Easter wont be so bad after all this year I guess
@shaggin (71662)
United States
April 18, 2011 10:54am CST
I was dreading Easter so much because my husband wont be at Easter dinner this year since he died 3 weeks ago. I just couldnt stand the thought of him not being there. We started dating when I was 17 and this will be the first time in 10 years that he wont be at Easter dinner. I have to be in good spirits and make the best of it for my kids sake.
Yesterday when I was on facebook my Aunt invited my family to Easter dinner at their house this year. We havent been to Easter dinner at their house in probably 4 years. I missed getting together with them and really look forward to it this year. It will make it a lot easier to deal with my husbands absense by going somewhere other then just my parents house for dinner like we all usually do.
Also today my father in law dropped in to give me my husbands taxes that I need to give to the people at the medical assistance office. He told my son that hes going to come get him and his sister on Easter morning because thats where the Easter bunny is going to leave their baskets. Hes never gotten them anything for Easter before and has never taken them to his house without me or my husband being there. I think its really nice of him.
So with those two things I think Easter is going to be a lot better then I had expected it to be. It will still be very sad for me to not have the kids father at Easter but all this will help take my mind off things and hopefully the kids will have fun and not miss their dad so much either.
Are you doing the same thing for Easter that you usually do or is there going to be something different that you will be doing this year?
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 Apr 11
We are going to be spending Easter with my mother and my little sister. Typically we are celebrating with my Mom, sister, brother, sister-in-law and nieces, but my brother's family is going to spend Easter with his in-law's family this year so it is going to be quite strange. However, I am excited about the fact that it does mean that we will have the opportunity to spend some one-on-one time with my Mother.
As for you, holidays are going to be the hardest, but keep your chin up and you will be able to make it through.
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
23 Apr 11
So Easter wont be the same for you guys this year either but it wont be terrible either so thats good. Get togethers are better when there is more people but I'm sure you are happy for your brother to get to spend the holiday with his wifes side of the family. A lot of families alternate every other year. Ever year my husband spent Easter with my family as his dad went to his wifes parents house for Easter if I remember correctly.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 11
hi shaggin God love you Iknow how it is to lose your husband and mine die many years back.its hard but it seems like you are starting to heal a bit. I think its kind of your father in law to do that for your children as it must be hard on them too. that first holiday is the w
on our wedding anniversity which was so painful butn now March26 does not hurt anymore. we lost our little daughter on thanksgiving day 1968 and for y ears that was a bittersweet day too.No I have been stuck here in this retirement center as I and my son shared an apt but he lost his job inf2008 Sept. and we got behiind on the r ent,were evicted and as he and I are all thats left of our family I got put here in this tiresolme retirement centere and h e is in hopehaven apts for men trying to get jobs. he shares a two bedroom apt with three other men.he is six miles from me so he comes to see me each week. we are all we have. I dread Easter this year as I remember a few years back when my son and i went out to eat and we had our own rituals. now its just another day sad so sad.
on our wedding anniversity which was so painful butn now March26 does not hurt anymore. we lost our little daughter on thanksgiving day 1968 and for y ears that was a bittersweet day too.No I have been stuck here in this retirement center as I and my son shared an apt but he lost his job inf2008 Sept. and we got behiind on the r ent,were evicted and as he and I are all thats left of our family I got put here in this tiresolme retirement centere and h e is in hopehaven apts for men trying to get jobs. he shares a two bedroom apt with three other men.he is six miles from me so he comes to see me each week. we are all we have. I dread Easter this year as I remember a few years back when my son and i went out to eat and we had our own rituals. now its just another day sad so sad.1 person likes this
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Hi Hatley, I am amaze how you struggle to stand up despite of the problems you're currently facing. I pray that God will bless you and continually meet your needs. I also pray that your son will be able to find a job soon. I understand how hard life is but I believe that God is so gracious and loving and He will never ever neglect us.
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@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
I'm so sorry to hear about you loss. My condolonces to you and your whole family. I hope you'll have a great Easter celebration this coming Sunday.
By the way, I'll be celebrating the Easter with my live-in partner. We'll gonna worship God in the morning and then we'll have Easter dinner afterwards. I'm not good at cooking by I'll try my best to be a good chef this Easter.
@fragilewings (316)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
No, I don't mind at all. We went to church this morning :) It's good to go to church and maybe this is Easter is the right time for you to go to church again to worship God and hear God's word. For the dinner, I cooked one of our favorite food- pork stew. I'm glad because he really liked and enjoyed the food that I cooked for him. :D
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Aww how sweet that although you arent a very good cook that you are going to try to make a nice dinner for your partner. You said that you are going to worship God in the morning? How will you do that if you dont mind me asking? By going to church you mean? I havent been to church in quite a few years. I hope you have a nice Easter.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Apr 11
It is nice to know that easter was not so bad. It's great that people think of you and your family. Although it wouldn't be the same, I hope the kids have had a great time (yesterday). I hope they found their eggs alright, and had some treats as well.
