Resign from Work

@oiixdaii (1059)
Philippines
March 22, 2011 8:51pm CST
I have been thinking of resigning from work for the past few months. The reason why I want to resign from work is because of this girl. We had a relationship before but when things got complicated we separated ways. I know she has moved on because I feel a cold treatment from her. But in my case, I am having a hard time moving on because I always see her during office hours. Every time I see her smile it makes me fall in love with her all over again. I've tried ignoring her a few times but I always fail. I've also tried seeing other girls but my thoughts are always with her. I know resigning from work is a bad move because I know that if I leave my work I wouldn't find a better one. I hope someday I will be able to move on.
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13 responses
@KrauseHome (35026)
• United States
25 Mar 11
Well have you ever tried letting her know you still have feelings for her, and wish you could be with her again? Was there personal reasons you split up, or was it her choice? Maybe it was just a misunderstanding due to working at the same place, and maybe you should let her know you still care about her, and go from there. If she is not interested you need to find a way to move on, and if that means finding another job now might be the time to start applying somewhere else. Just don't let her go if you feel this way unless you have exhausted all options with this as well.
25 Mar 11
Good luck. I do understand how you feel.. It's too much.. You feel like everyday is nothing but sadness and loneliness. Better resign than to feel the pain everyday.. But here is my advice, the reason why you still feel that pain is because there's still hope that she would still love you someday! Leave that hope.. it will bring you nowhere. ACCEPT IT.. that every man and woman has their priorities and wantings.. If she already told you that she doesn't love you anymore, then accept it and forgive her for all the hurtings she had cause you and move on.
@CmesaMTG (21)
• United States
23 Mar 11
I say that you tough it out. Good jobs can be extremely hard to come by, especially if it is a career. I would tell you to try and not to talk to her as much as you use to. I would lay low and go on with my life. I would recommend getting back out there as soon as possible. Worst thing you can do is see her all day knowing that you can not have her and then go home to think about it.
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
23 Mar 11
hi oiixdaii, ONLY resign when you found a BETTER pay job. Secondly, why do you two seperated? Is it mutual seperation? Doesnt look like it. She gave you cold shoulders....(what have you done?) I know some type of women, when they broke up with their bf, they will try to make the man look bad. They will exhibit to their ex, that they're doing better without him. I have a feeling she is trying to seduce you and make u look bad at the same time. U should do the same. Don't be silly to quit! The game has just begin. Pissss: A successful man is very atrractive. Be one!
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Hi Oiixdaii, I'm sorry that you are going through this. This is just why most companies frown on people dating within the company. It can be really awkward if things don't work out. Still, we all went through it in high school and had to face an ex in the hall, in classes and watch them move on before us. I wouldn't advise you to quit your job over a girl. I think you'd regret it. You could keep your eyes open though for a better one though. Hang in there. These things always get easier in time as hard as that is to believe when your dealing with it.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Resigning from work is not the best solution right now because it will cost you more. Just don't complicate things, give time to adapt to the situation. Maybe taking a leave would somehow give you a hiatus.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
You are really in a hard situation. When resigning can give you more space to breathe, but do look at things to consider. Is it worth it? Like what you've said you wouldnt find a better job. It may affect your source of income/living overall. This maybe hard for you but it will pass, just like that girl. If she was able to move on, surely you will be able to let it pass. Just try to make friends w/ her again so things wont be awkward between the two of you.
• China
23 Mar 11
if you resigh how do you sure you can't find a more job ?be confidence,give yourself a reason to stay or not.if you love that girl why you don'ttell her what's your opinion ?then you can think about whether you can develop or not .you are sensible person. to do a sensible decision ,judge wisely
@vannyt (344)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Maybe you should talk to her, although I know you are not in favor of this idea. At least settle things that were left hanging when you got separated. Maybe this would clear things up and maybe would help you move on too. Don't quit your job unless you have a better one, that would just add to the problem you currently have.
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
logic would tell you that resigning from work (just to avoid your ex-gf) without a replacement job would give you an even harder time because frankly, not only will you continue to have relationship/love issues but you may experience financial issues as well. i know how hard it is when you see your ex everyday because you are reminded of love lost and the present pain and things you can no longer have with her. just think about it... what would you achieve from resigning from your work? would you get her back? no. would the hurt go away? no. would it stop you from thinking about her? no. the pain might be less, yes, but it won't go away like you want it to. give it time. perhaps you need another focus in your life so your mind won't be too preoccupied with your ex. a new hobby, a new sport. meet new friends, not just a new girl. clearly, if you think she has moved on already then do the same yourself. it doesn't have to mean that you automatically shut your feelings off, just put it aside. so that newer and better things can happen in your life. sometimes we can't see ourselves with our future when we can't learn to let go of the past. you can't begin a new chapter when you haven't finished with the last. you can't take a step forward when you're always looking back. acceptance. it will make the heavy load weigh much lighter.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
Well I am sorry that you are thinking of giving up your job because of love. I think you are in a difficult situation right now but then I understand if that is affecting your work efficiency there. But if I were you I would be staying there if you know that you cannot find another job better than what you have right now. Or maybe look for a replacement before leaving the company for your own security. I think it is not a good reason that you are leaving a company because of love since we are supposed to be professional there.
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
resigning from work is a sign of giving the thought that maybe someday you can have her again... if you still loved her why not court her again who knows love is sweeter the second time around right :)
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
23 Mar 11
well, it is really one hard ordeal to face. However, you have to face the challenge that life brings to you. Resigning from work just to avoid here won't change the fact that you were hurt. You have to be strong enough to deal with it, and not run away from it. Maybe, seeing her everyday will actually be a painful therapy for you to move in, yes, it will hurt, but in time you, you will realize, you have moved on...do not make such rush decisions in accordance with your emotions.