it gets more complicated. goodluck. i wish all the best for yur friend. but being inlove does not answer everything. she also needs to be sure before falling in love again. goodluck

Hello Eureka, That's a bad move she just made. though, it can be understandable since she is away from her hubby, but having another one there is an absolutely NO NO. unless the hubby was cheating too, i think it's unfair for her to do it. this is one of the disadvantages of people working abroad leaving their spouses behind just to ran out of their feelings and look for another

she may hurt not only herself and her husband but mostly her child, what was she thinking of striving so hard to gain everything she has now but she left her child. can she take the risk of having a rebel child while she gain everything she's been wanted for herself how could she be so selfless and not to think about her child's situation