And as for you shaggin, I hope that somewhere down the road, the easter bunny find you too. And that he brings you (adult) treats as well.
@shaggin (71662)
• United States
26 Apr 11
It wasnt the same no but it was nice. My kids went to my husbands fathers house for about 3 hours. He got them each an easter basket of coloring books and cool stuff like that. After they got back we went to my mom and dads house and exchanged Easter candy and stuff. At dinner time we went to my aunt and uncles house. That was the most fun. I cried on the way there when I heard a song on the radio that reminded me of my husband but I did pretty well I think through the day. I knew if I stayed up later after my kids go to bed I would just cry the rest of the night so since I was tired I just went right to bed when I got home as well.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Sorry to hear about your loss, I know it's really hard to bear the thoughts that he won't be with the family anymore, since you are used to having Easter dinner together.At least your father-in-law is helping you to lessen the loneliness of your kids.Just continue your usual work,make yourself busy and visit your Aunt.
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Oh boy I hadent even thought of that... what in the world will I do while my kids are at their grandfathers house without me. I kind of am lost when my kids arent around trying to think of things to do so I dont worry and keep occupied. Maybe I will try to sit and relax and read a book or clean or just do what I usually do in my free time sit at the computer.
@lexirose7350 (459)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
So sorry for the loss and yes for the kids' sake you have to be strong for them. Dealing with the loss is the hardest part but when there are people around supportive of you, then it becomes easier.
Easter will still be with family and going to church together just like the previous Easters:-)
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
18 Apr 11
so sorry for your loss and it is nice that you wont be alone on easter. it i hard when the holiday is there but the loved ones are not.
we will spend most of Good Friday (after church) wit my mom (my dad passed away 2 years ago) and Easter Sunday with hubby's family.
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Thats really nice that you can have two seperate get togethers so you can see both sides of the family. I'm sorry to hear about your father. I'm sure you still feel the loss on holidays with him not being there. I am really glad that we have somewhere different to go this year hopefully it will help the day be a little brighter without him around.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I am glad that you seem to be dealing well and that it seems as though the family knows what you need. It would be hard to celebrate a holiday if you were used to him being there. I know that you mentioned that you two had been seperated, but it sounds like you were still close and that you still tried to be great parents. Have a nice day and remember him but do not grieve for him.
@shaggin (71662)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Even though we had split up we still went to all the parties and holiday things together. I remember someone giving me a hard time about letting him go out with the kids and me for Halloween. She thought I was leading him on and confusing him but I didnt think so at all. We both wanted to see our kids having fun and the only way to do that was to just put up with each other and go together. It wasent easy but I'm happy about the times my kids got to spend with him on these events.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
18 Apr 11
I hope you will have a nice Easter. It sounds like the grandfather is trying to step up because his son is no longer here so he needs to be the father figure. This is a good thing and I hope for the kids sake it will continue.
I personally don't celebrate Easter so it will just be another day to me.
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@shaggin (71662)
• United States
20 Apr 11
My friends family doesnt do anything special for Easter either. I thought that was so strange last year but its ok not everyone has to do that or even believe in it. I will be so happy if my father in law does come pick up the kids and takes him to his house for awhile. I think it will really help to make my childrens day a nice one.
@shaggin (71662)
• United States
20 Apr 11
Hmm I guess it usually rains on easter and this year its not supposed to be that way according to the weather forecast is that what you mean? Here where I live its rained almost every day since April 3 or so. Its no fun being cooped up in the house not being able to take the kids out for walks or to play. Hopefully it will be a gorgeous Easter day but usually I just remember it being bitterly cold on Easter around here.
@zhuxiaoling (45)
• China
19 Apr 11
in some European countries Easter is very busy, but China is but this featival.
@shaggin (71662)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Hmm I'm not totally sure what you mean? China doesnt celebrate easter as a big holiday or do they? I tend to think of most holidays as only being in the United States so when someone from another country celebrates things I think its wonderful.
Things havent been very good between my father in law and I the past few days but he wrote me on facebook and asked when he can pick up my kids tomorrow to spend time with them on Easter and give them their easter baskets. I'm so happy he is going to do this it means so much to me knowing he is doing this now after they have lost their father. It will make the day a little bit better for all of us. I will be sad they wont be home with me the whole day but it will only be for a little while they will be at their grandparents house and if they are happy it will make me happy.
